How do we tell our parents?

Question

That I got a 13 year old pregnant. We even used a condom but I think it broke. Btw im 16 and she looks 15.
Or can you get an abortion without telling the doctor your name?

Answer 1

First, before you do anything, I mean ANYTHING else, find a trusted adult that you can tell. Also, I would suggest that this person be close to the age of your parents since they will be able to see things from a perspective that is close to your parents. This person might be an aunt, uncle, grandparent, minister, or teacher. Then, ask this person if they will go with you and your girlfriend when you tell your parents... the moral support can often help at times like these... and both sets of parents will probably be a little calmer with someone else there.

Also, I don't think that it would be a wise decision for her to even discuss abortion before she tells her parents about her pregnancy since they are probably the people who know her best and can give her the best advice. Further, abortion is a huge, life-changing decision that doesn't just solve your problems... and if she has any problems from an abortion... her parents sure need to know so that they can help her (whether the complications are emotional or medical).

Therefore, find an older adult that you both can trust and tell them first. Then, have them help you both find ways to tell your parents. Also, do not wait... since the baby will not just go away.

I wish you both the best... and please consider allowing someone to adopt the baby if you both feel that you do not want the responsibility of your child.

Answer 2

I would think that at 13 she would need parental consent before undergoing any medical procedure. & if a doctor did perform an abortion on her - he could be charged with something like improper practices.
is she sure she is pregnant? has she seen a doctor to have it confirmed?
both sets of parents need to be told immediately so that an informed decision can be made- as if it is left too long an abortion will not be possible without endangering the girls life.
it doesn't matter how old the girl looks - the fact is that she is only 13
& it sounds as though you were aware of that

Answer 3

I can't believe this one. Yes you have got to tell all the parents you might want to start with your own. Then have them go with you to tell hers. Her parents might not harm you with your own being there. There is no easy answer for this one. Being pregnant is not the easiest thing in the world. I was 27 she is just a baby herself at 13. Abortion or carry the baby to term and then adoption will both be very hard on her physically and emotionally. I don't suggest she keep it to raise. I mean how in the hell can she she is only 13. And if she is having sex at 13 I don't know how good of parents she has so they probably shouldn't raise it either. Maybe adoption and some very good counseling for both of you would be the best I really don't know on this one.

Answer 4

Ok, I'm not sure the circumstances of the conception, but I guess that doesn't matter. What matters is first having her talk to her parents. I know that they will be upset, but they need to know so they can help her make the decision what to do about the pregnancy. You should also tell your so that if her parents decide they want to talk to you, your parents won't be suprised. This situation sucks and I'm sorry that you're in it, but you were responsible enough to decide to have sex, so you need to deal with the consiquences like an adult.
You could go to planned parenthood, but only if SHE is certain that is what she wants to do. It's her body and all that jazz. Most likely they will make her talk to her parents.
Good luck, and I'd abstain from sex for awhile if I were you.

Answer 5

If you think your old enough to do it then be man enough to tell both parents hers and yours to think of abortion by yourself is shear stupidity sorry You may not like what i said but you owe this girl more than a quick fix that may stuff up her life forever .!!!!!She needs good guidance and support and you must take this responsibilty serious .I know as a boy your going to be scared but mate you have do this for her not just think of yourself .We have a saying here what goes around comes around "meaning" you let this girl down now and at some stage in your life something worse will happen to you .

Answer 6

It really does not matter how old she looks. 13 years old is 13 years old.

I would NEVER suggest her getting an abortion with out talking to her parents, if she can. Or at least to an adutl that she trust.

There will NEVER be an easy way to tell them. Just tell them. No matter how you tell them they are going to be mad. Be prepared to get yelled at. A LOT.

Good luck.

Answer 7

i think of by ability of now your mothers and dads comprehend which you and your boyfriend have been snoozing mutually as you the two have been mutually for 7 years. You in no way stated in case you reside at homestead, have your guy or woman place or consistent with hazard stay with your boyfriend. that's lots better to tell your mothers and dads now and be honest somewhat than not say something in any respect. you should be confessing way previously Easter Sunday, an particularly holy day in the Catholic faith. In my own opinion, this is not clever to get married when you consider which you're pregnant. i'm particular the two mothers and dads would question your decision to get married when you consider which you're pregnant yet i'm particular the two factors of the family contributors would be chuffed for the two certainly one of you with the predicted new arrival. shop us published on what your plans are bearing directly to telling your mothers and dads.

Answer 8

You guys seriously need to just get both of your parents together and then just tell them. You really shouldn't have been having sex but crap happens. They need to know. Yeah, they will probably be upset and even get mad, but your parents will appreciate later the fact that you are being open to your mistakes. I am sorry to tell you, but in certain states you could get arrested. Her age is a really big problem. Sorry :(

Answer 9

you need to tell your parents about it. do you work if not how will you pay for an abortion. an abortion is a big step to take. go to your parents and tell them because you and her are a child and you don't need to deal with this by your self.

Answer 10

Ermm...tell your parents...of course they will be upset and disappointed.
Abortion? Oh no no...it is very risky especially the girl is just 13 years old.