My russian/jewish boyfriend of 5 yrs recently broke up with me saying "I know I love you, I would propose to you today! I just am confused. My parents will never accept it, I have a history..." I obviously know him (5 years) and I know his parents would be angry, But I know they would get over it. He also is not very religious at all. He has been in a temple a total of like 3 times. He eats pork.. ON PASSOVER... But he says "its more about history and tradition and I feel like im responsible for keeping the jewish lineage"... And then on other hand says "im just not sure. Im confused" So hes bsically not saying he is completely set in his idea that we cant be together.... Anyways.. How can I make it work? I could convert.. But that isnt even the issue, its more history! How do i make it work?
2006-11-12 01:50:40 · 9 answers · asked by leebee1234567 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Find a new boyfriend.
Relationships are complicated enough; add on different religions, and relationships become impossible...
Having a relationship with someone of your own faith will prove to be a bit less complicated.
2006-11-12 04:52:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with gratvol. It's obviously not about *you* making it work but about *him* deciding to make it work (which he is apparently not doing right now). My Russian/Jewish husband and I are together despite the differences, troubles, hard times, etc. If your bf allows "angry parents" to separate you, then you don't want him anyway. My husband loves me body and soul and would take a bullet for me in a heartbeat. Don't settle for less than you deserve!
2006-11-15 17:09:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was raised as a Baptist but my husband was raised as a Jahova Witness. We have just celebrated our 27 year wedding anniversary. Sure, when we first got together his parents were very upset and tried to keep us apart, but they learned to accept it. I did not convert to his and he never converted to mine. Love conquers all. So you both should decide if you really love each other enough to withstand the family religion difference.
2006-11-12 02:03:02 · answer #3 · answered by desperate77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
simply you dont.
this is not something that is up to you. It is for him to decide what is important. If he feels his Jewish tradition is more important than your relationship then that's dection in life.
If he feels that you are more important then he will marry you.
you have to let him decide and live with his decision.
2006-11-12 02:05:31 · answer #4 · answered by Gamla Joe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two can respect youl free choice in religion,if you are sincere, but you must think for your children too,what will happen with them?
2006-11-12 02:33:09 · answer #5 · answered by mirna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what can i tell you is.... LOVE DON'T RECOGNIZE RELIGION, HISTORY, AND TRADITIONAL,... LOVE CAME FROM HEART... so if after certain period then you think about religion.. history and tradition, where was your/his mind when you both first met?
2006-11-12 02:03:25 · answer #6 · answered by jonny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would encourage him to seek out rabbi Jesus for guidance. Then he could really appreciate his rich heritage and share it with you without guilt.
2006-11-12 01:59:57 · answer #7 · answered by ScottyJae 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
RELIGION SHOULD BE THE CAUSE OF UNITY AND FRIENDSHIP BETWEEN PEOPLE. IF IT IS NOT, IT IS BETTER NOT TO HAVE ANY RELIGION.
WE MUST REALIZE THAT GOD IS ONE, RELIGIONS ARE ONE AND THAT MANKIND IS ONE.
2006-11-12 02:11:13 · answer #8 · answered by apicole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOVE one another.
2006-11-12 02:01:51 · answer #9 · answered by K 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋