I'm currently in a long distance relationshilp. My bf and I met while we were students at AZ State. He graduated a year early and moved back home. We kept it up. Things were going ok, yet there was always some trust issue. For some reason I felt like he was never telling me the truth about what's going on in his life. Like I recently found about some girl he was seeing around the same time we got together.
I recently graduated and moved back to Phoenix. Things had gotten much worst. We're constantly fighting and I really feel like I can't trust him. He moved even further away from me, so we'll see each other less. I don't know what to do. I love him, and he's the first guy I've thought about having a future with. Yet, this trust issue is tearing us apart and I really don't want to deal with it anymore. I've tried to break up with him. but he still wants to be together. Yet, he's not planning to move closer to me
Anyone's been through a similar situation? What should I do?
2006-11-11 18:08:23 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's not ready to be serious or he would arrange to be closer. Tell him you think you should both start dating others and check his reaction. I fear he is pulling away from you.
Sorry...
Hope you can make the best of it....
2006-11-11 18:47:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to break up with him. If you can't trust him, you shouldn't be with him. If you don't want to call it a "break up", let him know that you need a little time and a little space. Once you step back from the situation, you'll be able to see things a little more clearly.
It's hard when someone you want to be with and think you love is untrustworthy. Until you can absolutely prove that he's not to be trusted, there will always be that doubt that you made the right choice by leaving him. But for your own sanity, you really need to be separate from him for a while.
It sounds like it's not just your not being able to trust him but the distance thing as well. Trust me, long distance relationships are difficult to maintain, even in this day and age of Internet and cell phones. I was in one and was even going to marry the guy util he decided to cheat on me. If your guy is not willing to make a move to be closer to you or you're not willing to move closer to him (I'm assuming because of the trust issue), then you really need to go your separate ways and find someone closer to home.
Good luck!
2006-11-12 02:16:00 · answer #2 · answered by grizabellamom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in the same situation before. I went to school in Oregon and my boyfriend which is now my ex-boyfriend lived back at home in Hawaii. I wanted to break up before I went to Oregon because I knew that he wouldn't be faithful to me. But he insisted that we be together and have this long distance relationship. So we did, for four miserable years of my life. I look back now and tell myself why did I put myself through that pain and long suffering. I was truely faithful for three years of being away. He fooled around two months after leaving him back at home, but I still stayed with him for another four years after that. I finally made the decision to leave him one year ago actually two years ago. Ever since than I have been a happier person. I stayed with him because I loved him and I also thought of building my future with. I mean he would tell me he's going to marry me and support me and all that stupid bs. So I never wanted to leave him, even if there was insecurity. I too tried to break up with him, and he still wanted to be together. Your bf only wants to stay with you because he knows that you will always be there for him. When he's finished having play time where ever he is, and if it doesn't work out for him. He knows you'll be there for him with open arms. Long distance realtionships are really trying times. I would leave him now! And I swear after a year goes by, you'll look back and won't regret leaving him. Yes it'll be hard for the first six months or even a year. But I'm telling you, you'll be happier.
2006-11-12 02:21:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are hard to maintain. Listen to your gut and not youer emotions. if you feel like it's time to let go, do so. And be available to other lovely people in your area who want to relate wioth you and love you and probably someone out here has been wondering whether you can spend the rest of your lives together, but you appear unavailable...
2006-11-12 02:12:05 · answer #4 · answered by Trinity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I could relate. Start seeing other guys and once you do don't be shy about telling because if he gets upset he cares if not than move on because chances are he is probably seeing someone on the down low.
2006-11-12 02:20:25 · answer #5 · answered by DVD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be positive
2006-11-12 02:10:08 · answer #6 · answered by killer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋