I have a baby cousin, and all he wants to do is be picked up by his mother... when i try to play with him... he just cries,,, and he is a spoiled brat because he always gets what he wants... he messed up my whole room, and i am very very angry... he never even can last 1 second without his mother without crying his eyes out....and when anyone else besides his mother picks him up he cries too.... please help me... im so angry!!! :(
2006-11-12 02:18:35 · 21 answers · asked by OrenEeshee 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Lol well feel how your aunt must feel shes proably at her wits end too...so tired of listening to him cry she just gives in and gives him what he wants...she needs to just leave him somewhere for a few hours and hell just get over it..hell cry and cry but aft er that hell sit down and play. My aunts child used to do that and finally she just left her with us and did just that...i mean dont leave them over night or anything just like an hour or 2 they still need to call and check in...you cant punish him really for messing up your room...where were you at when he was doing it? you proably shouldnt be letting him go into your room at all. I'm sure its not baby proofed or anything...and if he picks up something you dont want him to just slap (not hard) on the hand and say no no...and hell get the jist of it...goodluck to yall:)
2006-11-12 02:22:15 · answer #1 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am not sure that discipline is the answer to your question. How old are you and why are you so angry? There could be several reasons that the he cries. He may spend all of his time with his mother and does not socialize, therefore he does not know how to interact with other people. Now is the time for his parents to start letting him know what the word "no" means. Children are born with their minds a blank slate and the parents and caregivers are the main ones that fill those blanks in. You have to teach boundaries in the home so that the child will understand boundaries in the real world, otherwise they will get into trouble. Babies are amazing they are like a sponge and learn what they live and are taught. Please remember they do not come with instructions and parents often do not come with answers and rely on what they have learned. He also may be sensing your anger. Talk to his mother and your mother and see what you can do to help.
2006-11-12 02:42:45 · answer #2 · answered by skye62812 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be angry all you want... First think... This a one year old child... It can't talk very well if it talks at all... It can't comprehend much either... It has trouble walking if it walks at all... It's motor skills and thought skills are in the very early development stage... For the most part all it knows is it's Mom and the comfort it gets from her... That's about it... The child is learning... The child just requires to be guided in the right directions until it learns and grows a bit more... So before you get angry next time... Think and remember that you were probably very similar to your cousin when you were it's age... but you can't remember... why? because you were going through the same early development...
2006-11-12 02:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you're feeling a bit jealous huh?
Babys cry because they do not have the ability to say or convey anything to anyone. His bond right now is obviously really strong with his mother, and that is why he cries when you try to take care of him. You can be frustrated but please don't blame the BABY. That is just not right. New babys in families can teach patience, and hopefully you'll learn to be a bit more patient and understanding of him and his needs!
Don't be angry, after all... you were once in his position. Give him love and be loving and caring towards him rather than angry and hateful! Just grin and bear it.. be nice! i'm sure you'll do just great!
2006-11-12 02:25:56 · answer #4 · answered by lady from the other day 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's one year old. Close your bedroom door or lock it if you can, that ends him messing up your room. The other problem is with Mom and you can not do anything about it, only she can start reducing the time she picks up darling. The only way to discipline a one year old is to put him in his crib for a very short period of time - no hitting.
2006-11-12 02:21:52 · answer #5 · answered by kny390 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he cries without his mom because he is going throught seperation anxiety most one year olds do that i know mine does if he is spoiled by his parents you need to teach him that he cannot be spoiled by you. show him how to pick up after himself my son is 16 months and cleans his own room with the exeption of making his bed but he picks up the toys and everything like that instead of disciplining him so much try rewarding him for the good things he does that will lead him to want to do more good things maybe if he cleans up he can get a treat or go outside things like that if he is a big help cleaning the room maybe he can get a small toy next time your at the store good luck and God Bless
2006-11-12 02:26:47 · answer #6 · answered by *Heather* 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave him alone-you don't discipline a 1 year old-he is just a baby and doesn't understand-and as far as wanting his mom all the time-that is totally normal-I am sure you did the same thing at his age-shame on you for getting upset!
2006-11-12 02:23:57 · answer #7 · answered by mama of 2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why these other people are telling you to grow up. How old are you. I going to tell you one thing. Babies are going to get into everything and I do mean everything. Just be happy he's not yours. I mean just think of what your cousin has to go through with clean up cooking bathing and taking care of herself. So clean your room lock your door if you don't want to be around then go over to a friends house. But think how you were when you were one
2006-11-12 05:15:47 · answer #8 · answered by nenehassell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is pretty normal for a one year old and it sounds like you need to find a way to deal with your anger because the baby is going to take time to grow up which is the only solution i see for this however as far as discipline goes all you can do is say no and redirect him to something he may find interesting
2006-11-12 03:04:09 · answer #9 · answered by arianna3at 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right he is truly spoiled by his mother.You should have a talk with his mom because he is not your child and you have no rights in disciplining him. She needs to learn now to start setting boundaries and making them stick because as he grows he will be the boss and direct her instead of the other was around.It's like Dr. Phil says " It's the tail wagging the dog".If she thinks babies can be spoiled because their too young to know better....she needs a check up from the neck up!!!!
2006-11-12 02:37:08 · answer #10 · answered by miss-snoopy 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋