I don't think that the 5 year age difference is a big deal, however to my parents its apparently the end of the world. Heres the thing he asked me out to a movie a couple months back and ever since then we have talked non-stop. So he recently asked me to go to another movie (so excited) and were going to the school play together in December. Just so you know he doesn't make plans in advance and he asked me to a play a month away. He even asked me if I wanted to go skating once he found his skates. So I would think all the signs point to he likes me too. Heres the thing I like him and I am pretty sure that he likes me so should I let the age difference come between us, even if that means disappointing my parents?
2006-11-11 19:05:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes. It's a matter of principal that you need to let your love go with the young man and he needs to do the same for you. Maybe your emotional mature enough to deal with the real issues about love. Nonetheless, it wouldn't hurt neither of you to wait until you are 18. It's the law and you'll know for sure whether he really loves you. I'm sure he loves you too but you'll find out if he really loves you if he can wait the distance. Don't disappoint your parents. They have a true love for you like no man can ever have. If your blessed to be a parent one day, you'll understand their love. Right now, patience is a virtue.
2006-11-11 19:15:14 · answer #1 · answered by orleans6062000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, the age difference isn't a big deal. If you like someone, you like someone. But at this point, since you're still living with your parents, you should respect their feelings and stay as friends for now. You're still young and you have a lot ahead of you. Most relationships at this point are relatively short lived. The last thing you want at this point in life is your parents getting upset, the relationship turning out badly, and all of that interfering with your schoolwork. It's not a matter of age, it's more of a matter of the parents at this point. Don't be upset at them, as they are only looking out for you. I'm 20, and I've been through what you've gone through, but if you look at it logically, your parents are doing the right thing, and you should respect it. It's a hard decision to make, but it's the best one at this point.
2006-11-12 03:14:09 · answer #2 · answered by mysticaura29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While u r 16 it makes a difference. U r still n high school. He has been outa high for at least 4 years. Most guys look for younger girls for a peace of "candy". Be careful. He could realy be a good man lookin to ketch u and keep u from spinning out of control like most of the girls he knows. I tried wit a younger girl and an older girl. Im still single so there is no sure way of knowin. U r goin have to trust what u feel is right. Remember your parents are not the one that goes places wit him and gets to kno the person he is.
2006-11-12 03:19:31 · answer #3 · answered by Just Ask 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably won't believe me, but try to understand. Your parents went through all this teenage stuff years ago. They know far more than you do. Listen to them.
A twenty-one year old is in a different world than you. He may be insecure or after an easy notch in his belt. If he truly likes and RESPECTS you he would be happy to have lunch and dinner at your house with your parents present. If he only wants you to see him alone or in secret without your parents knowing, run. He is only interested in your body.
16 and 21, big difference. 20 and 25, a difference. 25 and 30, some difference.
2006-11-12 03:16:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should let the age difference come between you. There is no good reason why a 21 year old man would be interested in a 16 yr old GIRL. He is disgusting and this is illegal (for a reason.) You'll get it when you are 21 or older. Run away from this loser!!!!!
2006-11-12 03:08:56 · answer #5 · answered by pinkee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blood is thicker than water. Guys come and guys go, but your family is your blood. Your parents are right to be concerned. In fact, I would consider them very negligent and uncaring if they were not against this fling with a much older (and yes, at your age, 5 years is much older) guy. Listen to them, they know what they're talking about. You have no idea what you're letting yourself in for.
2006-11-12 03:08:46 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat, I'm 16 and I do like a 21 year old, and he likes me. But I told him I'm going to wait to date him until I turn 18, it's just the right thing to do, but it doesn't mean you can't go anywhere with him, just don't become an "item" until you're legal...good luck!
2006-11-12 03:13:48 · answer #7 · answered by Lauren W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think that there is any thing wrong with a 5 year age difference.. in the end it really wont matter .. as long as you both are happy and ok with it!
2006-11-12 03:08:06 · answer #8 · answered by InSaNe 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
whats the rush here? are you in a rush to OWN this guy- making him your bf and stuffs? if you dont want to disappoint your mom and dad, remain friends with this guy. you liking each other may be a start of a great friendship. in any case, i would love this guy to be my friend rather than a bf. i would see him more.
2006-11-12 03:08:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anna D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he is not a boy hes a man. and your to young for him .and if any thing happens that's child molestation no wonder your parents are mad
2006-11-12 03:13:01 · answer #10 · answered by res71guns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋