Church of Christ.. confusion?

Question

I was raised in a very conservative Church of Christ and have just discovered that there are other possibilites (for lack of better words). My parents will disown me if I quit. Which means my boys will lose their grandparents. I don't really agree with everything the COC says but I guess it wouldn't really kill me to go. Should I go for my kids to be able to have a relationship with my parents? Or is that sending them the message to just do what everyone else says?

Answer 1

oh, honey. I'm so sorry you are going through this. You have to work out your own salvation. Your parents can't do that for you. You must raise your children in the way they should go and they shall not depart from it. I don't know what this C.O.C. believes and have no opinions in that matter. I do believe, though, that it is wrong to turn your back on your children. Look at the story of the Prodical (hope I spelled that correctly) son. He left with all of his inheritance and his father accepted him back. I do pray that God will give you peace in your situation and that he will open a door for you to walk through that is right. Ask for wisdom and he will give it to you.

Answer 2

Disowning you for quitting the COC seems like a big overreaction, but if you're sure your folks would do something that drastic, then I'd say take oldguy63's very good advice and obey your parents. It's usually a good idea to do that anyway. UNLESS, of course, your disagreement with the COC is in a really significant theological or doctrinal matter. But your question doesn't really sound as urgent as all that.
May our Lord give you wisdom and guidance.

Answer 3

What "other possibilities" are you entertaining? As long as these "other possibilities" are based on a thorough study of the Bible, you owe it to yourself and to your children to raise them in the best way that you know how, that is the truth as you have studied it and believe it. It is quite possible that if you change your religion that your parents will disown you. However, it is frequently the case that the grandchildren are not disowned as well. Afterall, why should they pay for something that was your decision?
If, however, these "other possibilities" are not biblically based, you should send your children to church with their grandparents. It is better for them to have some foundation in scripture than none at all.

Answer 4

i don't know what the church of Christ teaches so i have no bias. but i would tell you for myself that i would do what i feel is right based on logic, and then not be concerned about the conciquences. if you feel that you are being made better by that church then keep going. i wouldn't keep going if i wasn't getting anything from it. how is that being a good stuart of our time. you will know a tree by it's fruit. if your church produces good fruit then i would say stay, if it produces bad fruit then go. whether or not your parents will disown you is irelavant. i know it will be painful but it's a fact of life. we have freewill and your parents can use it to hurt you, help you, or control you.

Answer 5

Do you really want to promote another generation or two of religion by guilt, fundamentalists so that grandma and grandpa will give Christmas presents?? Does it tell you the grief that a zealous religion like this promotes when you think your own parents will "disown" you if you go to worship the same God in a different way or in a different building??
If you don't have another church in mind, check out the Episcopal Church; at least sit and have a chat with the priest there, YOU WILL BE AMAZED.
May the peace of the Lord be with you and your family at this time of decision.

Answer 6

It is sending them the message, "Honor your Father and your mother which is the first commandment with a promise, that it may go well with you and that you may live long on he earth." That is always a good hing to instill within your kids.
I would suggest you continue to go with them, and begin to pray that God will work in their hearts to open their eyes to see the same things you do. Besides if you have ever gone looking for a perfect church you will discover how difficult a task that it.
There are very few things in life that are more hurtful, after parents spend 20 or more years of their lives raising a child to have that child desert them and take their grand children away from them. 1 Timothy 5:8 "But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever."

Answer 7

First of all, your parents don't seem to be very nice in the fact that if they have something against you don't mean they have to take it out on your kids. Does their belief in religion that important than their grand-kids?

Everyone has a given right to believe in what they choose. Your parents too. If they choose not to be part of they family then their faith is not that great. Coz nothing is more important then supportive family and friends. Your kids need that more.

Answer 8

I'm sorry to hear of this situation. It's not fair. Your children will learn from you. They should be exposed to the idea, but religion should never be forced on you or anyone.

If your parents are truly good Christians, they will practice tolerance and forgiveness.

Answer 9

thats really up to you and your parents. personally i think if your parents cant find it in thier hearts to forgive you then theyre being a hypocrite since christian teachings say to forgive just like jesus forgave everyone. or theyre just being stubborn cuz old people are always stubborn and are ALWAYS right...but in the end theyre just hurting themselves. you should follow how you want your childs future to be like...personally i think it should be the person choice to be in whatever religion. and taking young children to a specific religious group at such a young age makes a child feel like that IS the ONLY way to live by. most likely your parents are going to EVENTUALLY want to see thier grandchildern....even if theyre mad at you they still love you and your kids.

good luck.

Answer 10

Should maintain relationship with your parents, afterall they're your parents you should be able to tell them what you feel as you are now an adult. You're now a parent as well so you should have an idea.