That if you yell at a child to stop crying, it will stop. I was working at a day nursery and saw this happen, not for the first time, and the poor 2yr old was terrified and about to have a full blown tantrum. Needless to say shouting at her did not help!
2006-11-12 00:48:21 · 19 answers · asked by emily_jane2379 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I know, that's so sad. All you have to do is let it pass or find out if there's something wrong and fix it. Or sometimes even just talking to the child like a normal person, or explaining that crying and throwing temper tantrumes is not the way to get what he/she wants and if the talk they can get it. People always seem to under estamate a childs ability to understand.I HATE IT!!!!
2006-11-12 01:38:27 · answer #1 · answered by Pinky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that parents should not shout at their children all the time, however, it is much better to shout than to hit or call them names. All parents have rough days every now and then, they are tire, the boss was a bear and the child acts up so parents yell. If I were paying someone to watch my child (like a day nursery) and I heard them yell at my child and it was not an emergency, I would talk to the day worker, if it happened again, I would talk to the daycare owner and if the worker is not fired, I would be looking for another place for my child.
2006-11-12 09:08:08 · answer #2 · answered by bettyswestbrook 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
because parents seem to not have any patience nowadays and they treat their child or the children they look after like an adult and forget that everything is new to them and when they cry they either want something or are testing the reaction they get from you when they cry. i think that yelling is a sign that the adult can not control the situation and maybe shouldnt be in that situation. and go work at mcdonalds. children are alot of work and need alot of love and if they cant handle it than go find a job that they can and for the parents practice safe sex if you dont want to tolerate your childs tantrums and screaming, you are so right it wont stop.
2006-11-12 09:22:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adults yell out of frustration. (Or unfortunately because they can get away with it... It's that whole boss yells at husband, husband yells at wife, wife yells at kid, kid hits dog, dog bites mailman trickle down thing. Pick on the person that's weaker than you are.)
I think that people that yell at kids just don't really understand children and are taking the easy way out by just yelling rather than trying to understand WHY the child is "misbehaving."
I've never flat out yelled, but I confess I've pretty seriously raised my voice at my 1-year old daughter once or twice... (and twice, when I was in a hurry, I held her down a little more roughly than was probably necessary to stop her from rolling off the change table and/or getting poop everywhere during "change table squirming") but I always feel like a schmuck after I treat her in a way that I wouldn't like to be treated myself and it never achieves the desired effect anyway.
Cuddles, comforting or distraction work much better to get a child to behave, and there's nothing wrong with a well placed song or nursery rhyme either.
Take care.
2006-11-12 10:39:51 · answer #4 · answered by Poopsie-Daisy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shouting doesn't get you anywhere with a child but some parents get to the end of there tether very quickly because of various reasons such as if they've had a stressful day etc which is no excuse. As i've shpouted at my kids before and feel dreadful after and apologise to them! and explain why i was cross etc.
2006-11-12 09:06:28 · answer #5 · answered by sez75 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shouting is no use at all towards a kid younger then 3 years old.
Generally shouting can have it's values, but it is a very stupid reaction when the kid is crying.
So I'm 100% with you here...that parent did very wrong.
2006-11-12 08:59:15 · answer #6 · answered by Great Muslim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Clearly some people don't think!
Mind you, I have worked with children and there could be another reason. Even 2 year olds can attention seek - and if that is what this one was doing it may be the reason that it was shouted at - still, even with attention seeking the best way is to ignore!
2006-11-12 08:59:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Must say that is really irritating, some people shout so loud at the kids , then the kids start crying then they say carry on crying and i will give you something to cry about. Really annoys me, feel like telling them to catch a wake-up. Kids cry when they are unhappy and scream and shout when they are being naughty.
2006-11-12 08:52:58 · answer #8 · answered by Duisend-poot 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Children cry for a reason....we may not think it's a good reason but something is wrong.
As a grown-up if we cried about something and someone one came along they would ask us why we were crying.
A 2 year old cannot convey what's wrong...it's the caretakers job to find out.
2006-11-12 10:08:55 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Slap the brat too. That always fixes it.
But seriously folks. You are right. Its stoopid.
Now if my baby is crying I pick her up and comfort her. Usually she stops in a few seconds if not immediately.
The secret is that the child feels secure. Parents can teach the child this by giving him or her LOTs of love and always acting calm around him/her.
2006-11-12 08:55:09 · answer #10 · answered by sshazzam 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋