My family thanks that my cutting is a problem but I don't see the problem I've been cutting since I was 12 and I am now 18 I have over 500 visable scars all over my body. I do admit that cutting isn't normal but I don't understand why my family is so concerned it's not there bodies that have scars on them it's mine. I guess I should stop not because I want to, but because my sister is pregnat and I don't won't to have to explain to my little niece why I have scars all over my body. I would really apperciate some advice and I all ready take medication and see a therapist.
2006-11-11 15:59:24 · 11 answers · asked by ♥mizfit♥ 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Yea, it is sad that your family thinks that your cutting is a problem to them and worst that you dont seem to understand why it could be their problem. Strange, isnt it. Looking after you, feeding you, giving you a life to live, education (i assume they send you to school), not to mention above all this, that, your mom had you in her stomach for nine months, brought you out to this world, looked after every part of you...and its sad, to think that you cannot see why they would really think cutting your own body, and having over 500 visible scars, from the age of 12, is a problem to them. I wonder if you ever thought on how it would be if your mom felt that you were a problem and decided not to have you at all.......you wouldnt be here at this moment typing out this question...realise that ?
And you think you should stop cos' your little niece would ask you why the scars ? That is if you are recognisable by the time your little niece grows up. You are 18, and by the time your niece grows up to ask you, I wonder if you would have any place left wihtout a scar for her to recognise you. But then, atleast you have realised you have to stop. Yes, you have to stop. You have a problem, and you need help. You have to start being more expressive, and control yourself from expressing it on your body by cutting yourself.
No one can give you a professional advise here. And everyones advise would be the same. Stop. Listen. Talk / express more, see a therapist and do positive things. Do anything it takes to get you better. Just about anything positive, which will not bring you shame at the age of 80, look back and you want to throw up on yourself.
good luck.
2006-11-11 16:40:00 · answer #1 · answered by arya 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most family members that don't understand why someone does something aren't sure how to react. They can tell you it's wrong, but they can't tell you why:
Like, they can tell a little boy it's not good to look at porn, but most parents never delve into WHY. And, they can tell you it's not good to binge drink. The same for sex, drugs, etc. It's all "bad", but there's never a "why" attached.
Most family members can't tell you "why" because they don't know themselves. They can't answer the "why" in their own lives of why they can't shake a habit they've had for years -starting a fight with their spouse every time conflict arises; drinking from the bottle every time they're stressed instead of trying to find other ways to deal with the situation; lighting up instead of just being patient.
Everyone has things in their life that they know isn't right but they've become addicted to the relief that it brings...the initial pain and then the thrill from the cutting ... the initial burn of alcohol down the throat and then the softness it brings ... the high from breakig into someone's car and then the adrenaline rush of youwing you're able to do it again...
But these are all addictions. Porn, alcoholism, robbery, vandalism, masturbation, cutting ... it's an addiction - something that if you stopped cold turkey, you'd still crave it. Here's the question you need to ask yourself: Do you want to be addicted? Do you want to rely on something for the rest of your life, like a sick person relies on medication for the rest of their lives, to get you through to the next thrill? The future of every alcoholic father was set the moment he chose the bottle over his family. The future of every woman leaving her family was set the moment that she got tired of the same man and started flirting again. The future of every cutter is set the moment they realize they have the ability to set down the razor and walk away, and they don't. When you have the chance to stop, and you don't, you've lost another battle in your war against yourself.
The problem isn't that you're a cutter. The problem is that you're an addict. But all your family sees are the scars on the outside. They don't see that every time you bleed, your soul bleeds too and takes one more step into a cold, dead stone.
You shouldn't quit because of your parents, or even for your niece, because one day your sister will move away, and your parents will go on with their lives, and you'll have your own and those factors won't be a part of it anymore -
you should quit for yourself. So that you, not your addiction, is in control.
2006-11-11 16:46:10 · answer #2 · answered by snowwhitelace 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your family is concerned because as you said yourself it is not normal and they are worried that one day you'll cut too deep or cut a artery/a vein with drastic consequences. Your family loves you and although its your body love is like that. Cutting is how you express feeling distress,inner pain and so forth but there are less damaging ways to cope with strong emotions. For some reason you bottle yours up and then cutting releases them. You are not alone there are many who do this but still even the many are a very small minority separated from the norm. By going to ta thereapist-Psychiatrist-for only a Psychiatrist can prescribe Medication-initially. Either the Psychiatrist will do thje therapy of recommend Psychologist and just do Medication Management for you. Medications do wonders to keep emotions level and prevent stress from building to point where cutting needed to get rid of it. In therapy you will use other means to cope with life and perhaps in Group Therapy,if recommended or you ask for it, you'll meet others for sometimes sharing helps for not alone and someone in group may have coping strategy that will also work for you. I wish you a lot of courage and strength and blessings for a happy life
2006-11-11 16:15:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should love and respect yourself first, then you can love others. By giving love to others you get love and respect back. Your family love you and they are concern about you. But belive me if you continue doing that, they get this message from you that you don't love yourself so why they should be worry about you? you will be left alone. And I am sure you don't want that.
By cutting yourself you are getting their attention and you think you are controlling them. That gives you satisfaction. You are grown up now. Get attention by doing something else. Something that wouldn't hurt you or anybody else. I am sure you don't want them to get tired of you and say let him bleed to death. So find another hobby. And right, you don't want your little niece sees your body like that. You wouldn't be a good example for her. First for yourself, second for her, stop that and act like a grown up. Having over 500 scars is nothing to be proud of. Get such a records in sport or something that your family and specially your niece can be proud of. Seeing a therapist is a good idea. You are in right track.
I wish you the best of luck.
2006-11-11 16:50:44 · answer #4 · answered by Natalia A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your family thinks your behaviour is a problem because they care about you and you're harming yourself over and over. Cutting and body mod can easily become addictive since the acts cause a release of endorphins to counter the pain. This can create an addiction.
Don't buy the lie that it's cool or "underground" or "healthy self-expression." You're harming your body, your mind, and your future.
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Take care of yourself and listen to the people who love you, eh?
Best Regards,
Rob
2006-11-11 16:19:46 · answer #5 · answered by Rob VH 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nicely, it isn't autism. there is really not something about choking someone meaning he's autistic. it really is foolishness. i have worked with autistic childrens contained in the previous and they don't look violent like this. i imagine the middle desires to get rid of this youngster from the ability- completely. someone is going to press a lawsuit if he doesn't give up both on the middle or this childrens kinfolk or both. he's a walking legal duty. the mum and dad favor to stop pretending that he's a ideal angel and crack down on self-discipline and get some help. If he pulls this in a daily college placing the police may be said as and then they could have some significant answering to do and issue on their palms. As a make sure if yet another toddler did this to mine the faculty might want to be getting an earful about it until eventually they bumped off the issue toddler and the mum and dad might want to be listening to from me by my legal specialist. childrens that attempt this variety of stuff now will hotel to different violence later it really is extra actual and dangerous. that is animal cruelty or extra cruelty in route of classmates that receives gradually worse. Ever see the movie "the forged Son"- this youngster matches that bill of the undesirable youngster.
2016-11-29 01:33:38 · answer #6 · answered by bartow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a underlaying problem which you did not open-up for the past 6/7years.Believe me, family members are people who really loves you and when they see the cuts on your body they felt the pain too.
Please refer to our daily newspaper ,The Straits Times on section F.Y.I. there is alist of Helplines which you can just call
and speak to one of the counsellors and see what they can advise you further.You can also go and see a psychiatrist.
Please seek help as soon as possible.and take care.
2006-11-11 16:48:43 · answer #7 · answered by albany4290 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a problem, you should seek help before you cut wrong and hurt yourself. There is something causing you to cut yourself. Some pain that you are trying to get out of you.
2006-11-11 16:07:54 · answer #8 · answered by Mariposa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cutting isn't normal. It is something you and your therapist need to work on. If you don't trust or think you cannot work with your current therapist, please try another.
Your family is concerned because they worry about and love you. They don't want you to be in pain, physical or psychological.
2006-11-11 16:10:20 · answer #9 · answered by eilishaa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your family just like all the other right thinking people in your world are jealous that you know what it is like to cut yourself just as if you got a tattoo when they didn't and you will not accidently kill yourself as they think, nobody accidently kills themselves. the devil calls you a lie and you can't stand negative attention so you bleed for him to love you again but he is not your friend, he shows you himself threw your parents because he is the father of all lies and can easily seduce your parents. if you want and if you are consistent in you all things can be new and you can be hated or misjudged by your parents just like and at the same time feel just as much love just like that one guy named Jesus Christ. you cut yourself but his' elders did the cutting to him you tell me which is worse
2006-11-11 16:51:00 · answer #10 · answered by christian h 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋