how do i ask someone if she has an std? or should i expect her to tell me if she does?
is there anyway to ask your partner without making it seem offensive?
2006-11-11 18:37:23 · 12 answers · asked by freewonderingsoul 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nobody will answer if you ask about that. It's too ashamed to told. Better if you do safe sex practice using condom or the best is to do after you've married.
2006-11-11 18:42:44 · answer #1 · answered by eddy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's good to discuss these things. You can ask her the last time she has been tested. Tell her that STD's are very common and you are very careful about these things. I suggest using condoms until she can show you a clean bill of health. Some people may feel embarassed and lie to you, or they may not know they have a disease. You cannot count on someone being honest with you.
2006-11-11 18:47:21 · answer #2 · answered by funandsun20 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest and straight forward. most likely you'll be saving your own life by asking a simple and honest question. if you can't get yourself into asking her if has an std, then try working yourself into talking about the issue before you start anything. try playing truth or dare and then come up with the question. if she's honest then she'll tell you, if not, then forget it. dying for a piece of flesh for fantasy is not worth it. if so, have plenty of rubbers handy. heavy duty with a bottle of jack daniels to kill off the sting...
2006-11-11 18:50:13 · answer #3 · answered by nodiggity_1357 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just plain and simple ask if they have been with multiple partners and if they have ask them if they have been tested for anything and if they say no then I wouldn't sleep with them. They will respect being asked as to nobody wants to have a disease or something.
2006-11-11 19:05:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to ask the question if you tell her the kind of protection you use, You can ask her at that point if it is OK. That you have your mutual welfare in mind, I think she would be grateful and would respect you a lot.
2006-11-11 18:43:56 · answer #5 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use protection! Unless shes a whore and has been with a ton of people I wouldn't ask, If you do you probably won't need to worry about sleeping her or even talking to her.
2006-11-11 18:50:15 · answer #6 · answered by 6986isin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should definitely ask that question, for your own safety. If a potential partner becomes offended by this question, it only shows that they have something to hide.
2006-11-11 18:41:38 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would bring it up very casually cos you could offend. Hopefully you'll be wearing a condom anyway to protect both of you.
2006-11-11 18:39:43 · answer #8 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for 1 ur not married so dont even do it and if she has done it before then u r more than likely to end up with 1
2006-11-11 18:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by irishchick 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just ask her.
2006-11-11 18:40:42 · answer #10 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋