with my bf (we live in HIS house and have a child together), I am a stay home mom and I want out of this relationship, he talks to me like Im shitt, tells me I have wifely duties, needs to know why I need money, I feel like a child and he hates the thought of me working, so I never got a job, I stayed with my son...I dont know what to do...I am not happy inside and it is starting to affect my life.
2006-11-11 15:57:02 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I want a job, and when I try to get one he makes it sound like Im abandoning my son and a bad mother, he will even say this...and he will refuse to pay for daycare, he makes tons of money as well.
I just dont know what to do.
2006-11-11 16:02:45 · update #1
confront him about this . breaking up will hurt the child
2006-11-11 16:00:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shows coz its 75% your house if it hits the fan.Why not if your child is old enough,say 4 get a part-time job but there are alot of pros and cons one being it could afect your house hold income with tax stuff.But the most important issue is your happyness.Its hard to live as a single parent but the system can work.If your with centerlink talk too a counsilour or a good fiend that will lisen to every thing ,then try to help you.Lots of people brake up and after awhile they start to live again it wont be ezy. Good luck just ask yourself where do you want to be in 6months from now and plan goal month for month for 6 months then go for it.
2006-11-12 00:22:30 · answer #2 · answered by hyd_stphn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i feel the same way sometimes but the first thing u need to know is that u never deserve to be treated or talked like ****,when u 2 had a child together that gave him a whole nother set of fatherly duties 2 and if he doesn't wanna repsect u the call it quits early on in the game he can always be a father but u don't have be together if ur not happy ur toooooo young to going throught that cuz if he really luvs u he will open his eyes and see what a good woman he has in front of him and treat the way u need to be treated.
2006-11-12 00:05:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can't stop you from working. He probably wants to push all the responsibility your child onto you. It's both of yours. He needs to help too. Try to get some counseling if he's willing. What if you worked and he stayed home? can you make more money? you may want to get your own place. That's what I am trying to do. maybe you need some time to yourselves so you can sort things out. do things that you like to do and make your life more interesting so you are happier. try to talk with him about what's going on. if he doesn't listen then leave him. save yourself and your child.
2006-11-12 00:03:59 · answer #4 · answered by Mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave.Leave.Leave.Do not stay with someone who talks poorly to you.Take your child and leave that house. You will be better off living in a shelter raising your boy than there. How will your son grow up with a 'man' like that around ?!?
2006-11-12 00:02:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want to get a job. You want to have some independance because he makes you feel like you need it. If he isn't willing to change the way things are, you need to seek counselling or get out.
2006-11-12 00:01:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job. He can't force you to stay at home. If he tries, dump his a-ss. You seem like the kind of woman who can balance family and a career, and you have every right to do so — with or without him.
2006-11-12 00:00:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask, just leave. That is no environment for your child and they should come first, not you or your bf. Start making arrangements and get out before he starts hitting you or your child.
2006-11-11 23:59:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look yourself in the eyes and ask why am I here? Then act on the answer. There is a big difference in looking at your face and looking yourself in the eye. If you can't do that then something needs to change QUICKLY.
2006-11-12 00:01:57 · answer #9 · answered by joanne_happygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a shelter, go to a friends, call a family member, whatever it takes. Just get out before it's too late.
2006-11-11 23:59:43 · answer #10 · answered by jperk1941 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your son, pack your things and go.
If this situation is making you unhappy (and I can see why it is), then stop putting up with it.
2006-11-12 00:00:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋