I knew the dog was dying from tumours. We did everything conceivable to make our pet comfortable. We had planned to take Penny to the vet to have her euthenized but we too were just coming to grips with the finality of it all. She'd been with us for 17 years.
Unfortunately, we were too slow. Our daughter found her in the hall, curled up and panting. She lifted the dog's head onto her lap and our Penny expired. My daughter looked up at me with an expression I will never forget. I know what I said...what would you have said to her?
2006-11-11 23:01:17 · 20 answers · asked by redcoat7121 4 in Pets ➔ Dogs
I just loss my Best friend to bone cancer. She was only 7. I held her as she she was euthanized. And yes I was upset. Depending on your daughters age, only time will tell. The good thing is that Penny died knowing she was loved. That love was shown by hold her during her final hour. Your Penny didn't die alone. And she was grateful that she got to say goodbye, just as you had a chance to say goodbye.
tell your daughter that she did right by Penny. That holding her in her final hour Penny was great full that she had a friend to be with as she died. That your daughter gave her comfort as she passed. And as hard as it was she did what was right. Penny will be in pain again and will always be around.
I talk to my girl everyday. and I'm 40. I had her cremated and place in an urn and is with me everyday.
2006-11-12 00:05:12 · answer #1 · answered by llll_bouncer_llll 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
The best thing to do is just cry with her. Losing a pet of any kind, let alone a 17 year old best friend HURTS! A LOT! When you cry WITH her you let her know that it is okay to cry and to hurt and to be angry that she is gone. Let her talk, or draw, or play, or journal her emotions in what ever way she can. Have memorial service. Let her pick her favorite pictures of your loved one and keep then in a special place so that when all of you are missing this family member you can go there and remember the good times. What do you tell a parent who has just lost there beloved pet. I would have to say from personal experience, that this dog was more than a pet and instead was an integral part of the family. It will take time to mourn the loss. Take the time and let your daughter take her time. Hugs and knowing that you are there and are hurting too will be the best thing you can do for her (and yourself). My guess is that Penny wanted to die at home in the arms of someone she loved. So she went home "her way" -- me
2006-11-11 23:29:19 · answer #2 · answered by nut4jc 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I was 27 years old when I held my beloved Andy in my arms as they had to euthanize him (he was 13 and in full kidney failure). I can't even imagine how hard that would be with a child!
I would have (hopefully) had the chance before then to start to talk to her about the dog's terminal illness. I would have told her that now Penny has gone on to Heaven and is no longer old and in pain. And that Penny will still be around and she will always live in our hearts and memories. I would do all I could to get her through this grieving period because you never get over that loss, you just get used to living without her.
Please share with us what you did say!
2006-11-11 23:18:31 · answer #3 · answered by crouchingpossum 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That all of God's creatures must go back to sleep to be able have the strength to cross over Rainbow Bridge, the special heaven for animals. There's a website online. Because she was so sick with all of her cancer, she needed to go back to sleep for strength. Yes she can cry because we all cry when miss someone we love very much. Remember Penny and how special she was. Place pictures of Penny around to help her "see" her about. I also found that having a funeral helps with the final goodbye as well in your backyard, then she is always home with you and your daughter can talk to her when she wants to. So sorry for your loss.Good luck
2006-11-12 00:49:37 · answer #4 · answered by ELT 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My whilst son became into born I had a 14 365 days previous dogs and a one million 365 days previous puppy. The dogs sniffed him as quickly as we further him residing house and then fantastically lots disregarded him. The puppy sniffed him and fell in love! They cuddle and play collectively! they're acceptable pals. it is somewhat candy too, in view which you will discover how gentle the puppy is whilst they're playing collectively. And the puppy gets all apprehensive each and every time the toddler cries. one thank you to get pets used to a toddler is to get a doll and start up carrying that around the residing house. That way they are going to be used to seeing you retaining something like that each and every physique the time. you additionally can get a tape of a toddler crying and play it. And in case you may, have somebody convey residing house a blanket from the the hospital that your toddler has been wrapped in. That way they be attentive to the fragrance once you convey the toddler residing house.
2016-10-17 04:33:19 · answer #5 · answered by woodworth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be as honest as possible. Sometimes we say too much for little children. Just answer questions that may come your way simply. No need to go into detail. I believe that children still have the knowledge of God after all they haven't been away from him that long and they have a keen way of knowing what is going on.
I would have probably kneeled down and said goodbye to the dog and hugged them both.
I've been through this with my son...was terrible, he handled it way better than I did. Kids just know!!
Sorry about your loss, time does heal and another pet needs a home as soon as you are ready.
2006-11-11 23:21:53 · answer #6 · answered by teddybearloverus 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would of said that penny was very sick (as i'm sure she would of known) but now she has gonne to heaven and when you go to heaven you are not sick any more and that heaven is a really happy place for dogs. I'm an aged care nurse and i lost a resident whom i was very close to knowing that he is no longer sick and in pain makes me feel so much better. Also talking about penny and all the fun times she had with penny is good for healing to. Keep talking about penny as it hurts more when you think that your loved one has been forgoten about.
2006-11-11 23:15:46 · answer #7 · answered by Deanna D 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depending on your daughters age, it may have been a blessing that her "penny" passed at home otherwise she may have gotten very upset about you having her put down, (taking the dog away and not bringing it back) I'm sorry for your loss.
I would have explained to her that penny was old and sick, and she(penny) wanted to stay with her as long as she could to watch over her and let your daughter know that her friend is still watching over her, let her know that her love and friendship that she shared with penny is a wonderful thing, GOD gave penny a wonderful home and someone that loved her unconditionally until he was ready to call penny home to be with him, and somewhere out there he has another puppy that he will send her way as soon as she is ready to share her love with another animal.
2006-11-12 01:12:51 · answer #8 · answered by JO K 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The truth ! By knowing the pain she feels, I would tell her the truth, that Penny was a sick and old doggy but she had a nice long fulfilled life.
( My dog will die soon too, and I know, if there is a heaven for dogs, he will have a wonderful home )
2006-11-11 23:14:30 · answer #9 · answered by willow, the yodakitty from hell 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would have said something like this.
She was 17 years old and that is a long time for a dog. She lived a good long life with us and we will never forget her. We loved her dearly and did everything possible for her. We will miss her lots and it won't be the same without her.
2006-11-11 23:56:10 · answer #10 · answered by kitt_kattkitt 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋