I just don't know what to do. He and I don't have very many of the same interests. He likes to drink, I don't. He's obsessed with Howard Stern, I hate Howard Stern. He likes anime, I hate anime. I try to do the things he likes so we can have something to do together but then he says he doesn't like it because I'm trying too hard. What do I do? I love him more than anything and I just want to be able to make him happy. It's tearing me up.
2006-11-11 18:58:27 · 21 answers · asked by Sara 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Advice for you!
To be Happy with a Man,
You have to UNDERSTAND him a lot
And LOVE him a little.
Advice for your boy friend!
To be Happy with a Woman,
You have to LOVE her a lot,
But never try to UNDERSTAND her.
2006-11-11 19:06:52 · answer #1 · answered by Simon The Saint 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Crazy that is what it is. There is nothing about you that is what can be termed a friendly. Friends share. You do not. So this man is not your man find someone else who will have common interest with you. In a relationship you must be yourself and not try too hard. Go find some other guy and be happy, The moment you ask a question on yahoo I can tell you are miserable
2006-11-12 03:08:34 · answer #2 · answered by R C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No relationship is happy if only one person is trying to do it all. Both people must try to work together to create happiness for both of them. Which of your hobbies has your boyfriend made an effort to take an interest in? Take a step back from trying to be super-woman and let him do his share for a change.
2006-11-12 03:01:36 · answer #3 · answered by Liz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
See if you can work out a compromise with him. Maybe spend some time apart so that he can do things that he enjoys and you can do things that you enjoy. Make a Girls Night Out and do the town with your buddies while he watches Howard Stern or goes out with his friends.
2006-11-12 03:01:30 · answer #4 · answered by Heather 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think he is happy being with you. It sounds to me that he loves you the way you are and appreciate you for trying to have the same interest. He doesn't want to see you miserable by trying something you already know that you don't like. Why not trying something new for both of you? You maybe able to find new common interests.
2006-11-12 03:04:23 · answer #5 · answered by Sweetie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you don't have anything in common with him then why are you with him? If you want the relationship to grow and flourish and progress to a deeper level (eg. towards marriage) then you have to ask yourself if this is the right person. If you struggle hard now to get along, then think what it'll be like when you're deeper and longer into your relationship.
2006-11-12 03:16:18 · answer #6 · answered by X M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't change for him. Be who you are. If you don't like something, say so and don't pretend to like it just because he does. By your tone, it does not sound like you are doing this. It sounds like you are trying to be open-minded. I would suggest talking to him about the way that you feel. Opposites do attract. But if he is not willing to try your interests. Then, you may want to reconsider the relationship. Relationships are work, but you should not be constantly trying to make him happy and he does nothing in return except complain.
2006-11-12 03:04:31 · answer #7 · answered by Angrygirl5 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
think back to what first brought you together, what made you guys want to go out.Alot of times we forget those things. But maybe if theres nothing you agree on theres a reason, maybe he should just be a good friend. And why is he not trying to do stuff you like too? its a two way street. good luck mommyblues
2006-11-12 03:04:31 · answer #8 · answered by mommyblues78 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the keywords i noted in your details;
"try too hard"
"he doesnt like it"
cant you see.. if your bf really cant stand the differences between you two, he would have left himself but he didnt. he loved you for who you are. whoever said a relationship can only work for people who are similar and have similar interests? sorry, i dont buy that at all. a good relationship is when you two can overcome all those differences and still remain together.
2006-11-12 03:03:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anna D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hunny you have to worry about youself too!!! if he loves you he should be putting forth some effort himself. dont focus on things you dont have in common, but more in those that you do. he doesnt want you to be like him, im sure he likes who YOU are. my boyfriend of 6 years and i dont have a lot of common interest, but thats what keeps things interesting!
2006-11-12 03:03:42 · answer #10 · answered by jcmodelchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋