Loneliness SUCKS!!?

Question

I dont know what it is..I allow woman to use me..and I fall for them very easily..I've felt nothing but hurt from them..is it that bad for a man to actually care? I can never meet a girl that truly likes me..Im a shy quiet (from what I hear) very hot guy... is that all woman want is a hot guy from time to time for some fun and **** pleasure? I'm a poor talker maybe thats my problem.. I just wait for a girl to approach me..and I accept whatever comes..im tired of it... I'm tired of being used...I know I know...I sound like a chick right now...but if ya knew me..you would understand..on top of girl problems..I hate life..which is a main reason I cant ever open up...I dont want her to know my dark thoughts... im scared of life... I stay alive for my family and hopes of some sweet girl will love me and help me.. but thats alot to ask I guess huh? should I just end all these bullshit thoughts and hopes and end life as a whole? I dont want too.. but I feel im better off if I did..

Answer 1

Oh man.. well if it makes you feel better I pray to find a guy like you everyday...Trust me...you wouldn't be better off dead..there is always hope.. maybe you had to go through all the bad so that when it is good you won't just throw it away.. i think thats what some peoples problem is.. they don't know a good thing when they have got it...please don't give up.. the right person will come along, and until then..there is always Yahoo! Answers....lol ;-P Hope I made you laugh!! get out and have some fun... do all the things married people wish they could still do...

Answer 2

Hey man, "ending it" is never the answer. I've been there, done that and I know exactly how you're feeling. A lot of times, it's better to get to know the person as a friend before getting any closer to her. Let the friendship phase linger a while before making the decision to be close. You're going to go through a lot of "junk" before finding a good lady friend. But the first thing is to get out of the "I hate life" mode. It's hard, especially when you can't find a good direction to take. Sometimes it's better just to hang with the guys for a while and not worry about other things (girls, for example). I suggest just taking it easy for now, just do whatever you need to do to fulfill your priorities, and let everything else come second nature. It's hard to tell yourself this, and it's even harder to do it, but once you get back to a higher ground in life, you'll see that it's worth the effort. Just hang in there and believe in yourself.

Answer 3

Sounds like you have self esteem issues along with the fact that your settling for women you have nothing in common with. There are a lot of women out there that have no desire to hurt people just like there are men. I'm sure this sounds like something you've heard before but you should seek some counseling. It will help you learn to open up and be more positive about life and women. I would hope no one that answers your question would recommend you end it all, if they do please don't listen to them they would have no idea what their talking about.

Answer 4

You sound depressed. Ask your parents to get you some counseling.

You are very turned inside of yourself. Time to open up and respect and love yourself. Until you do, you won't find love.

You LET yourself be abused. It sounds like you are not meeting a quality woman.

Get some counseling and maybe even some medication.

You are repeating negative self talk in your head. Time to reprogram your thoughts. Self talk yourself out of this.

You area in more control of your destiny than you realize.

Answer 5

NO, don't think like that. everyone goes throug sucky relationships sometime in life. I have felt the same way you have lots of times. I have considered myself very loving and kind and i have been walk on badly. But just hold on. You WILL find your someone special. You have to love yourself and be proud of you. Look at all the qualities in you. You said it yourself. your quiet,hot,pleasurable, and kind. don't let these wreched women out there get you down. it'll happen be patient. and fianlly, don't only live for your family live for yourself and for the woman who does care for you in your future.

Answer 6

it sounds like maybe you need a little more confidence. most girls are not just after guys that are hott or whatever... and if they are, they arent worth it. confidence is a major 'turn on' for girls. i think its good for guys to be sensitive, to share their 'feelings' or whatever somewhat. if it is a certain someone... maybe you should tell her how you feel. dont worry, things will get better for sure. but if you're tired of how you are, do something about it. i would write more but you are probably tired of reading this...

Answer 7

I've felt that way before. And I've similar experiences with girls and women trying to control me. I used to hate my life. My friends, family, relatives (even my parents)... I used to be sick of everyone. I couldn't stand being around people. But it was because I wasn't happy with myself. I didn't know what I wanted to do (or be) in life. I had goals but I didn't know where to start to make them a reality - or how. And sometimes I just had too many goals.

I used to think that if I had a good woman who was assertive and ambitious, then I would have all the support and inspiration I needed to be a success. But this is a pipe-dream and living off of false hope. The Power to do anything is inside of you. YOU have to be assertive for yourself. You control your own Destiny simply by the Philosophies and Decisions YOU MAKE for yourself.

You want a woman to lead sometimes but you don't want her to boss you around or tell you what to do. You want a woman who has the same dreams, and who is ambitious and intelligent. A Diva. Someone who is a good friend. Trustworthy. Honorable. Dependable. And most of all, a woman who's got your back.

That's what a lot of men crave, but most women don't know it. They expect men to lead all of the time and make most of the decisions, so it will be hard for you to find a good woman like the one you want. There are plenty of them out there, but there are more hoodrats than there are Divas. You can find one, but you have to get your mind right. You have to change your ways of thinking. A woman like that isn't gonna fall right in your lap. You have to "position" yourself to meet that type of woman.

You have to create your own opportunities. You have to have Vision - a dream, or a Goal. You have to Network and meet people. You have to be Confident and Assertive. Sometimes aggressive. Sometimes imposing.

It's all about your "Game" or the "MasterPlan" you've laid out for your own Personal Success.

Don't be afraid of people or of falling short sometimes. Don't be a person who seeks approval from others for your own happiness. Spend time thinking about what you want and need out of life. I know it's hard because of all the chaos - it's seems like the World is going downhill real fast, but you can't focus on that. If you want it to be a better place, then you have to do your part to make it a better place. You have to do what you can to help. DON'T QUIT ON US! Don't give up on yourself! Who knows, you may be "our only hope". ?

So, think about it. But you must strive to improve your Game.

Brother DzL (AsP)
"The Player's Lifestyle

Answer 8

no do NOT i mean do NOT end your life because of your negativity you will find Mrs. Right its just time will tell and don't let the girls use you that is just wrong jsut stay positive and have fun enjoy life take care man

Answer 9

Loneliness doesn't suck.

The lady under my desk sucks, and she doing a great job at it. Heh heh. "Keep it up, Lisa. You're doing good."

As for the other, why not stop whining about life, stop feeling so sorry for yourself, and go out there and grab life by the ballz and make it your biotch?

There are a LOT of people who are in much worse situations then you will ever be, and they keep chugging along with their lives.

Answer 10

Life is only boring if you make it boring. Try to make some frIends, join a club or something.