My boyfriend wants me to lose some weight and be skinnier. I have always been skinny but I couldn't find a job for a few months and my metabolism has changed quite a bit the last two years. I'm almost 24. I told him I want him to work out with me at least once a week maybe twice. Don't you think he should be supportive since it's a big deal to him for me to get in better shape? I do massage so I'm active at work. but I want to do more to get in shape and toned. But I also want him to quit smoking and get his license back. So how should we help eachother reach those goals and be supportive? Some people think it's very rude that he wants me to lose weight, but I'd also like to as well. I don't ever want to get fat and I want to be more athletic and make it part of my lifestyle. He also thinks he gets his workout from his job, but I want him to work out with me. I need some motivation. He just can't get past wanting me to be skinnier. I'm a size 8 or 9.
2006-11-11 15:58:43 · 5 answers · asked by Mel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He does maintainance work and janitorial work usually 5-6 hours a night and he almost always has both sat. and sunday off. I work two jobs on sat. and might be doing fridays at both jobs too starting next month. He thinks he gets enough workout at his job. but we worked out today and he couldn't keep up because of his smoking. he kept taking little breaks to catch his breath.
2006-11-13 16:17:12 · update #1
well
jus do it with him together
do a workout in bed ;)
lol
jus be supportive towards one another, dont bad mouth each other
jus act normal as you USUALLY would towards one another...
its as simple as that
and remember
jus take it 1 step at a time
2006-11-11 16:02:45 · answer #1 · answered by Nick723 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should be supportive of one another. If you are unhappy with your weight just start working out and doing what you need to do. Ask m to stop smoking, and work on getting his license back.I am a few sizes bigger than you and a size eight or nine would be wonderful for me, but He should put in some effort too. You stand on your feet all day. What does he do?
2006-11-12 00:10:08 · answer #2 · answered by karma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're interested in fitness, you should do it for you.
I have to say that being a size 8-9 is not a reason to feel fat. I think there is more going on here.
2006-11-12 00:02:12 · answer #3 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
america sends billions of pounds of food to foreign countries when the people are bony why is it our country pressures us to look like the very same people we are shoving rice to,size 8 or 9 is a good weight if he wants you to get bony then hes the one with a problem dont do it please especially if hes not willing to do the same thing he would ask you to do.
2006-11-12 00:07:29 · answer #4 · answered by penn_av 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, everyone needs to look good and be healthy. If you know you are, then tell him that. Tell him he needs to. Maybe work out togeather? Get healthy... and if you dont want to.. you dont have to!
2006-11-12 00:00:33 · answer #5 · answered by SCSA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋