i am 28 and still waiting until i am married, and i am constantly getting ripped on for it by the people i know. i know i haven't found mrs. right yet, and choose to save myself until i do, why is that so wrong in todays world?
2006-11-11 18:40:42 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
God Bless you. To me thats fine! I am 31 and in the same boat.
Not everyone will think so. Remeber, you have a right to believe and practice what you want, just like anyone else.
Bless your courage brother! Lets pray each other finds our woman soon! I'll pray for u and u for me....my name is David
Thanks for your question, peace to all!
2006-11-11 18:45:37 · answer #1 · answered by judge_smails_sir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Its not wrong to wait if thats what you choose to do.
I used to believe in waiting for mr right. But I chose that it should happen before i turned 30yrs old. And I haven't been sleeping around. I had one partner and only one sexual encounter since.
The thing I think is wrong in todays world is that the TV we watch is soooooo geared to sex and that it is promoted is why teenagers get the idea.....hey they do it on TV. They get presured by peers to do it.
In todays society it is all about what others are doing. Groups are valued. Individuals are not. I am an individual and proud. I didn't loose my virginity because my friends "said they have". I don't shave my underarms or legs because society says I should.
Most groups will talk about having had sex but in reality maybe only one person has had it. But the others feel pressure to conform. Its a sad indicament on society.
I used to get ripped in chat rooms when I said I was 29 and still a virgin. They would say things like "yeah right more like 12 or 14.
There is more and more pressure for kids to grow up fast too.
I do hope you don't get ripped to much. People don't like what is out of the ordinary. They can't handle it.
I am happy your waiting good on you!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-11 18:50:45 · answer #2 · answered by Tania S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with it. In fact, that is the way God wants it to be. People are not like cars that have to be test driven first. When you truly love someone there are no conditions. Just like, if your child is not the way you want him to be, you don't abandon him/her. You love your child still. I admire men with self control, it means that most likely, they will stay true to their marriage even when things get rough and not take the easy way out. People nowadays are hedonistic and think only of material pleasure and not what is right.
2006-11-11 18:54:20 · answer #3 · answered by Kellybelle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because crappy sex can ruin a relationship, and especially a marriage. A farmer won't buy a cow until he tastes the milk. What if you find your Ms. Right, and find out she's not a virgin? Then what? If she's totally perfect for you in every way, would you dump her if she wasn't a virgin too? And I'm sorry, but at 28, good luck finding one. A virgin, I mean, not a girl.
2006-11-11 18:48:07 · answer #4 · answered by ReeRee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong, but it is just not the norm of American society. If you do something that is against the grain, people think you are weird and different and start to believe that there is something wrong with you or that your gay. I'm 21, have remained abstinent, and will remain until marriage. So you are not alone buddy.
2006-11-11 18:46:11 · answer #5 · answered by Tripper 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. By setting yourself apart for your future spouse, you are being faithful to and loving her even before you met her. I think that there is a common misconception that people, who are waiting for sex until they are married are prudish or have hang ups. Our pornified society is riddled with heartbreak, one night stands, divorce, cheap romance, love that only fades after the dance, etc. Don't be discouraged when they say you're a fool to waiting for something more.
2006-11-11 19:00:54 · answer #6 · answered by idwstay 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well,
nothing is wrong with it really, if you have not masturbated.
if you have, then you havent really saved yourself in a meaningful way, so you might as well just go for it.
saving onesself for marriage after they have spent half of their life masturbating, is somewhat of an egocentric - pat myself on the back - kind of an act.
its barely a sacrifice.
however, if you have totally abstained from any sexual contact, then you have committed the ultimate altruism, and you will have something to be proud of and thankful for - for the rest of your happy married life.
2006-11-11 18:44:49 · answer #7 · answered by markisme 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good for you. There is nothing wrong with that at all. You will be so happy you waited and you will have something your friends wont....sharing the experience with one person and one person alone, the word jealous springs to mind.
2006-11-11 23:34:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with it. Live what you believe and don't worry about what others say... There's a lot of people who wish they had of waited and admire those who do.
2006-11-11 18:44:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, it's not wrong at all, but make sure you have a lot of energy left at the time of marriage, You'll need all of it. Take care.
All the best.
2006-11-11 18:42:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋