How to stop my son from being teased in school? He is 11 years old and his classmates like to call him names.?

Question

It seems that some of his friends does not like him. And he is frequently excluded in the games they play.

Answer 1

There is nothing you can do to stop it and if you try, you'll make it worse. They will start teasing him about being a mommy's boy.

I raised three sons and a grandson. Unfortunately, that's the way children are. In two years time this will have passed and the kids will be friendly again.

It hurts but it's a rite of passage. Help him work on his self esteem and his confidence. Find a hobby in which he can excel. This will take away some of the sting.

Answer 2

I don't have an answer for you no more than anyone else does. All children are individuals and need to be handled as such. Here's a story. My granddaughter is 20 yrs old and she was never spanked in her life. She used to fight all the time in high school ALWAYS being suspended. I (her Gram) put her on a reward system. I told her I would give her $10 for every mark 80 or above. $20 for 90 and above and $50 for 100 or A's.. BUT, if she got in a fight, she gets nothing! Immediately, she started cracking the books and stopped fighting. It was like a job to her. That was in 10th grade. By the time she was a senior she was getting all A's and now she's in college studying to be a doctor and she's working at Tim Horton's to help pay for it. . I can't say it will work for everyone but it sure worked for her.

Answer 3

I do not know how to fix such a problem but I can tell you this sort of thing does affect children. If your son continues on going to school with the same kids he will then have many other children joining in also. Make sure if it does continue, that you find him a school (if possible) which these kids won't be at. But kids normally pick on people who get upset and stand up for themselves, it's no fun picking on someone who doesn't react so tell him to stare at the wall when they call him names and try not to look upset when his so called friends don't include him. They might leave him alone after that. If this doesn't work, find a new school when he graduates.

Answer 4

Kids can be very cruel. I went through the same thing in school.
What ever you do, do not complain to the parents of the kids who are doing this! Then the kids will never let up. You say that some of his friends do not like him. Well, then they are not his friends, are they? He needs to find some real friends and ignore the other ones.Remember, bullies are kids with very low self esteem. They pick on other people because they are not happy with themselves. As far as the games go, I was also the last one picked to be on any team and that was because I wasn't athletic!
So actually, they were right not to pick me until last. I hated sports anyway. You know what I do now! I'm a professional skydiver! Now that's a sport! And you don't have to be real athletic to do it. Don't worry, your son will find his way.
That will be $50 please!

Answer 5

He's at the age where kids start to get meaner sometimes. It's all in the growing up process.
All you can do is be there for him for support. Reassure him that he is okay and that sometimes other kids will say nasty things or exclude him. Maybe ask him if he can try to make some new friends.
Have him join a group of some sort at a gym, like karate or something.

Answer 6

I know all too well what your going through! I have 4 boys........two adopted and two natural. My two oldest boys are 5 months to the day different in age. My adopted son was always popular.....football, weight lifting, etc. My natural son however was not. He had a leg problem that required surgery and was in a wheel chair and then crutches. I would have thought the kids would have been kind and understood his pain...OH NO.....he was called every name in the book! While my other son sailed through life........the other stumbled and tripped over the unkind actions of others. While one was out every Friday and Saturday the other stayed home and watched tv. Finally he seem to start having a social life, but with the wrong crowd.......i went thru hell with him his jr year in school......but I was always there for him and for my other children.....the youngest two watched me go thru my divorce , because they were still living at home! They struggled with loss of a father and watching their mother fall apart and have to start life over. They cried with me for my loss and tried to help me stay afloat.......all the while my gifted son contiued on his way down the easy path...always having friends, money, and the prettiest girls etc. But in the end his gift for the easy life landed him in jail....he decided he would use his friendly gift of gap to sell drugs. While his older brother, set records in the National Guard and graudated college, he set in jail waiting for court dates....but he was a popular inmate. When he was released from jail after a amazaly short time..after six months he started back selling drugs.....his older brother served as a 1st Lt in Iraq and was awarded the bronze star...his other two brother also served in Iraq and received CIB and CAB badges,hope thats what they are called lol. Now it seems funny that my three children who went thru school with heart aches and pain are all living on the right side of the law. While my son who sweet talked teachers, friends and even his mother sits in jail, again, and wait for more court dates! Listen MOM if he struggles now ,then he will be prepared for what life throws his way later. But sometime, and I stress sometimes ,easy come is easy go. So just be there and let him know that he is a worthy person, and he is going to school to learn not do be MR popular. He will learn compation for others and a sense of right and wrong. One day, all to soon, he will be a man who will out shine the rest........spelling check is not working but i will summit anyway

Answer 7

It is concerning that refer to these individuals as "friends". are you that desperate for him to be accepted that you will refer to any who pay him attention as friends? Sorry that was probably cruel but your friends comment concerned me !

I would suggest strongly that you seek intervention from school authorities to get help for your son.

For what ever reason he has been singled out for plain and simple bullying and this is totally unacceptable. It is not a phas eof growing up, or some phasing ceremony. your son is being pychologically abused by these shiits, soon it could grow to pysical abuse.

I would also strongly encourage you to get him to break off all association with these individuals and seek out others in the playground that accept him for who he is and do include him. he obviosely associates with those who would seek to ridicule him rather than respect his strengths

Failing all of the above get him to self defence classes so he can learn discipline . self worth and self respect.

hell he might even kick their puny bullying gutless mo,fo arses around the playground and show them up for the cowards they really are.


either ways it a good result alround

Answer 8

Children can be mean to each other. I know how he feels as it happened to me. I had my mom to fall on though. She always told me that no matter what others say I shouldn't believe them. I was not what they said I was. Be supportive of your son and reassure him constantly. They aren't his friends if they call him names. I wish you well. He'll get through it with your help. I would also constantly tell him that he is loved by you and his father.

Answer 9

Honestly, that is all a part of being a child and groing up. You cannot prevent it from happening. The best thing that you can do as a parent , is just be there for him and reassure him of who he is.

In an optimal world, you may be able to prevent this, but unfortunately, we all have to live with this type of unfortunate thing.

Answer 10

You can't stop this. And don't worry too much, happens to everyone at one point in their life. It can build character. Just don't show him that it's really bugging you because he might feel like he is letting you down. Just praise him and try to build up a strong foundation of self esteem. Make him feel like he can handle the situation.