never thought i'd be on here whining like most do on here,but here i am. Anyways heres the thing,i've been dating a Marine since this (August). i've only seen him twice on dates and spent the night with him once. He's in his 40s and im 19 going on 20,i know most of you are thinking EWW lol. Anyway,i like older guys ,and i talked to him today on the phone and asked him why i dont see him, he said because I'll get him angry? and he doesn't want that,but he decided he wants to make love to me,but i told him from the beginning i wanted to wait until Marriage,and then he now says he changed his mind he doesnt want to wait 4 me. He wants me to either swallow his *** or make love to him,he says Adult relationships do all of that. I just feel confused,does everyone do everything like that? He's really a great guy i can talk to,but does have an attitude cuz he's a Marine..i dont know,maybe he's showing his true colors finally,he's so good yet sucha jerk at the same time. SERIOUS RESPONSES PLS
2006-11-11 18:52:35 · 11 answers · asked by yahooaddict 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you all for your answers! I probably should leave him,he said we were just dating,then last week he said i was his gf..and now he says in order to stay his gf i gotta do that sex stuff. he said im selfish and only think about myself,but all of you have really shown me that im not and its him. thanks to all of you,wish i could give u all 10 pts!! :)
2006-11-11 19:22:20 · update #1
Victoria You are describing almost all guys that want you to put out for them, sweet as can be and prepared to wait until they realize that you are serious and that you are waiting for a band on your finger a license in your album and a husband in your bed before you cross that threshold of adult sexual relations .
Quite frankly I say cut him loose and see what comes , If he loves you as he says then he will wait and respect your decision . but to me it sounds like he wants your body and that is that . jerk yes but only a human jerk .
2006-11-11 19:02:33 · answer #1 · answered by slick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i honestly think you should leave him , if you truly want to wait until marriage and he doesnt rspect that then he is not worth your time, i my opinion the sex and swallowing is more a part of a teenage relatioship and in an adult relationship there should be more respect...he isn't giving you the respect that you deserve. You clearly like this guy and thats why this is a difficult decision, but take it from me, you don't wanna stay with him if all he wants is action,he isnt going to keep you happy in the long run.
good luck, sorry bout the poor typing....
2006-11-11 18:58:32 · answer #2 · answered by dundledee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, mature adult relationships do INVOLVE sex but they don't REVOLVE around sex. If you are not ready and he is rushing you, then get out of the relationship. Anyone worth being with will be patient and respect your morals enough to allow you to make your own decision. Also, don't let him use the fact that he's a marine be an excuse for him to treat you poorly. The fact that he doesn't want to see you often because you might make him angry says that he's not ready for a real relationship and you don't owe sex to a man who won't cherish you for who you are.
2006-11-11 18:56:43 · answer #3 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i would leave if i were you oyuve only seen him tiwce, yeah you talk on the phone but he;s already aking for sex!!!! his "adult relationships" sound silly. not most people may or may not do thaty. its whatever you feel comfortable tih. its good that you're waiting till marriage alot of me will respect for you for that aand the ones who dont are just SELFISH JERKS< which he souldnt liek too me..im 19 too and if i were you i wold stop talking to hima dn find someone a little less old ;-) and find someone who will respect you and not give you the attitiude, you deserve better honey!
good luck and be strong.
2006-11-11 19:06:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just my opinion that he does not seem all that nice of a guy if he is expecting that. It appears he is looking just for sex mostly. Since your near twenty and an adult...it is your decision. Let him go and see what happens. I am sure you will find someone that is willing to wait.
Good luck!
2006-11-11 19:04:48 · answer #5 · answered by Bruce L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he just want you for sex. Real adult men respect a lady's wish to wait to have sex till marriage. He may be in his 40's but he is not mature in any way. Don't give in to his wants.
2006-11-11 18:57:35 · answer #6 · answered by Sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is NOT a great guy, he is a sexual predator. He has no regard whatsoever for your feelings, it's just "swallow or else" with him. Why do you think you need to let yourself be blackmailed like this? Don't you think you can get someone better than this aging control freak?
2006-11-11 18:55:27 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing with your head to get what he wants. Being a marine is not an excuse for the way he's acting. You'll be ok, just go.
2006-11-12 06:37:12 · answer #8 · answered by Brad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
***if he was a good guy who really cared about and respected you he'd wait. all adult relationships do NOT involve one person not caring about the other person's beliefs. don't fall prey to this selfish man. there are many out there who would be willing to treat u right.
2006-11-11 18:56:42 · answer #9 · answered by meme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, he is just using you to get sex, im sorry but you must face this.He is way to old for you and he knows how to manipulate you..You deserve a nice boyfriend who cares for you and wont push your limits..
2006-11-11 18:56:31 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋