What part of NO makes kids brains turn into mush? my sons three i tell no you cannot have candy. He climbs on the table and gets int he candy jar. I tell him no you cannot watch tv he turns it on. What can i do to make this behavor stop. Spanking and time outs are nto working. Help wanted mommyblues
2006-11-11 16:20:10 · 9 answers · asked by mommyblues78 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Oh.... I feel you on this! I have tried time out, nose in corner, taking toys away, putting to bed, spankings... nothing seems to work! I am not sure what to tell you, but I feel for you! I completly understand. If you DO find something that works spread the word immediatley!!! Good luck!!
2006-11-11 16:30:55 · answer #1 · answered by melodi_jean_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just pushing your buttons -- successfully too! No one told us parenting would be so much work. But, it is work and the kids will test and test and test. Keep the candy far from reach. Turn the tv off or unplug it. Also model what you want him to do instead. No candy, but you can have a healthy snack -- do you want raisins or a banana? No tv, but would you like me to put on your Barney (or whoever he likes) cd while you play?
My kids want to play in their underwear every day -- and jump on the couch. Once i started to model what they SHOULD do it helped somewhat.
Good luck -- this too shall pass. Be consistent!
2006-11-12 01:16:47 · answer #2 · answered by Beth M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he doesn't respect you and pushes you until he finds where you won't budge. When you say that spankings and time outs don't work, I want to ask how you're doing them. For example, a time out doesn't work unless you reinforce it. If the kid comes out of time out and goes back to the behavior, immediately put them back in time out. Repeat as many times as needed. For a three year old, it is 3 solid minutes. We have used an egg timer. Screaming uncontrollably in timeout keeps the timer ticking until the kid is no longer screaming. Then the clock begins to tick down. You have to have nerves of steel because a three year old is determined to see who will win. One of my kids battled with me for a solid 45 minutes. I was crying but determined to win.
Good luck.
2006-11-12 00:30:21 · answer #3 · answered by meoorr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the candy away from him & tell him he can't have anything sweet for the rest of the day. Turn the TV off again , tell him no more tv for the day, works for me
2006-11-12 00:22:29 · answer #4 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably testing boundaries. This is an important phase for human development, occuring around your son's age. You have to explain to him why, "No", otherwise he'll just develop a distaste for dictatorship or irrational authority. Which might not be such a bad thing anyways...
2006-11-12 00:31:11 · answer #5 · answered by Kailash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would love to know the answer to this question!! I have 3 sons they are 6, 5, and 3 and no one listens!!
2006-11-12 00:27:47 · answer #6 · answered by country girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to get to a child you have to find a way to communicate. Find something that the child loves like a video game or their favorite activity and use it as their weakness. For example tell him that if he eats candy then he cant play his favorite sport or video game.
2006-11-12 00:27:38 · answer #7 · answered by Fiesty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is testing his bounderies, my son did that. i would take away his favorite toy every time he did not listen and put it where he cant see it. sometimes he would only be left with one or two toys, but he learned. and every time he did listen to what i said i gave him a toy back. good luck.
2006-11-12 00:25:29 · answer #8 · answered by ang. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not try reverse psychology.
2006-11-12 01:09:14 · answer #9 · answered by jane u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋