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This guy and i have been having sex for over a year.during this time we had a baby together.he says we arent in a relationship because he doesnt know what he wants.the baby and i stay with him every other weekend to visit. the past 3 weekends he has told me he loves me and doesnt want me to think he doesnt love me,but then when i went home i got mushy and text him i love you and stuff he all of a sudden now says he doesnt want to hurt me anymore and that maybe we shouldnt have sex and be just friends,so maybe he can figure it out,so i said i would sleep on the couch. I s he playing with me or does he really love me?is he getting scared and pulls away? not sure whats going on...shopuld i play hard to get and not call or text..is it possible im not giving him a challenge?

2006-11-11 17:43:59 · 6 answers · asked by barbara m 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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Holy cow. You have an infant and you're woried about whether you're giving that guy enough of a challenge? Having a child is a challenge enough. You don't need the other parent to be a child as well. You dont mention how old you are, but I hope that you are old enough to realize that being with someone who plays games is not the best life for you or your baby. If you are serious about keeping your baby, get with it, and focus on what's important.

Your child will need a mother who is a strong role model - someone who sticks up for herself, takes care of business, and doesnt let a man walk all over her. If he doesnt know by now what he wants, he isnt likely to change his mind any time soon. If he were serious about being a family, it wouldnt have taken this long to figure it out. You ever heard that old saying "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" I'd say your baby's daddy is milking the situation for all it's worth!

More drama doesnt make a good life for little kids. Smooth sailing is what your baby needs. Quit worrying about what he thinks and what he wants. Start thinking about your baby and what you need to do to be the best mother you can.

Let him father that child, but dont let him make a little girl out of you.

2006-11-11 17:55:18 · answer #1 · answered by smrt-e-pnts 2 · 0 0

hell no he help you have that baby if hes getting scared just reminder him of that, tell him if he doesn't want the responsibility of being a father then he shore wont like being a dad paying child support for the next 18 to 21 years.

trust me I have 4 kids that I pay $220 a week for plus I have them every chance I can which is every weekend and some times during the week and I also work 70 hr a week, tell him that and he mite just show up with flowers

2006-11-12 01:57:53 · answer #2 · answered by Brian 2 · 0 0

Wake up and smell the coffee sweets, he doesn't love you. He is using you for sex and you were not smart enough to keep from getting pregnant. Who is supporting this baby that he obviously doesn't want? And where is your self esteem? You are allowing a guy to use you for sex and you think it's okay?

2006-11-12 02:07:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

OMG- if you have been having sex for over a year TAKE A BREAK! I mean, get some water, change the sheets, walk around the block SOMEthing! You animals!

2006-11-12 01:46:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

just dont forget to file for child support if you live in the united states.

2006-11-12 01:49:04 · answer #5 · answered by designerista 4 · 0 0

its simple!!either d guy ain't interested or he's scared of commitment!!take a decision now..tak to him abt it..take up d issue..n yes..dont 4get d baby!!

2006-11-12 01:46:55 · answer #6 · answered by Warrior =) 2 · 0 0

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