Can anyone help me or give me any advice ? no messing answers plz?

Question

the problem i have is i have no friends i have very low confidence and i feel like im gonna be like this for rest my life i would like to have g/f and kids etc but no female would go near me coz im kinda fat and now i got no confidence to go out on my own to try make new friends just feel like im stuck and cant get out of it plz try help me someone i dont know what else to do :(

Answer 1

hey.... ya know size shouldn't matter to anyone who likes you for you... if it does then they are not being true...i just married a 23stone guy he whom i have loved for the last 10 yrs... he makes me feel very safe . As he is a big guy ... so it has its up sides having a guy with some weight to him... you should get out there and use your size to your advantage as the skinny guy will move over....and i truly believe that there is some one for everyone ... but babe you gotta go out to find her... good luck.. x

Answer 2

Its hard being positive when you are not being positive. Having a girfriend is not the most important thing here, you are. You have to make the decison everyday wether you want to be happy or not happy. Just because you are overwieght don't mean squat. Just do something about it if it really bothers you. In the mean time develop a more positive attitude by being around people that are positive. You will soon learn that you are the only one that can make yourself happy. you are going to have some good days and your going to have some bad days (just like everybody else) You can't be happy all the time just like you can't be unhappy all the time either. find some things you like to do and do them. don't do drugs keep your self clean. remember this, there are things that are far worse than what your going through and you should count your blessings everyday. Take some action on this nothing is going to fall in your lap and boom your problems are over, remember you had to crawl before you learned to walk. Try to see the positive and humor in everything and everyone.

Answer 3

sweety,you don't have terminal cancer right ?then you can change what's holding you back.if being fat as you said is what's holding you back then change that.fat is not a disease that's incurable.my 16 year old grandaughter weighed almost 300 lbs.and decided last year that she was tired of carrying around this extra person on her back and turned vegan.she's losing weight slowly but she said to me.one day I will be skinny if I change my ways.the time and months will pass whether she changes her habits or not so why not change and make her self better.you are in control of how you eat and how much.food maybe your comfort,but it's not making you happy.change and self control will do the trick and show you how strong you are that should build your self esteem.want better for your self and you can make things happen. good luck and be strong,time will pass and you can change your life in the passing.

Answer 4

Training your self esteem is just like training your body. Lots and lots of practice. You have to be prepared to be rejected, in the grand scheme of things it doesn't matter even if you do. Even the best guys out there at picking up land on their a*se sometimes, and they will all tell you practice makes perfect. If you are worried about your body, go join a gym try walking or jogging. These things will all improve your self esteem just as much as your appearence.

People in general admire and respect confidence. Have a go, you really have nothing to lose by trying.
Good Luck mate

Answer 5

This is what you can do try to take dancing lesson, yoga or anything that will involve you with meeting different kind of people. This will boost you confidence eventually. Be open for
new perspective and try to be positive as much as possible.
Think somethings that you did from the past that you are proud of yourself remember that when you are feeling down. It doesn't hurt to compliment yourself once in awhile. Focus on what you are good at and work on it.

Answer 6

Put things in perspective. Change your life
*Start watching everything you eat, no junk food, lots of veges etc.
*Get in the routine of going for a morning walk before work
*Get a haircut, pluck those eyebrows! do wat ya gotta do.

My point is, your life needs a make over,
Join in some social activities and you will meet friends.
Purchase a bike, ride to work instead of driving or something, just get into the habits of good health, then before you know it, you will be a good weight, and you will feel better and this will show. Dont be depressed thinking no one will want you for the rest of your life, cheer up!!!! Prove everyone out there wrong and start the life changes you need to make, become a new person if thats what it takes!
Goodluck!!!
Im sure it will work out for you!! :)

Answer 7

First of all, if you feel like you have low self esteem because of your weight, do something about it! The easiest diet plan I've ever seen is the Fat Smash Diet (and I've seen many). If you are serious about turning your situation around, then start doing something. As you reach goals in weight loss, your self confidence will begin to highten. You attract friends when you are exposed to people and you show that you are a friendly person. Good luck to you and God bless!

Answer 8

Please... I feel that confidence is from within. If you feel you are too fat. Do something. Exercise and smart dieting. (will power) Even if its just a little, it'll do alot to your self esteem. And for once you may feel like you are capable of taking charge of your situation. Once we get that out of the way, the rest will come. And when i personally feel like crap somedays, i act like im not. And soon you'll forget about it. "When you think you are, you are!" I have some fat friends too. But with their cheery nature, people WANT to be around them. :) There are still alot of girls out there who cares about substance in a man and not how he looks. Look dude, this is easy for me to say but it really shows if you show a positive outlook on life. No one likes to hang around people who is negative all day. Its the vibe...

Good Luck!

Answer 9

well i just want to correct you on one thing...
Not all ppl judge you on your size so therefore not all ppl will not talk t you!
Life is 2 short m8! i no it might feel hard to talk to anyone but your not tellin me noone will talk to you.. steer away from snotty judging people be yourself and just try talkin to as many people that you wouldnt usually talk to and see where it gets you i promise you will find i gf just put yourself out there dont hide away! be proud of what you are!
p.s- like i said before... lifes to short you only live once why waste it being lonely go out and find people theres so many people....

good luk *Rach*

Answer 10

You need to get you join some groups, do you go to church??? That would help. Your best friend doesn't have to be food. Go for a walk. Get out!!!