my mother's nature is totaly opposite to me. like, she is not social but i am, she is not talktative but i am, she is religious but i am not. i don't get any help from her.
2006-11-11 17:50:14 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Shes your mother, your not choosing a friend or a boyfriend. Thats just the way she is. If there are things you can't talk to her about then just discuss them with friends that are on the same wavelength as you. My parents are very conservative whereas I am totally open minded so I just don't discuss things that would insult or offend them. Talk about things ye have in common, do activities that you think she would enjoy and don't be so against her. She has values that are important to her and you have values that are important to you, if they clash then just don't bring them up or cause an argument. Respect her and value her and I know its frustrating to have parents with ideas so different to yours but don't resent her for that. good luck
2006-11-11 23:51:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bottom line she is your mother. Just because you are not like you, that doesn't give you the right to say that she is not your type that is just being mean. If everyone was the same the world would be a pretty boring place. You need to sit down and talk to your mum and if you need help ask her for it, its no used just amusing that she will just give it, if she doesn't know why you want it. Also have you ever taken her out anywhere, if not why don't you do that and talk to your mum. I feel that you need to get to know her, because at the moment you have very negative views about her and that is not a good thing
2006-11-12 04:53:23 · answer #2 · answered by Baps . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whose mother is 'their type'? Geeez, girl. You sound like you're still very young, and if that is the case, your mother may one day become your very best friend.
I don't know anything about the situation other than what you've written, which is very little, and quite frankly, is a pretty horrendous way of thinking about your mom. Unless she's abusive to you, or controlling, then what is up with that? It is possible to get along with people who are totally opposite of you, you know. It's time you grew up and learned that. Otherwise you may find yourself without friends at all.
2006-11-12 07:46:42 · answer #3 · answered by Shayna 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's not your type.? Your type for what.? Are you wanting to be her best friend.? Do you want to hang out with your mother.? Go shopping with her.?
No body ever said that you had to get along with your mother.
You need to try and stop thinking it is a bad thing that you and your mother are not a like. It is what it is.
Have you ever thought that you are the way you are BECAUSE of your mother. Maybe her not being talkative or social is what she wishes she was and tryed to teach you to be those things.?
It wouldnt kill you to be a little religious would it.??
2006-11-12 02:04:54 · answer #4 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong in being religious or reserved or in being what u are so long as u dont intend to make other people like u especially if they are not willing to,,,she doesnot have to choose a new lifestyle and feel uncomfortable for ur convenience but yes when u need her she should always be there and the same applies to u too..if u are happy the way u are then carry on but do not give her a chance to say that if u had followed in herfootprints u wouldnot have ended up a failure..be patient talk to her and tell her what u want but politely..whichever road u take make sure u reach ur destination..
2006-11-12 02:58:49 · answer #5 · answered by chubby 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My Mom is my exactly the same way, and it has been a curse my whole life. It is some Mother-Daughter Freudian thing and BOTH of us have grinned and beared it our whole lives.
Deep down inside your mother loves you, and probably feels the same way you do and wishes you were more like her. At the end of the day however, be thankful she brought you into this world, and at some point your different life and values will bring something to the table.
2006-11-12 02:03:17 · answer #6 · answered by little1missy1234 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What you mean she is not your type? This is your mother not an aquaintance, what's the matter with you? Appreciate her and respect her for who she is, because one day she might not be there for you and you will regret not enjoying her company. I have just lost my father and I cannot believe people even ask ridiculous questions like this!!! With an attitude like this I am not surprised she doesn't want to help you, I wouldn't either!
2006-11-12 11:57:35 · answer #7 · answered by Co-Zee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi silly! Mom is mom - no one like her in this entire universe. Mothers are always a bit backward because of generation difference may be. Otherwise they always help us in every path. Sometimes they don't because they want our own good. Try to be friendly with her and she will be also. Listen to her. Share your thoughts with her, you know mothers are our best friends though. True to say before I was a bit like you but now I am okay with her because I share everything with her. She is simply the best mother in this entire world. Naf :-)
2006-11-12 04:50:01 · answer #8 · answered by DrAmA QuEeN 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are, but you better start showing some respect for your mother. She is the only one you have. No, she's not like you. Why should she be? We are all our own person. What kind of help are you looking for from her? Do you help her? She's older and maybe could use your help. A mother loves her child no matter what they do, right or wrong. So show her a little love. A hug goes a long way.
2006-11-12 01:57:13 · answer #9 · answered by prarierosebud 5 · 6⤊ 2⤋
Nicole,
Whatever about her, she's still your mother. If you started to think about these kinda things, think again. Who's the one that spend hours and her energy just bring you to this world?
Who's the one that always take care of you and would stay up at night to make sure you are asleep when you are sick? Well, maybe she's is opposite to you but you can find your chemistry, if you try. Just remember that she's your mother and you just can't change the fact. I think she really loves you. Good luck for your life!
2006-11-12 02:00:10 · answer #10 · answered by FarahYana 1 · 6⤊ 1⤋