I have been seeing a guy for a 1 1/2 years.He isn't interested in marriage or commitment.He is a very responsible man.I enjoy spending time with him.But,he is always acting so immature.He makes faces and sticks his tongue out.acts out in a retarded sort of fashion.He actually licks me on the face.I have asked him to please not act like this, that it is very un-appealing to me.He continues to act like this.it is such a turn off for me.Is he always going to act like this.
2006-11-12 01:54:29 · 19 answers · asked by Just Me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The bigger truth here is that he doesn't respect your feelings, does he? When you ask him to stop and he doesn't, that's harassment, and after awhile, it becomes like a betrayal too. Tell him you're serious, and that his lack of respect for you is putting a serious kink in your libido towards him.
That might work.
2006-11-12 02:02:01 · answer #1 · answered by Sweetchild Danielle 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If he was like this when you met him. Odd's are this will always be who he is.. People can only do what you allow them to do to you.. Essentially you've accepted his behavior because you are still with him.. Maybe you need to make the decison of whether you want continue to accept his behavior.. Guys are more upfront than women give them credit for. He has already let on that he's not interested in marriage.. Discuss this with him. Decide if you alright with continuing a long term relationship without the idea of marraige in the future.. Tell him you want marriage or its over. But, you have to figure out if he's whole heartidly marrying you. YOu don't want a marriage to start out with issues. If he marries just to keep you, that can be painful to the relationship
2016-05-22 06:59:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is often said that most men are little boys that have to act grown up, and do not grow up until they reach fifty.
He pretty much sounds like a free spirit who is a take me or leave me sort of individual, which may be positive or negative based upon what you are looking for.
If your getting what you consider as outlandish behavior from him than he is not what you are looking for and you should move on to find someone who is your emotional and intellectual type of man.
People often stay in bad relationships because it takes too much effort to really find a person that reflects the qualities we would like, and also too much emotional turmoil to end them.
If you like yourself and regard a relationship as something to share and grow with the right person than adios to this one.
2006-11-12 02:11:23 · answer #3 · answered by John E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he's gonna change. If it bugs you that much you should move on. They say those little things you love at the beginning of a relationship are the things that will drive you crazy in the end. lol.
Also by the sounds of it you want to get married and have commitment from him which he's not willing to give. So I say jog on.
Sky.
2006-11-12 02:11:28 · answer #4 · answered by Sky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no hope...your stuck with his immaturity. I have a 43 year old that's the same. Instead of having 2 kids, I have 3. :( As long as he's a good guy and mature when he has to be and he doesn't do this in public then I don't find anything bad about it.
2006-11-12 01:59:59 · answer #5 · answered by dd 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do not choose to be with a man thinking that you can change him.
If this is not the relationship that you want, leave and go find what you do want.
A 42 year old child is what you currently are entertaining.
If you want an adult, go find one.
2006-11-12 02:07:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he thinks it looks cute, despite the fact that u've told him not to do that. tell him again, and try to look serious, cuz he might think you're kidding, or maybe that's just the way he is...my mom is 53 and she acts like a 10 year old most of the time.
2006-11-12 02:00:55 · answer #7 · answered by that one girl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
At his age I don't think his maturity level is going to change. Talking to him doesn't change say your good bye's and find a man that respects you and your wishes.
2006-11-14 07:36:36 · answer #8 · answered by RANDALL 5 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably does this because he knows that it annoys you. If he keeps doing this then it is very inappropriate. If he is 42 and doing stupid things and you are questioning it, then maybe you should be rethinking your relationship. You can always find the door can't you???
2006-11-12 01:58:57 · answer #9 · answered by winona e 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Either he is being himself or acting up because he is scared to get out of the relationship, and wants you to leave. Either way, it is your choice. Do you want to get licked like that 5 years down the road?
2006-11-12 01:58:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋