since i lost my mother 6 years ago from a massive heart attack i have had the fear of dying myself
2006-11-11 19:00:28 · 17 answers · asked by grcb2001 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
you can't hun. best way to cope is to face it head on. you have a history of heart attack. learn as many facts about it and change your daily/eating patterns. try to prepare for your future by starting a life insurance policy, will and testament. death and dying is part of life. best of luck.
2006-11-11 19:03:16 · answer #1 · answered by 123nickname123 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, are you afraid of the pain of dying or of the idea of being dead?
In some ways, it's possible to see how one's own death is basically irrelevant. I mean, you won't be around to comment upon the experience, or to observe it. In fact, there won't be a you at all. So.. what's to worry about there?
As for the pain, I suppose that's different. You may have a quick death in which case the pain will be so overwhelming that you'lll lose consciousness quickly. If you end up dying from some lingering illness, at least you'll have some time to reflect on your life, write your memoirs, etc. That could be a therapeutic thing. Plus, at some point, even if you're heavily medicated, you may end up being so sick that you'll want to die. Wanting it is better than fearing it - so at least you get to leave a bad situation.
I think what's just as important to consider about the inevitability of death is... how does that mean you should live your life? I think it means that you have to be you, and you need to get on the path to being you right away. You only go 'round once, and nobody's guaranteed tomorrow, so... do and be what you really want. Be authentically you, don't go with the crowd. That's its own kind of death.
I'd also recommend that you see the movie "Stranger than Fiction." Some of the things that Dustin Hoffman's character says about death are worth noting.
You may also want to look into how often you feel anxious & what events happen just before you start to imagine your own death. That might lead to some clues on how you can avoid thinking negatively. I mean, yes, you have to acknowledge mortality in order to be that whom you are, but after that, it does no good to dwell on it. In fact, it's that many less seconds you get to do more fun stuff.
Have some fun.
Be in charge of your life.
Be who you really are.
Don't give up your freedom to anyone and you'll have lived the best life you possibly can.
2006-11-12 03:14:38 · answer #2 · answered by Good Times, Happy Times... 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
read about life and the process of life . read the bible .
fear not living this life to the fullest and use that fear to make you find more of life do this each time you fear death
don't fear the first death but instead fear him that can bring the second death and learn where that came from what i wrote and then you will have a better understanding of the role death plays in life.
work hard to make sure that at least during every waking moment your not doing something that you would say wow i sure would have preferred to have not been doing that when i died.
take care of your own health lower your risk of heart failure and
other things risks .
know this when someone says have a nice day . what they should be saying is this is a blessed day for us to use to please God and share with others
2006-11-12 03:13:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have to keep your faith in God. I had two heart surgeries three years ago. I should have died but I didn't. I don't know how long the good Lord is giving me but I enjoy every day and thank him for it. If you live each day being afraid you will die, then life will pass you buy.
Now don't think I am crazy for saying this but there is a God and there is an after life. I have seen it. I will pray for you and take care.
2006-11-12 10:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by 10 to 20 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am the opposite. I actually feel more at peace with the idea of dying one day since my mom passed a few weeks ago.
2006-11-12 23:04:51 · answer #5 · answered by hrmom02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you have to face the fact that death is inevidible...all things that have life...must die.
I know how you are feeling...I think everyone, in a sense is scared to die, because they don't know how, when, where or why...
I think since you know death is a reality...because it hit home with your mom...you know that anything is possible.
You can't stop being afraid...all you have to do is LIVE...try not to ponder the thought so much..if it's gonna happen...it will without notice...there's not much you can do.
I say:
There is one gaurentee in life and that is death...
the sooner you fact this fact...and make peace with God...the sooner you release this fear..
2006-11-12 03:16:43 · answer #6 · answered by Lovely 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guess what? You're going to die... Maybe not today or tomorrow but someday it will happen.
You do however have a few choices. You can be freaked out by the inevitable or you can cope with reality.
Try allowing yourself to enjoy what life affords you. Death shrouds us all in a shadow if allowed.
2006-11-12 04:12:45 · answer #7 · answered by Aves 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to hear that you have been going through a hard time.
You need to talk to god tell him everything. I'm not scared of death as I no it is part of life so is being born. Pray to god everynight. Hope this helps
2006-11-12 03:55:05 · answer #8 · answered by Pippa H 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well mii mom died too wen ii was 8 and after that i thought of dying alot but just pray and become closer too God
2006-11-12 13:30:59 · answer #9 · answered by piinkbandanachiick55 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn about Jesus and His simple (for us) solution (acceptance). Believe and just accept Him as your personal Savior. God's Spirit will be able to save you until that great and wonder full day. Eternal salvation
2006-11-12 03:11:22 · answer #10 · answered by donutmiddel 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋