2006-11-11 19:36:59 · 27 answers · asked by sweet_lil_nibbles85 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm twenty, also never been kissed and a virgin. Sometimes it does bother me a bit, but I'm glad that I haven't done anything yet. I want my first kiss to be with someone very special, and I just haven't found them yet. The world isn't crashing down around me cause I'm not making out with every guy out there. The person who loves me isn't going to be annoyed with my lack of experience, he might even find it sweet, shrug. I'm content to wait. I wouldn't spend too much of your time stressing over not being a sIut.
2006-11-11 19:50:39 · answer #1 · answered by sweets 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Looks like all you're going to get here is "you're worth waiting for" platitudes from the freakin' Junior Anti-Sex League...
The never kissing anyone is what throws up flags for me.
Your question is just too vague. Have you been trying- at all ?
Do you have a lot of non-sexual guy friends, do you talk to people?
Girls really do have it easier than guys here- guys are still expected to do the pursuing, and you have to turn them away. Have you been turning guys away? Have you been completely oblivious to the ones that may have been interested?
Maybe it's the same thing wrong with you that was wrong with me at your age.
"Avoidant personality disorder" which is not really the same as being shy or antisocial. You do like people, you want to be in social situations but always feel uncomfortable and 'unwelcome' in any group and eventually run away and hide from it all and feel miserable.
If that's you, it really is a problem. You'll miss out on a lot of life, and it will take a lot of work to change.
If not, maybe it is nothing and random luck has just not been on your side so far, and you'll have a boyfriend a year from now.
2006-11-12 04:04:46 · answer #2 · answered by randomstupidhandle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if there's something wrong with you then there is also something wrong with me. I am a virgin and will be until i get married. I have never been kissed and have never been asked out either. sometimes think that this means there is something wrong with me but mainly i think i have been protected from a lot of hurt and one day when i marry the man for me i will be happy with him and not have any extra baggage. I mean i'm not going to go around kissing just any guy I'm going to have to care a bout him alot. I know that God has a man for me and he has one for you too.
2006-11-12 03:44:55 · answer #3 · answered by lil 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact you're 21 and still a virgin isn't bad in the slightest, I think a lot of females wish they could say the same! As for being kissed, it'll come eventually I'm sure, or perhaps you need to mix with other groups of people, try and approach people more, etc..
2006-11-12 03:41:23 · answer #4 · answered by pyrokinetic_666_666 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you for still being a virgin...just keep looking for that special someone ....i think you might have social anxiety disorder or something if you've never been kissed try going out and meeting new people but if you re insanely shy like i think you are try getting some social anxiety meds
2006-11-12 03:39:59 · answer #5 · answered by @ubreY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless you. It is ok to be a virgin but maybe you are too injtroverted or guarded as you should have been kissed by now. Make eye contact with people and smile and be more open guys/girls will become more attracted to you and feel confident enough in your company to have a kiss. Kissing is good you must try it!
2006-11-12 03:41:21 · answer #6 · answered by Jason O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 23 and a virgin and i have never been kissed. I had my chances though, I just feel like it will happen when it is meant to happen and I can enjoy it and not look back and regret doing something just to say i did it. Don't worry about it your time will come. I don't feel ashamed at all nor do I feel like I'm missing out I don't want it if it isn't genuine.
2006-11-12 03:46:13 · answer #7 · answered by Bu Tran 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Now that is something you should be admired for. You aren't weird and there's nothing wrong with you. It's admirable to wait for sex, and now you just have to open up a little bit and start dating. It's uncomfortable at first, but just find a guy who will respect you for your values and proceed slowly into the relationship. Good luck!
2006-11-12 03:40:35 · answer #8 · answered by mysticaura29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I'll be honest, something is wrong w/ you... You got some sense! Seriously, you are to be commended. There is too much out there to want to drop your draws to anyone. Wait and continue to be patient and that day will come. I hope it is when you get married. As the song S.E.X. goes by Lyfe. Hold on to your innocence, use your common sense, you're worth waiting for. Blessings come w/ patience.
2006-11-12 04:26:23 · answer #9 · answered by lovelife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 22 when I was "deflowered". There is nothing wrong with you and I think it is a good thing.
Sharing your body with someone is the most loving thing that you can do with someone and should not be associated with being "normal".
You will know when you meet the right person and things progress as they should.
You're just fine.
2006-11-12 03:39:59 · answer #10 · answered by Bad Kitty 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋