2006-11-11 18:04:24 · 21 answers · asked by Kevin 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Are you attracted to the woman?
Are you opposed to dating someone who has had sex and a child with someone else?
Do you like children and are you willing to accept the 6 yr old as your own should the relationship blossom into love and commitment?
Do you realize dating and being in a relationship with a woman (man) with kids is a package deal?
Are you mature enough to accept the level of responsibility and commitment involved should the relationship become committed?
If your answers are
Yes
No
Yes
Yes
Yes
Have a date and see where it goes...
If however any of your answers vary from those given it's best that you don't persue any type of relationship with this particuar woman, it would not be fair to you, her, or her child...
2006-11-11 18:23:43 · answer #1 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think as long as you like this woman you should give it a try. Realise though you will be getting an instant family even if this is not what you want. You will have to be nice to the child and include him in some of your dates. Also, the biggest thing is: Can you stand having the kids father in the picture? Are you the jealous sort? Will you think things are going on between them?
That is if the childs father is in the picture. If you are not the jealous type I say go for it. You may be missing out on a very special person. Maybe someone you were meant to be with. Kids make life interesting. Good luck with your decision.
2006-11-12 03:02:11 · answer #2 · answered by janine b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is something that is up to you. Only you can make that decision. I mean when it comes to a mom and her kid they come as a package. If you want the mom then you need to accept her son. If you don't want the son then you better forget about the mother. Just understand also that you will not become an instant father but you need to set an example while around young children, and know that he may become attached to you. But at the same time he may reject you and that is something that you will have to work on.
2006-11-11 18:12:29 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Vira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you and the mother of the boy want in the relationship.
If it's just physical, then I say no. Eventually, someone always wants more, and if the other one doesn't, then it's not just that person who gets hurt; The little boy will be hurt as well.
If the two of you are looking for something a bit more lasting, then do try it out, but you have to keep in mind that it's not a relationship between two people, but rather, three.
2006-11-11 18:11:06 · answer #4 · answered by Nellie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure why not. You may be missing out on a great woman.Just date her though. Get to know her before you ever meey her son. Wait like 6 mos. Kids do not need to see their mom around other men unless it is a serious relationship. It could confuse them and add stress.
2006-11-11 19:24:46 · answer #5 · answered by Holly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why no just because you date a women does not mean that she wants you to take care of her responsability. She is doing it her self right now so i am sur that it would be fine nad o yeah 6 years old ar ethe coolest lol
2006-11-11 18:07:18 · answer #6 · answered by Helpmeplease 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes; just because she's a mom doesn't mean she quit being a woman. If you want time alone, offer to pay for (and arrange!!!) a sitter now and then; be sure to balance it with time for the little boy too, so he doesn't resent you.
2006-11-11 18:12:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me put it to you like this....
NOBODY CAN ANSWER THIS QUESTION BUT YOU!!!
You are having a relationship with his mother. You have to be able to be nice and spend time with her son. My fiance has 2 kids other than our daughter together. They respect me and treat me well, and I treat them just as if they were my own. (In fact sometimes I wish they were).
Anyways, you have to know what you can deal with and nobody on this board can answer that for you.
2006-11-11 18:14:36 · answer #8 · answered by tonip1963 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can embrace the child as your own, and if the only reason the woman got a divorce is because it was her husband's fault and not her's. If the child is illegitimate, she is probably irresponsible and susceptible to temptation.
2006-11-11 18:08:01 · answer #9 · answered by David W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you're looking for. Don't get involved with the kid and he falls in love with you and then you're gone. How old are you? Why bother with all the baggage if you don't have to? You'll probably have to deal with her ex and all that goes with it.
2006-11-11 18:14:02 · answer #10 · answered by Dianne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋