Ok, I think she likes me. I know she wants me to take her out sometime and teach her to bowl (I bowl for our high school), but I only have 1 class with her, and I barely ever have time to talk to her. Do I pull her aside and ask her in private (cuz we're never alone..... 1 of our friends is always next to us) or do I ask her in front of her friends, or some other option? I'm just really scared to ask her out; i've never had a gf before (we're both 14), so how should I ask her out? Do I just ask if she just wants to go out or if she wants to do something specific together (i.e. bowling, movie, etc.)? Any advice at all is appreciated.
2006-11-11 16:48:13 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-11-11 16:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by kajalsen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be easiest to try to get a group of friends together, including her, to go bowling, that way it isn't awkward for you and it's not an official "DATE" If you don't like that idea, I would pull her aside in between classes or after school and ask. The worst she can say is no and you don't want to put her on the spot in front of people where she could get nervous or embarrassed and potentially cause a scene or humiliate you. Girls can be mean when pressured... I'm a girl I should know.
And when you do ask her you should be pretty nonchalant, like its no big deal. Something like "Hey (insert name here) how's it going? Got plans for the weekend? So I'm on the bowling team for our school and if you ever want to go bowling with me sometime that'd be cool and I could show you how... If she says some lame excuse or no just be all cool about it like its not that big of deal. That will drive her nuts by the way! Good luck
2006-11-12 01:01:34 · answer #2 · answered by i'm just a girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the most genuine and historical way of asking a girl out was in writing. i would not advice you to ask her in front of everyone b/c if she doesn't want to then you would leave her no choice but to say yes and i don't think you'd want that. write her a card, not a note, a note is too middle school... a blank card or something and then personally hand it to her. slip it to her in your class? not having classes together is not a problem... I don't have any classes with my boyfriend and we have been going out for four years! and don't go to the movie on the first date, you want to know her, look at her. go bowling. where you guys can get to know each other. and she will know how well you play! but of course you, as a gentleman, will not brag, right? good luck
2006-11-12 00:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by BlueGirl007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really sweet. Well I want to tell you that if you ask her in front of her friends it can get awkward, because then you have an audience. Get her alone, just say "Hey can I talk to you?" and kind of gesture her away from the group and have her walk with you.
Tell her that you were thinking of something to do this weekend and ask her if she's up for learning how to bowl. Her reaction will be a dead giveaway how she feels about you. Just make sure to be super casual about it, like it's no big deal to you either way. If she agrees then have a notebook and pen ready and just ask her what her number is.
Good luck and be yourself, if she does like you then you have to be doing something right. :-)
2006-11-12 00:53:43 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not ask her out in front of anyone. That's corny and it can be really embarrassing if she rejects you. What you should do is make a way to see her in private. Maybe right her a note and ask her to meet you buy the lockers at a certain time or something. Tell her it's really important. When you get to talk to her in private, just ask her if she wants to go to the movies this weekend. If she asks you why you said that it was important tell her these words "YOU ARE". That's guarunteed to get you the date.
2006-11-12 00:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by Shannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best advice is to get her phone number first. Especially because you're in school together it's going to be hard to get her alone. Whatever you do, DO NOT ask her in front of anyone else. It'll seem impersonal and she might accept that date even if she's not interested for fear of looking rude.
To ask for her number you can just casually ask her for her number like "Hey, can I get your number so I can call you tonight?" and if she asks why just say "Because I want to talk to you.". if she likes you she'll be fishing for you to say you want to talk to her and why and things like that.
After you get her number call her and ask how her classes were that day, things of that sort. Don't just ask her out right away because it'll only be a 5 minute, weird, awkward conversation and you won't seem as interested. But before you get off the phone do something smooth like "So do you like bowling" or 'Do you want to learn to bowl?". Something like that. And if she says yes say "Well what are you doing Friday night? We should go to the bowling alley and I can show you." Or whatever event you decide you would like to do with her.
Do make it something specific, though. It makes it much easier on both of you. Otherwise you'll get trapped in the "What do you want to do? I don't know, what do yoou want to do? I don't know... what do you want to do?" conversation.".
I hope this helped :-)
2006-11-12 00:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by asoobee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 16 just say so what about me and you? if says what do you mean just be up front. About us going together. Tell her any where and when you're ready. And maybe to the side or your around friends. if her friends are around. start a conversation and walk her away and then ask.
2006-11-12 00:56:14 · answer #7 · answered by Chocolate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 14, so you pull her aside and get permission from her parents then ask her to go bowling with you. Tell her you would like to go as friends regardless if you like each other or not, then go out have fun and see where things lead.
2006-11-12 00:51:44 · answer #8 · answered by ijtcald 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just ask her. It's never going to get any easier in life. And if you don't ask her you will regret it. The worst she can do is say no.
If she wants you to teach her how to bowl ask her to go bowling, but don't be surprised if she is better than you think. She might have just told you that to get you to ask her out.
good luck to you.
Don't worry and stay calm, it will work out.
2006-11-12 00:54:07 · answer #9 · answered by valerie v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know she likes you, girls love it when guys take time for just them-so ask her in private and then she also wont be pressured infront of her friends. Also it would be best to ask her if shed want to do something specific. Girls love it when guys already have a plan.
2006-11-12 00:53:59 · answer #10 · answered by Krystina C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well i think you should ask her when to two of yall are alone because if you ask her in front of other peole she is either going to tell you yes just because he friends are around or tell you no for the same reason the onnly way to get the truth is when to towo of yall are alone and you should ask her to go bowling since she wants you to teach her how anyways and dont forget to ask her for her number
2006-11-12 00:52:12 · answer #11 · answered by Betty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋