I just really wannt advice. I wanna do what is the right thing and not be hurt anymore but... Yesterday I found out that my fiance was crying and still might be in love with another girl, and he still cares about she fely about him. It was his first love, and it was only about 4 years ago that they were together. He's cheated on me twice already and I just don't really know what to do. He knew that this would hurt my feelings too. He said he's been thinking about her lately. I found a convo. yesterday with him talking to another girl about this. I really don't know what to do. I love him with all my heart, but I don't know how to fix this...
2006-11-12 01:20:44 · 19 answers · asked by katie_4_aaron 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
from experience, it's better for you to break up with him. you'll always feel second in his eyes and if he cheated twice on you,girl don't be a fool in love... you deserve to be first in your man's eyes and be treated like a queen!!! the fact that it's his first love is not an excuse, he should have been able to move on once he started a relationship with you and focus on working on it and to make it work with you...
2006-11-12 01:34:33 · answer #1 · answered by desperate girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated on you twice and you are not married to him.
I'm a guy a divorced man I was married 20 yrs ago I wont do to any girl that I am involve to. he can't be in love with two woman at the same time either he choose or go with other girl.
In this case it your choice to stay and be a martyr and blind or break up and find someone who will love you as if you are his whole world except for god so you can become a trinity.
2006-11-12 01:36:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your answer is obvious, and it sounds like to me you know it, but are having a hard time doing it.
Let's put together the "facts" your fiance thinks he might be in love with another girl.
He has cheated on you 2 times.
He has been talking to this girl and thinking about her.
You deserve someone better than this cheater!
You can't fix this, or change him.
The best thing you can do is get away from his ASAP and move on.
I know it's hard, but it would be worse to marry a man who doesn't really love you and who probably will end up cheating on you.
2006-11-12 01:30:58 · answer #3 · answered by anabele6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to him. Don't listen to the people who are saying just kick him to the curb because that isn't a good choice. I think that you should talk to him about this girl -- ask him question like if he wants to get back with her? & stuff like that. If he choses to avoid the subject, turn it into if you dont answer im leaving type of thing. If he does chose to the with the other girl *Im sorry* If not i would be a little careful if he has cheated on you 2x already.
Good Luck -- ♥ashley♥
2006-11-12 01:28:31 · answer #4 · answered by 7-7-07♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say either talk to a shrink or dump him..before he dumps you and breaks ur heart if he's cheating on you than obviously you are too good for him! and it'll make all of that stuff go away if you dump him and forget about him cuz if he loves her he will never forget about her but I see this situation going in the wrong direction if yall get married the most ammount of time you'll be together for 1 year or not even! I say dump him!
2006-11-12 01:28:26 · answer #5 · answered by way2cute411 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why continue in a relationship when both hearts aren't there. If the two of you do get married it could just end up in the ruins.
You can also talk to him to see if he wants a break or wants to hold back on the wedding until he finds out what he wants.
Sorry
2006-11-12 01:42:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really fix it!!!! You say that he has cheated on you twice already!!!! What are you waiting for??? He has cheated on you twice, he will cheat again. Let him go. If he is crying and carrying on about this other girl, then he still has some feelings for her. You are better off without him, believe me!!!! You deserve better. Let him go!!!! And then get out there and find someone better for yourself!!!
2006-11-12 01:25:03 · answer #7 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it would be best for you to end it. Cheating regargless of his reasons for it will not get better. Marriage won't solve these problems. Marriage sounds all wonderful but you always have ups and downs and if he's cheated already during your downs he's more apt to do it again. It won't be your first heartbreak and you'll get better. it will also make you wiser, just learn from this and move on.
2006-11-12 01:25:24 · answer #8 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to let go, if he still in love with his ex your only putting yourself in chaos. He already cheated you twice, he will do it again, because you are there to forgive him. Try to respect yourself and wake up. This guy is probably just using you. I hope that you will make the right decision just for your sake and sanity.
I wish you the best of luck.
2006-11-12 01:41:26 · answer #9 · answered by kapritsosa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was ONLY 4 years ago since they've been together? I don't know about you, but to me that seems like a long time to not be able to get over anyone else. Kick him to the curb, he's not worth it!
2006-11-12 01:23:09 · answer #10 · answered by tmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋