How to handle my 15 year old son violet behaviour?

Question

He get angry easily and start throwing things around in the house. And also shout back when we talk to him. And also keep challenging us to quarrel or fight him
He is 15 year old already and if i beat him, likely he would beat me also.

Answer 1

OK - before I figured you were talking about a 2 to 8 year old. My advise is to get him into some sort of therapy to figure out where his anger is coming from. My daughter sees a therapist once a week for something COMPLETELY different than this, but I am amazed every week of how she opens up and just talks freely to her therapist. I guess because it is somebody that doen't have a vested interest in her life and she doesn't have to go home with or too or mind all week long. She feels no pressure there and she can just be herself with no prejudice. He may reject it at first, but if he realizes that a therapist is someone he can vent to, then he might open up. The therapist will then be able to instruct you on how to deal with whatever his REAL issues are. He is acting out for a reason and the sooner you figure it out the better! Good Luck!

Answer 2

Hello unhappy parent...
I'm so sorry that your son is putting you through this....truly! !
I feel the only way that behaviour like this is going to stop is if you get the police involved. Seriously....He's not going to calm down, and the fact that you feel he would beat you only verifies this.
You do know that your son can be charged with destroying personal property even if it belongs to his parents. It's against the law to destroy "anyone's" property. You need to inform him of this, either by telling him or calling the cops next time he does.
You don't even have to press charges..the DA will pick it up and "they'll" charge him.
Don't let this get any worse.....The more he gets away with, the stronger his ego will be. And then you'll lose him altogether.
Whatever you do by all means don't blame yourselves. It is so difficult now days to discipline young teens....There are many, many parents in your situation. Maybe a support group in your town might not be a bad idea...Look into that..
In the meantime....remember your rights as an individual under the eyes of the law..
Good luck! !

Answer 3

I'm on the complete other side of the spectrum. I'm a 13 year old girl who's mom has a boyfriend whom she absolutely loathes. It may seem melodramatic and juvenile, typical teenage raging hormones upset with my own "pathetic" life kind of situation , but trust me. It's very twisted and confusing. My mother cheated on my father (were married for 20 years) on a man who has children with 3 different women. He has been divorced twice, both times because he cheated. He also smokes crystal meth and marijuana. I have never seen or talked to him, only because I'm afraid I might do something terrible I'll regret. I've thought of hundreds and thousands of evil and sadistic ways to break them up or make his life miserable. He ripped apart my family, he deserves it. But I just don't think I'd be too thrilled with the person looking back in the mirror if I did anything of the sorts. What happened because of the affair between my mother and he? My dad was homeless, I had to give away my dog who I had for 5 years and was my only friend, we moved into an apartment from being in a huge house, my sister moved 3,000 miles away, I became Anorexic, I have Social Anxiety Disorder, I have severe depression, I almost committed suicide 4 times, I have trust issues, I am a social outcast, and my mother resents me for "not accepting" her. Basically she's pissed because I hate her boyfriend. She wants us to be friends and "get over it". Not a chance. I can't WAIT to leave this place. For college I'm moving thousands of miles away and never looking back. Your son is most likely feeling some of my same feelings. Did you cheat? Or did you just move on remarkably fast? 6 months..is a little soon. I know I'd be shocked and angry and full of hatred if I was him. You really need to keep an open mind and TALK to him. Go to therapy. Please put yourself in his shoes. Try and feel everything he is. Get a new perspective. Pretend your mom and dad divorced, you only see them certain days a week, have no control over anything, your mom is seeing somebody else, and you also are going through puberty. I can't imagine. Well, I mean.. I can. But do you see? I hope so... I love my parents, but I wish they'd truly understand. And I know they never will. My childhood was ruined by this whole fiasco and it's still going on. I would never wish this misery upon anybody. I hope you guys get to be a family again. It's too late for mine, but save yours while you can. Your son is crying out for attention and praise. I hope I helped..

Answer 4

Make him have a drug test, he could be taking them and that's why he so violet. Yeah it sounds bad but you need to make sure. Check his room when his not home. Look for clues that can help you. His under a lot of peer pressure at school and he wants to fit in. If you can't find anything and he won't talk to you in a civil manner then send him to BOOT CAMP! Sometimes it's just to hard to handle your kids on your own. if they don't respect you their not going to listen to you so do the next best thing and ship him off to BOOT CAMP. Your local police dept. can fill you in on a place probably.

Answer 5

I am having issues myself with my 12 yo, one day he got me so angry I threw him out of the house with what he had on and told him to go find an new family that was gonna put up with his crap, of course he stood outside the door begging to come in and I told him the only way he would be allowed back in is if he goes by my rules, everytime he acts up I tell him there is the door if you dont like what I am dishing out leave. And I told him he can only leave with what he has. That usually gets him back on the straight and narrow for a while.

Answer 6

It sounds like your son needs anger management counseling...there are many things that you can do as well to keep your child calmer and deal with this behavior better but it is something that you need to disscuss with a professional. Esspeically if you are worried your child may become violent with you.Also talk to the school and see what his behavior is like there, they often will provide counseling at the school if you cannot afford it.

Answer 7

Call The Cops .. Let Him Spend a Night In Juvy My Dad Did That To Me .. i Do not Dis respect My Parents In Any Way Anymore .. It Was Def. A Wake Up Call for me in more ways then 1.

Answer 8

Lock him up for a little while. He needs help that a juvenile detention can help with.

Answer 9

get him into counseling for anger management
contact child protesctive services for help with this problem, they have resources to refer you to, [he might also be taking some drugs that make him act this way,] check it out....get him drug tested and counseling right away

Answer 10

So who let him get this far out of control? Where was the discipline when he was younger?