im going to date a guy and we already like eachother. he is four years older. i am nervous because in an earlier conversation he said he cant stand girls who are really inexperienced like virgins, when he said that he didnt know that i was. I wanted to lose my virginity to him but i dont think he can handle the pressure. he probably things ill get clingy if he's the one to do it. but im not like that i just want to get it over with and i dont know what to say because soon he is going to want to do it and i dont want to lie throught the whole thing. he'll totally notice.
2006-11-11 19:27:05 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like he is more interested in what a lady can do for him than what he can do for her. Is that the kind of guy you want?
2006-11-11 19:29:29 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, and do tell him. Not right away but if and when it's clearly going to happen in the near future. If he really truly likes you, expect to see him have a rapid change of opinion on the subject. He'll probably even apologize for what he said earlier- unless he's a total *** who cares more about being an *** than getting some.
And try not to have a "just get it over with" attitude. Tell him yes, you're inexperienced *now,* but you're giving him all the time he needs to teach you everything he knows...
2006-11-11 19:38:00 · answer #2 · answered by randomstupidhandle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL.
This guy sounds like he is TOTALLY not worth your time. Do you really want to lose your virginity to this guy? I know you've probably heard this a million times, but you can only lose it once, and if it's gonna be to a creep that will probably never call you again, then you're going to feel pretty bad about it afterwards. And, if you do decide to lose it to this guy, what do you think he'll say when he finds out your a virgin? Because he will find out, trust me. He's already told you he 'doesn't like virgins.' I think you need to tell him, that way you can find out whether he really likes you and is willing to stick with you even though he doesn't like the fact that you haven't had sex before. Which sounds totally weird to me..
2006-11-11 19:39:22 · answer #3 · answered by noxiri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you need to tell him. I know you may "just want to get it over with", but trust me, losing your virginity is more than that. If he really likes you, he'll understand.
I hate to break it to you, but he's gonna know... or he's gonna think you're really bad in bed. Oh, and the first time hurts and you'll probably bleed, so it would be good if he had an idea of why he was causing you pain before hand.
Being a virgin is nothing to be embrassed about. As I said, if he likes you, he'll understand, if something like this changes his mind then he's a jerk and you should save your virginity for someone worthy of you.
Good luck!
2006-11-11 19:32:00 · answer #4 · answered by lilgiggle33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he actually told you that, I would stop seeing him altogether. Your virginity is special and you should not give it up for some guy who sounds like he has deflowered an entire village of virgins. He sounds like a loser to me. Save it for the man who wants to put a ring on your finger first. Sex is something special that you share with someone... don't let this guy train you to be a porn star in three days... If you tell him you are a virgin he had better react with kindness and respect. What out because he sounds like a player to me... he will say just what you want to hear just to get into your pants... run far from this guy! Trust me.
2006-11-11 20:20:20 · answer #5 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to women here. They, like most women, are absolutely clueless. Do not allow your sexuality to define you. There is so much more to a person than what is between there legs. Even the simplest of organisms can have some form of sex. Big deal. If you are virgin, so what? Either he deals with it, or he doesn't. Simple as that. Don't lose any sleep over it. The most precious thing you can give someone is your heart, not your body.
2006-11-11 19:42:31 · answer #6 · answered by godhainder 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know too many people who regret loosing their virginity because they "just wanted to get it over with". In fact, that is probably the single WORST reason a person can choose to lose it. Don't be in such a rush. You'll have plenty of time to screw things up later.
2006-11-11 19:32:11 · answer #7 · answered by Al 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not the guy for you, if it's your first time. Ditch him and find someone else. It is not something you "get it over with." You can wait 5 or 10 years if you like - honey, there is no rush, trust me! You'll probably regret it once you "get it over with." Relax, when the right guy comes along you will know it and so will he.
2006-11-11 19:31:30 · answer #8 · answered by newyorkgal71 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 22:55:01 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him.
I'm kind of surprised... most guys like virgins more.
But if you're really worried he might be upset, make him realize he shouldn't worry. Give him the best sex he's ever had and make him beg for more.
I'd say learn a few positions and/or games to surprise him ;)
good luck!
2006-11-11 19:30:15 · answer #10 · answered by mysticaura29 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are going to settle for someone to lose your virginity to, then you deserve to lose it to this guy. This is something special to be shared with someone you love, someone that you can commit to. Why would you be into someone like this?
Examine the 'why' behind your choice and be honest about what you REALLY want.
Women get attached to whomever they share their bodies with. Do you want to be attached to that douche?
Please rethink!
2006-11-11 19:34:59 · answer #11 · answered by Bad Kitty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋