Distracted son?

Question

My son who is nine years old is studying in standard four, is always distracted easily in class. He finds it just too difficult to focus himself on anything, be it during classwork or during homework. time.Hates to write. A couple of years ago he was diagnosed with ADHD syndrome, but the paedatrician also mentioned that this is no big deal to worry about since all kids of his age are bound to behave in a similar manner. Although there were ups and downs in our family household earlier, this could have affected him. But now for the past one year his dad plays with him and is very cooperative towards us. During homework, when he gets to be a little inattentive, I give vent to my anger and pour all sorts of insults. But later I apologise to him before going to bed. My son is not the type to keep any ill-will in his mind, since he forgives and forgets very easily. He has a good moral values in him for which he has been ranked as an A grade student. But overall academically, he scores a B.

Answer 1

MY SON HAS ADHD AND IS NINE YRS OLD WE HAVE A LOT OF STRUCTURE LIKE SCHEDULED TIMES TO DO THINGS AND IT HAS REALLY HELPED WITH HOMEWORK BEHAVIORS AND EVERYTHING. JUST REMEMBER BEFORE YOU LASH OUT AT HIM ,HE DOES HAVE A PROBLEM AND DOES NEED LOVE AND UNDERSTANDING. THERE IS SUPPORT GROUP FOR PEOPLE WITH ADHD AND THEIR FAMILIES MAYBE TRY ON OF THOSE BECAUSE SOONER OR LATER WORDS AND ACTIONS BEGIN TO HURT. I ALSO PUT IN A COUPLE WEB SITES ABOUT ADHD THAT HELPED ME. GOOD LUCK TO YOU GUYS AND HANG IN THERE . YOU WILL FIND YOUR GROOVE. I ALSO PUT A COPY OF WHAT MY SONS SCHEDULE LOOKS LIKE DAY TO DAY MAYBE THAT WILL HELP TOO. MY SON HAS A'S AND B AND DOES VERY WELL IN SCHOOL.WITH THE SCHEDULE AND MEDS HIS LIFE IS ON TRACK!

6:20 WAKE UP & EAT BREAKFAST& TAKE ADHD MEDICINE,VITMANS
6:50 BRUSH TEETH&WAS FACE AND HANDS
6.55 GET DRESSED EVERYTHING GOES ON
7:05 BRUSH HAIR AND GET BACK PACK FOR SCHOOL
7:10 GO TO SCHOOL
3:30 RETURNS FROM SCHOOL AFTERNOON SNACK
3:45 STARTS HOMEWORK AND READS BOOK
4:45 DOES HIS NIGHTLY CHORES HE HAS THREE SIMPLE CHORES
5:45 WE EAT DINNER
6:15 PLAY TIME-TV TIME FREE TIME
8:00 BRUSH TEETH&TAKE SHOWER
8:20 GET RELAXED BEFORE BED
8:30 LIGHTS OUT

ON THE WEEKENDS IT CHANGES A LITTLE BIT HE GETS TO STAY UP LATER! SCHEDULES REALLY DO HELP WITH ADHD! GOOD LUCK!

Source(s):

http://www.nimh.nih.gov/publicat/adhd.cf...

http://www.chadd.org/content/chadd/under...

Answer 2

You need to stop insulting him. He may forgive easily but it will still have an effect on his self-esteem. My son also has an attention problem. Sometimes it is very difficult helping him with his homework. If I start to become angry I will step outside or let him go run off some energy for a minute. It does no good to sit there and yell at him constantly.

Answer 3

i have an 8yr old , diagnosed as adhd 2 yrs ago. she takes meds only at school-this year she was put in a gifted child program-AIG. i know how you feel, doing his homework-that why my husband does it now. if he is really advanced in reading, this is a clue of being gifted.my daughter is in 3rd grade- 6th grade reading.i`d take him to see a professional, myself. unless, you just vent to anger easily, then, maybe you need some anger management classes- no , honestly i not trying to be mean, cause i`ve been there, with the homework deal & got SO MAD i tore it up-her homework! (before diagnosed)-but frankly,kids responds to fathers better also.

Answer 4

Please Read(!!!) Misadiagnosis and dual diagnoses of gifted children and adults, by James T. webb. Even if he has not been identified as gifted, this is the most informative and objective book on this subject (ADHD). You can find it on Amazon.
Then please try to accept your son for who he is - then get help for him to deal with the issues and to be able to cope. Perhaps a tutor that deals with different learning styles can help him with his writing.
Also, figure out different ways to parent rather than insults. Love & Logic and Assertive parenting are both great programs...also with homework help, check out Homework without tears by Lee Canter. I know where you are at as a parent, but I also feel for your son. Please check out these resources.