Is this adultery?

Question

if I often think about having sex with my engaged one... we never do it-- we're saving it for marriage. It doesn't feel wrong when I think about it, but I just wondered if it was adulterous. Please be practical if you are going to use theology. Thanks.

Answer 1

Jesus said that to look after a woman to lust you've already committed adultery with her in your heart. The point of this is that Christ is more interested in what we are rather than what we do. In other words, if its wrong to do a particular thing, it is wrong to fantasize about doing it, because whatever is in a person's heart is what will flow out of him or her and defines him or her. The practical side of this is, God knows how strong sexual desires are. They have th power to drown out everything else. They can reach a fever pitch almost instantly. However, they are the weakest of all the qualities in a relationship to hold it together through the trials of life and ultimately, old age, sickness, and death. That's why you need to cool the flame of sexual energy to allow the foundation to form that will carry you two together for life; love him for the person he is, the friend that he is. Let sex (after marriage) spring from a beautiful union that has already grown and matured and as a special bonus. God came up with the idea of sex, but He hates to see a great thing spoiled. That's why He has rules for things; not to kill our fun, but for our good. If sex is the foundation it will wither away. Lastly, give your heart to Christ (if you haven't already) and call out His name for help when this becomes impossible because you can't do this in your own strength.

Answer 2

No, that is not adultery since you are still unmarried. However sex before marriage is still wrong. There are youths who refrain from intercourse but who engage in so-called sexual alternatives, such as fondling one another’s sexual organs (sometimes called mutual masturbation).

So not only is premarital sex wrong but so are the other unclean practices associated with it. It is all fornication.

Bad actions start with bad thoughts. If possible, force yourself to think of more positive things.

Answer 3

Depends very much on your religion. If you are a Muslim , it is not an adultery , but it still not preferable to do so , you have to always think that God looks into your mind and knows all that you think of, let him see more positive more important issue.. As you said you will have all of this in fact after marriage.
Please do not distract yourself, after while it will turn into a habit that will keep you from concentrating right in what you are doing.

Answer 4

No....Adultery is lustful thoughts of another person if you are married, or the act of sex with a married person. If your not married and have lustful thoughts for your engaged one it's natural to wonder what the wedding night will be like, it's when it consumes you that it becomes wrong.

Answer 5

Hmmm, I don't think it is. Unless you entertain the thoughst drawn out into lustful fantasy, anticipating a union with a future husband during an engagement is perfectly healthy and not sinful. It can tun into being sinful, depending on how far you let the thoughts go.

CONGRATS on the up coming wedding/marriage

Answer 6

Hi
Practical theology= bible.
yes, it can be...that is IF you fanticize in GREAT DETAIL.....ab out it. Otherswise, thinking about one another making love as a married couple is a little different.
Fine line of course. Id say you KNOW the difference between a look and aloooooooog stare.
Take care, glad to hear that you both like one another a lot!
-LIVETRUTH=]http://www.evangelicaloutreach.org/demons.htm

Answer 7

the term adultery is very much overrated to actaully commit adultery in the eyes of the law you must actually be married as adultery is the term used for a married person cheating on there partner and this voids any in heritance this person would recieve if they were to divorce
SO NO IT IS NOT AN ACT OF ADULTERY

Answer 8

It is dirty thoughts of someone who cannot wait to get married..how long are u engaged?? i think you should just get married soon to avoid any "accidents". By the way adulterous is when you actually sleep with your neighbor's wife/husband.

Answer 9

well the word you are looking for is fornication,not adultery.Fornication is having sex and not married,you can only commit adultery if you are already married and have sex with someone else other than your husband. As for your question? no you are not fornacating by your thoughts,you are The Bible says its better to marry than to burnjust being tempted,however if you did have sex with your intended one you would be commiting fornication.the Bible says it is better to marry than to burn,meaning burn with desire.If you are really wanting to wait and really are burning with desire to have sex and cannot control it,you best get married soon................

Answer 10

Hi, there is the possibility of sin in these situations, and that is the sin of lusting after another,Jesus said that if you have lust in your heart then you have already commited adultery.
It`s a fine line here and only you can know if you have crossed it, but going on what you have said I think that this can be less than lust but simple sexual awareness of one to another.