I respect and have alot of patience with everyone else but my sis?

Question

My lil sis is only 5 and i have no patience with her i am always yelling at her for things she does wrong how do i stop?

Answer 1

This is sibling rivalry. Understand her needs and develop a bonding with her.

Answer 2

I think it's ok to be upset with your sister; the change can be the way in which you express your anger. Instead of yelling (which probably won't change things much anyway), how about simply saying, "I don't like it when you do ______ ;" for instance, "I don't like it when you interrupt me when I'm on the phone." That way, you're not saying anything bad about HER, but about the way she's behaving - and YOU aren't yelling. The next logical statement would be "Please don't do that anymore." I'm not going to promise you that it will always work, because a five-year-old child is a pretty self-centered creature, but that's normal for a kid who's five. It will also take practice on your part, because it takes everybody time to change a pattern that we're used to. I think that part of her behavior may be to get attention (also normal for somebody who's five). Although it can be a pain sometimes, make a little time for her, and I think you will see that you go from being "the enemy" to someone who she really looks up to; it will also be easier for you to say, "I want to do ______ right now, but when I'm done, I'll come help you" (or play with her, or whatever she wants). I think you are very much to be commended for recognizing that your sister is just as deserving of respect and courtesy as anyone you know - some people go all their lives without learning that family members deserve courtesy, so you're WAY ahead of the game!

Answer 3

Just Stop!
Every time your lil sis starts to annoy you, just breathe in deep & remind yourself, she's probably annoying you because she wants to be around you. She probably really looks up to you.

Your sisters behaviour reminds me of this. When an elementary boy likes a girl, he ends up picking on her or bugging her instead of just coming out & saying he likes her. He just doesn't want to say it.

How old are you? A little older or alot older?
If your not that much older just hang on till your sister starts to have friends of her own, then your sis should stop.

What exactly does your sis do to cause you to yell at her?

Nicole

Answer 4

You have to remind yourself constantly...she is just a little child. She is not an adult.
I know that sounds stupid. But we get annoyed by older toddlers because they won't sit still, they spill their milk, they inturrupt us while on the phone, and they make a mess of our things. This is what children do....they are not 35 years old and know any better.

Here is something to help you. Many of us don't have clear memories from when we were 5. But find a photo album from the time in your life when you were five. Look at yourself....look at what you were doing. See the look on your face. And think of everything in your life that mattered, and didn't matter to you at that time. Keep a pic of you at that age somewhere in your room. So when you get mad at your sis...you can look at it and say "I was that little once too". Relate to her. Don't disassociate from her.

Give your little sis the gift of allowing her to be a CHILD and knowing that her sister LOVES her.

Answer 5

shes 5 and she looks up to you. she wants to be like you, if you are always yelling at her she will think that is normal behavior, istead of pointing out the wrong things she does try to congratulate her on the right things she does. i know having a lil sis can be a chor i have two of them, but shes just lerning and you can blame her for that. good luck

Answer 6

well I also had a little sister and she drove me crazy following me around wanting to hang around with me and my friends I can tell you I use to call her my little shadow. My little sister was killed in a car wreck at 18 years of age so if this doesn't stop you nothing will. You never know what life will give you. She could be here one minute and gone the next love your sister like there is no tomorrow because frankly life is short and God doesn't give us his game plan for the future. Life is short enjoy the rewards in it I sure wish my little sister was here to bug me every second of every day I would hug her and love her til I couldn't do it no more. Good luck

Answer 7

Please stop! I am 10 years older than my sister so I was 15 when she was 5 and I also yelled at her...we was so annoying, but you would be surprized at how much your sister will remember and then you will feel really guilty later in life. I'm sure your sister loves you alot, just keep remembering that. Good luck.

Answer 8

You know kids crave attention, and what I mean by that is they crave for attention whether it is good or bad. So be patient with her. Before you start to yell at her, take a deep breath, get your words together, and then speak to her. I promise she will pay a lot more attention to you then when you yell at her.

Answer 9

think long & hard about it. You might not have the patience for her, because she reminds you of yourself, wether you realize it or not. Sometimes, its good to step back, and breathe, makes the issue alot less upseting.

Answer 10

You need to remember that she is only 5 first off. And she probably looks up to you as her hero. She watches everything you do and wants to imitate you. How you act, walk, talk, what you say, everything. Other people don't have to look up to you because their your age or older already. So just remember you are her hero and she looks up to you .