2006-11-11 18:33:35 · 8 answers · asked by niceSasha 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
People talk about the "terrible twos". Personally, I think most people choose the best behavior they know that will help them get what they want. She has found that screaming is a behavior that gets her what she wants. Probably because you are willing to do or give her almost anything to get her to stop screaming.
There are some things you can do, if you do them consistently, that might help.
1. When she seems to want some attention, try to give her some right away, so she doesn't have to scream to get it.
2. Lower the volume in your home. Turn down the TV, the music, and the other sounds that she has to compete with.
3. Try keeping a low, calm voice yourself. Never scream at her or anyone else. Even and especially when she is screaming. She will have to quieten to hear what you are saying.
4. She is probably capable of speaking some. Tell her, "I don't understand screaming. Please use your words." She may be frustrated that she cannot yet express herself verbally.
5. Be sure she gets enough sleep. She still needs a daytime nap.
6. Be consistent. If you tell her "no" about something, be prepared to stick with it. Once you say "no" then give in because she is screaming, you have defeated yourself. Choose battles carefully.
7. Sometimes she just needs to be held. Up til now she was an infant and had much more attention from you. As she is gaining independence, she does not have you at her beck and call. Maybe she misses you.
8. Last but not least, pray to Our Mother Mary to give you wisdom and strength...or pray to whoever you believe in.
Be assured that this too, shall pass. Hang in there. If you are too stressed and at your wit's end, ask a friend to give you a break when you need it. Trade off with another mother sometimes.
Peace be with you.
2006-11-11 18:53:25 · answer #1 · answered by Annamaria 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She may be teething. Children cut a set of molars around 2 and those gave my first son more grief than the baby teeth! Just look in her mouth - you might see swollen gums, partly-erupted molars or even pink saliva if they're bleeding a little. IF her teeth are bothering her, some Orajel and some popcicles will help, and maybe a little baby Tylenol.
Remember, she can't tell you what's wrong other than crying. Try not to lose patience with her because of the noise! Use earplugs for yourself if necessary. If she continues crying a lot, do take her in to see a doctor. It may be something like an ear infection that must be treated soon.
She may be able to answer simple questions like "Do you hurt? Can you point to where you hurt?" My son, at 2, would say "Mouth hurt!" when he had tonscillitis. Good luck.
2006-11-11 19:05:53 · answer #2 · answered by thyladydulcinea 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you think is the cause of her screaming? (teething, gas, she wants something and doesn't know how to ask?) when does she scream? (All day, in the evenings before bedtime?) Is she eating normally? Has her diet changed? Is she sleeping normally? (how long? naps?)
Something could be really wrong with her and it would be wrong to assume that she is just crying for attention or to get her way. You need to give us more information.
2006-11-12 08:21:58 · answer #3 · answered by ponysrfree 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take it from a mother of 2kids who were screaming their head off when they were 2yso. It had nothing to do with attention, as my parents and I were giving them plenty.
It's just them trying to test boundaries. Don't worry, my 2nd child is now 2 1/2 and he is already over it.
Just have patience. Good luck.
2006-11-11 20:24:17 · answer #4 · answered by Mirage 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is she in pain, maybe an ear infection or some other infection? If you think it's medical, call the hospital and an on-duty nurse can talk to you and then decide if she needs to be seen.
2006-11-11 18:43:50 · answer #5 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son did this some cases. no longer very nearly as usually, nonetheless. i could attempt letting him sleep with you a at a similar time as. teenagers have undesirable desires even that youthful. sit down with him with the lights on, perhaps his fave. caricature till he falls asleep from the convenience.
2016-12-17 08:40:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you still l trying to wean her of breast milk? (I remember your question from about a week ago) If she is still upset because of the new milk, maybe she is having a bad reaction to cow's milk.
There's lots of reasons babies cry, but it is worth a call to her doctor. They can help you rule out any illness.
2006-11-11 20:31:14 · answer #7 · answered by bluestem0916 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
More information is needed...screaming why? Is she hurt, or what?
2006-11-11 18:54:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋