Oook i never had sex and i have no idea how to do it. I'm dating a realy nice girl right now and she was trying to make it happen you know hitting on me i'am so afraid that it's going to be a HUGE disaster that i can't even do it. I'm shaking this is really embarosing. and ah and i don't know what to do. Please i need help her an EXTREME help. Thank you.
2006-11-11 16:40:26 · 29 answers · asked by boosterspd 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her that you're still a virgin, and that your worried about dissapointing her... She'll walk you through it... If you can't talk to her about this, your not old/mature enough to have sex...
2006-11-11 16:44:29 · answer #1 · answered by HONORARIUS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, take a deep breath and try not to panic! It's not that bad. Everybody wants their first time to be special and some go to the extremes of planning everything down to the very last detail. Don't bother!
More often than not it happens when you simply give into your hormones where nothing is planned out. It almost never goes the way you want, it can be awkward at times and usually the man doesn't last very long. Make sure that you pleasure her first, with either oral or with some other appendage before you enter her, because the sensation will feel so overpowering you won't be able to hold back.
I'm sorry if it's not the advice you wanted to hear, but so many people put so much thought and preparation into their first time that when it doesn't end up that way they're disappointed instead of just living for the moment and enjoying what that moment has to offer.
2006-11-11 16:47:09 · answer #2 · answered by princessslave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a virgin is nothing to be embarassed about. Everyone was a virgin at some point in time, even this girl you're dating (if she isn't right now).
The MOST important part to remember is to do it on your own accord, as in, do it because you feel comfortable and like or love her alot. Not because you think she wants it. If she really is a nice girl she's going to be okay with you not being ready. And don't take your virginity lightly. To be honest, your first time is probably not going to be great. It's not going to last long and you won't know what you're doing. BUT IT'S OKAY! If she knows you're a virgin she is going to understand and if she wants to have sex with you that means she's not worried about it. All virgins lack the same knowledge as the next virgin. She isn't going to be disgusted or disappointed in you. Now if she isn't aware that you are a virgin, you should probably tell her. Chances are it's not going to make a difference but it's nice to keep people informed.
As long as you both are ready everything will be excellent. You can only get better with practice. Just make sure YOU are comfortable with it or it WILL be a disaster. It's okay, and even normal, to be nervous; but make sure you're ready :-)
2006-11-11 16:48:53 · answer #3 · answered by asoobee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being a virgin. Alot of girls (myself included) find it to be refreshing and a positive thing that a person they're dating hasn't had sex before. One thing needs to be made clear though; only have sex with this girl if YOU want to, not because she wants to. If she expresses a desire to have sex with you and you feel you're not ready, let her know. If she keeps pushing the subject, then she's not respecting your feelings. If you want to, that's your decision. It's going to be awkward the first time, no question about it, but you're definitely not alone in that respect. Nearly everyone's first time is a nervous and awkward experience. Just do what feels right for you.
2006-11-11 16:50:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nervous? That is quite common and really understandable. Just understand yourself that nature has a way of making it happen, even though you may not know. But I suggest that you tell her that you are a virgin and need her help.
If you do not feel that you are ready do not do it. It is more important for you to keep your integrity than to worry about what others may think.
2006-11-11 16:45:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't really need to know what to do because your body lets you know, trust me. Just go with it and trust yourself and know that you can't really mess it up. One good thing to do though is play the Do What I Do game to get you to relax. It's like sexy Simon Says. You do something and then she has to do it back. That might help you be a little more comfortable. Mainly honey, you just need to chill out. Otherwise, you will get all anxious and freak out about it and be worried about everything and neither of you will enjoy it. Just let things happen how they happen and RELAX!! It'll be perfect.
2006-11-11 16:46:01 · answer #6 · answered by snowbaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing to do is to tell her about your virginity.
What is wrong with being virgin, it just shows that you are not a manwhore.
If she really loves you and cares about you and the stuff like that, it is not going to be a problem. Trust me she will give you a good time.
But why not wait till marriage anyways?
2006-11-11 16:44:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a girl and that happens sometimes but I think you should tell her and probably she will understand it believe it or not virginity it is special for male and female, but if you decide not to tell her the truth, just be cool, try not to be nervous and let it happen, okey.
2006-11-11 16:49:19 · answer #8 · answered by Mercy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A nice girl does not make her the right girl, I hope you really think this out, don't think you have to LOOSE it.
Be honest with her though that is a part of a real relationship.
Be SMART.
2006-11-11 16:44:01 · answer #9 · answered by whattheheck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't be nervous, although I know that's impossible. Remember the times now before you do it because after you do it once you spend the rest of your life trying to do it again.
2006-11-11 16:44:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋