Me and my boyfriend were talking over the phone and he brought up the topic of sexual fantasies....when he told me about his i was a little shocked. He said his fantasy was for a threesome. It threw me off guard because he didnt seem like a person whod want a threesome. Hes never brought this up before so i felt a little awkward! Should I be a little curious about his fantasy? Am I not fullfilling a need for him to want another female in the bedroom? I asked him this and he said his fanatasy didnt consist of him haveing sex with this other female but rather her just giving him a little oral action and some possible kissing between me and her. Should I be worried that he may leave me for someone who is more open to threesomes? I dont know what or how to feel.
2006-11-11 16:55:39 · 22 answers · asked by svmoran87 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok sweetie..just to let you know..thats almost every mans fantasy..my man is the same way, i have been with him for six and half years and still haven't given in..maybe someday when i am really drunk it might happen thats about hte only way..but I don't think that you should be worried..like i said i have been with my man for over six years and he told me taht within the first six months of dating..I am sure taht you are doing your job just fine in the bedroom if you weren't i am sure that he would tell you or leave you..and if he doesn't want to have sex with her then I don't think that you have anything to worry about..now if he wanted to accually sleep with her as well then that is something that I would be worried about but I think that you will be fine and it's just a fantasy just a what if fantasies keep things interesting and wondering.
2006-11-11 17:01:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just a fantasy. But do not go with the threesome. Otherwise, your relationship will ultimately end up split. Having more than one partner always leaves the door open for the ?questions. If he truely loves you, he will understand your one-on-one relationship and marry you. That is true love. You will be happy with your decission later on. Otherwise other sexual partners with wreck you relationship. Trust me.
2006-11-11 17:04:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'd be the fool for leaving you for something like that.
I feel we all have to have fantasizes to keep our minds open to other sexual experiences, even if their only in the head.
I've had 2 threesomes. I was nervouse at first, but it was ok.
Me, being me though, I wouldn't nor could I have a 3 way with a lover or partner. I'm a bit to jealouse for that, but doing it with ones your accanted with is ok.
But he'd be a really ugly bug to leave u because your not comfortable.
2006-11-11 17:02:25 · answer #3 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband brought this up many times with the girl he later cheated on me with. but i do not think that makes every man a cheater. I think its a fantasy of most men and some woman. Although if you do try it don't get a close friend of either of yours it will really change the friendship if anything were to happen between you two. But sexual playing can be fun if boundaries are talked about and agreed upon. mommyblues
2006-11-11 16:59:42 · answer #4 · answered by mommyblues78 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Judging from what you have mentioned and he has mentioned i could ought to lean in the direction of him desirous to a minimum of attempt a threesome. I do have faith he could struggle by way of with it. Please bear in mind that adult males are very seen whilst it comprises intercourse. each and each intercourse act has this is own seen acceptance. Seeing his spouse being delighted or proper yet another guy/woman could maximum definately in effective condition that function. How do you experience approximately dealing with with it? some couples have carried out it and enjoyed it! some proceed to do it! some, enjoyed it yet gave it up because it grew to grow to be stale. some did not like it. some replaced their innovations on the final minute and in no way went by way of with it. i won't be able to truly settle on what's suitable for the two certainly one of you so my suggestion to you would be to objective it! think of the way it could experience for you! You bent over on all fours on the mattress looking you're husband in the eyes as he fondles you're breasts at a similar time as the different guy gently pumps you from at the back of! that's some warm stuff good there woman! Or think of you're husband between the different mans legs with you're hand on his head pushing his mouth down onto the different mans problematic shaft while you're head is resting on the different mans chest as though the two certainly one of you have been the couple and your husband grew to become into the invited third occasion. perhaps yet another woman could be the variety 3? only think of approximately it for awhile previously you're making a pass. maximum everybody is keen to objective something a minimum of as quickly as! It does not make you gay or a weirdo! You detect existence do not you!
2016-10-21 22:49:39 · answer #5 · answered by schrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RELAX, 95% of straight men fantasy is to have a 3some, its just not your style thats cool, its really overated, I have had it once and to tell you the truth It wasn't what I built it up to be in my mind, mainly because I wanted to kick one of the girls out because she wasn't as good as the other one. But I digress, you can't trip and feel insecure about him leaving you for someone who will give him his fantasy, if so, you will be insecure all your life, thus you will never be in a healthy relationship, just be happy he shared that with you, now what you do with that info is on you.
2006-11-11 17:04:06 · answer #6 · answered by Hi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, as others have said, that is a typical fantasy of guys. Maybe you could rent a dirty movie that features threesomes and you guys could watch it together. My husband has the threesome fanasy too!!
2006-11-11 17:01:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most men fantasize about a 3some with 2 women...
You invite another girl to the bedroom...Only and always only you..
Never him...He may never meet, call or invite her or any girl to
the 3somes...You are in control of the girls in the 3somes except
for what happens in the bed...No reason to limit what is done in
the bed unless you really have a problem with it...
2006-11-11 17:01:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him this: I want a fourthsome ,you know me and you and 2 other guys , Of course the other guys would be doing a little oral on me and the other one would penetrate a little with a 12 in. member and then after all this you could have sloppy thirds! See what he says to that
2006-11-11 17:00:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
"Should I be worried that he may leave me for someone who is more open to threesomes? "
It depends on how strongly he wants to fulfill his fantasy. Which you will have to find out!
And people have weird fantasies [this one is not weird though], its only normal.
2006-11-11 17:03:41 · answer #10 · answered by Qwerty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋