i recently enrolled in an international sch and there are a lot of american guys around. i'm chinese(from hong kong) and i find tt they are a lot of vocal, open, friendly and maybe laid-back than asian guys..and recently there are a few no. of guys who seem to be trying to get my attention....some in a group w friends...some alone. and i dont really know how to react...i just try to be friendly and everyth but i'm not sure if they are trying to be friendly or they have an interest in me? how can u tell? cos for chinese guys, the only time they pay attention to you is when they like you. and recently this friendly guy i was hanging out w told me he liked me but i dont like him back!! so now i'm like paranoid and everyth i dont know how to react when white guys get friendly with me. are they hitting on me? or what? i cant tell!!! help!!!
2006-11-12 01:37:05 · 4 answers · asked by curiousnewbie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
seriously? they only want sex? gosh. some of my chinese guy friends told me tt too but i thought they were just jealous cos a few of them likes me too. sobs. :( and i thought white guys only like white girls cos white girls have bigger boobs. and mine are kind of smaller.
2006-11-12 01:42:06 · update #1
yeah...i find my american friends majorly nice!!! not to generalize but based on my own experience, when i was in secondary sch(local) the guys kind of creeped me out and those tt didnt know you will just stare at you and when they try to get to know you its quite scary. esp if they had not approached u before and suddenly there're like creepy 'be my girlfriend' msgs in your hp.
2006-11-12 01:59:39 · update #2
um... firstly, some guys are just friendly by nature.
secondly, something like 99% of asian people are hot so...
:-P
at any rate yea some of them may be hitting on you, but that's not a bad thing, have fun with them, just don't hurt them, 'cause that's not nice.
at any rate, most guys are rather nice, and don't care where you're from, and well... so... stop being paranoid... you'll get used to that after a while. american society is more open to women than most asian socitety and so, guys will notice you, pay attention to you, and treat you like an equal, precicely because you are, not because they're hitting on you. and don't be afraid to aproach guys, most people don't care about that kind of thing either.
also, you can't define american society with blanket terms, as so many, including myself, have attempted to do. american society is based on individualism, so the same beleifs and ideas which are held by one person, odds are, won't be held by the next.
and lastly, well, just have fun, and yes it'll be a bit scary at first, but once you get past that it'll all be downhill from there.
if I were you, I'd try to find somebody who is singularly nice, and well, have them help you adjust...
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yup... some guys are creepy too, and some are awfully shy, and have trouble approaching girls... oy... it's so hard to get past that initial fear of doing that...
the first time I ever tried to aproach a girl... ok it's kind of funny, but she ran away, litterally, in a very humorous way, it was during a school dance, and she ran away and hid in the bathroom... I've got no idea why, but she did... at any rate, I've gotten a whole lot better than at talking with girls, in the last few years...
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oh and being white, no we don't all just like "white" people. and no we don't always categorize by boob size.
I really wish I knew this quote but i don't so I'll paraphrase it, but the gist of it was
"there will come a time when one can judge a man not by the color of his skin but by the content of his character." which, of course, would be Dr. King
the only girl I've ever dated was south asian... so saying that we only like white people is a major generalization, as is the big boobs thing... personally, I don't give a damn about breast size, just don't try to change it. lol... it always looks so silly...
remember your breast size is generally proportionate to your body size, so don't futz with it...
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also on your other question: as with anything about sex, it'll depend on the guy.
I can't exactly claim knowledge here... but...
I have to say, I find the concept of this stimulating, and therefore enjoyable, so um, yes I'd do that, also, telling guys what you want tends to help. a lot. with pretty much everything, you see, we tend to be totally awful at picking up cues ( I know I am)
and um so ya...
2006-11-12 01:53:14 · answer #1 · answered by The greatest and the best. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some might want to have sex, but not all. Not all American guys are like that, and not all "white" guys like just "white" girls. As for your question, I would say that you need to get to know these guys more before you make any more assumptions. Some could just be the flirty type, or it may just be nothing at all (meaning they might just be being open, which you think is flirty). Get to know some of these guys first without putting them down first. And, by the way, if a guy likes someone just for her skin color and/or boobs, he's not worth it to begin with. I would say just get to know a few of these guys and see what happens. Worry about who YOU want to like, not if they like you. Then you can focus on an individual. I hope this helped.
2006-11-12 01:48:24 · answer #2 · answered by italia_azure 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why don't u try n make friends wit white guys so u can get 2 them better. there is no way u r going 2 know how 2 act around them if u don't spend time wit them. I know it can be hard at times but u try yr best.
2006-11-12 01:50:31 · answer #3 · answered by sasha 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They are friendly because they want sex.
2006-11-12 01:38:40 · answer #4 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋