Ya so havent seen my dad in 9 years lol.?

Question

So should i try and get in contact with him and if we do meet should i A) Just be happy
B) punch him in the face and say I HATE YOU BAST@RD

Or C) Start a huge arguement

Answer 1

Ask your dad what was the problem and why he didn't see you maybe this had a lot to do with your mum and her grievances.
When a family break down it is very hard for either party to admit the wrong.
Don't Fight.
Don't Argue
Just find out the reasons.

Answer 2

I can undertand where you are coming from. I have a son who is twenty and his Mother left (us) when he was almost three. He wanted to know about her and I was somehwhat reluctant as I felt he would get hurt. He did end up talking to her once and got burnt by her. I felt bad, but I think it gave him some closure.

Sometimes, things can turn out well. But you may have to find that on your own.

My son's Mother still has nothing to do with him to this day. So sometimes some (birth) parents are not all that great. Just love and care about who you have.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Best thing is you just tell him all you just said, that your are very nervous and very mad at him that it took him so long to get in contact with you. But also give him a change to know you again, you can tell him how fast or slow you want this to happened. Just give it a bit of time. Most Dads LOVE there Kids But they never tell them (something most Man have trouble with) Good luck, hope it works out for you.

Answer 4

You know, you probably have plenty of reasons to be angry.... but does it really hurt him or you more??? The anger and stress will only hurt you. Who knows, maybe he is doing a favor by staying gone if he wasn't a good father..... could you imagine broken promise after promise? Who knows what he could have put you through if he stayed? Forgiveness is a blessing that comes from God. If you go around yelling and cussing and blaming someone who isn't there for your failures, you are only failing because you let your hatred consume you and your time.... be good and succeed for you and those that are in your life.... God bless!

Answer 5

Why would you want to start a fight or hit someone that you have not seen in9 years. ?

Was he violent to you before he left.? why did he leave.? Were you old enough to remember him or are the things you know about him the things that someone else told you.? Are they the truth.?

You need to sit down and talk to him and find out why he left and why he did not have contact with in 9 years.

After that you can deside how you want to react.

Answer 6

I haven't seen my dad for about the same amount and then one day he showed up at the door and he gave me his number so i could call him and every time i call him he makes up an excuse that hes always busy and spend time with me what do you think about him? no obviously he does not care and if he cares he will call you and say why haven't you called me for nine years or even come to see me

Answer 7

Not funny.

I suppose you could do what you like but assaulting him might land you in trouble with the law, or it would if the police were vigilant and efficient enough.

Answer 8

Just be happy. Let all your anger go and accept that he is a person who does stupid person crap. When people become parents they don't automatically become saints. They are who they are. I bet your Mother wasn't surprised when he split.

Answer 9

Welll was your dad mean to you? Did he just abandon the family? I mean if he did abandon the family you should talk to him and ask him why he left. I f he was mean to you just remember, he is your dad so love him.

Answer 10

A

It pains me to see how much more the world is becoming separated.....


why can't parents work out their differences dammit?!