i am sure my boyf has cheated on me even tho he denies it and swore on his kids life. I think the only way to trust him agian is if he lives with me and i know its me he's coming home to at the end of the day, is this a wrong move or does any1 out there think like me?
2006-11-11 21:32:49 · 16 answers · asked by emzie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO NO NO ...
Do not let him move in with you.
a) Living with you is no guarantee that he will not cheat on you again. If fact, it makes it easier because he'll know where you are at all the time. Any divorced housewife can tell you that.
b) The sad truth is that you will never completely trust him again, ever. You may forgive him but you will never trust him completely. You will always have doubts.
c) The more you ask - no matter how politely or gently - "Where have you been?" the more he will get angry and hostile. It's a guy thing. Guys like the one you described HATE accountability to their partner.
Ask yourself this question: Why would an honest, committed, and monogamous man cheat on a woman like you? If he did it once he'll do it again, Sister.
The Acid Test: TELL him you want to get married and see him panic, turn white, mumble something stupid, then run for the hills.
Drop this guy fast and hard and never look back. You deserve better. (Care taking for his kids, too? JEEEZ...it's not hard to see who's getting the best deal here.)
Good Luck! Please do the right thing!
2006-11-11 21:43:18 · answer #1 · answered by angelthe5th 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Moving him in only insures one thing--- that you will really get the short end of the stick. If he cheated once he will do it again and he will be coming home to you at the end of the day after he leaves from being with someone else. Does it take being kicked in the head by a horse twice for you to know that it hurts?
2006-11-11 21:39:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i personally think that if you are dating someone who you feel you have to keep an eye on, isnt really worth dating. i mean ask your self, do you trust him?? honestly? remember, the foundation of a relationship is trust? think about it, if you dont trust your partner, you cannto have fun, you cannot go out without having to watch him, you are always thinkin of what he is doing...it wont work in the long run. sure, alot of people will say the same thing, but it is your desicion. plz make the right one!! xxx
2006-11-11 21:46:28 · answer #3 · answered by LifeLiveLove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BAD move (pun intended)...
If your only way of trusting him is to have him move in with you so you know "it's you he's coming to at the end of the day," as a friend (and complete stranger), I'd tell ya that the relationship itself isnt worth it, never mind having him move in with you!!!
Cut your losses now...
[Personally, I wouldnt even kiss a girl that cheated on me, much less have her move in with me.]
2006-11-11 21:45:11 · answer #4 · answered by Wedding Crasher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, personally i think you should not have him move in for a while until you are one hundred percent sure he is not cheating on you, even if it is you he comes home to every night he can still be cheating on you during the day , it would be stupid to have him move in if you aren't sure if he does cheat again and you find out it will be harder to end the relationship and get him out of your life...
2006-11-12 00:28:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be he as, but you dont know for sure, What makes you think he as?
Whats broken your trust?
Whats to say that just because he,s in bed with you @ the end of the day that he has,nt already emptied his balls earlier.
If someones going to cheat on you letting them move in will not cure it BUT hey who knows this fella better than you? not me
GOOD LUCK
2006-11-11 21:55:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
having him move in with you when you don't trust him just so you can check on him is a huge mistake.. don't make it. a relationship is based on love and trust. try as much as you can and want too gain thoes two back in your relationship. but don't get lost in the way. if you cant be ok leave. its better for both of you.
2006-11-11 21:40:45 · answer #7 · answered by Alex 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So basically youre saying you cant trust him. Moving back with you he could still roam. I dont know any of the subtleties just that what youve written implies you cant trust him.
2006-11-11 21:40:04 · answer #8 · answered by John S 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
look there are other single men out dere. dont just give yr life up over him for nothing
2006-11-11 21:42:23 · answer #9 · answered by Edward H 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i cannot share my bed with someone whom i do not trust. CAN YOU?
2006-11-11 21:40:12 · answer #10 · answered by Pegasus 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋