My boyfriend wants to have anal sex and i have never done it before... Does it really hurt alot? And i'm also wondering about bowel movements... Will that happen if we have anal sex? Any advice is appreciated! Thanks! Will i have to use the bathroom while he's doing it....? I am curious but im also scared at the same time
2006-11-11 15:55:15 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lots of foreplay helps. But honey if your not at all comfortable, and wanting it, yes it hurts like hell the first time. Before attempting the actual anal penatration, Might I suggest that you both work up to that moment by anal stretching. First just his finger, then 2, then 3, then onto a small viberator or dildo. Always using lubrication, and going slow, and gentle. If you think even for one second your b/f cant be gentle, maybe you should not try. There is a risk of anal tearing, and that can lead to serious medical problems. Remember your trying to stretch for the actual event, not dive right in. When the time comes, and you, and you alone, feel your ready, then proceed. I learned this the hard way. I would like to add, that the experience when done between to trusting gentle adults is absolutely mind blowing. I personally feel its worth the try. If you dont like it yourself, you never have to do it again, right! As for the bathroom issues, well....Bowel movements do not happen when he's visiting. Please use a condom, or pull out method, or else you will end up in the bathroom shortly after, and not only does that feel gross, its just down right gross. You may feel a small urge to have to go to the bathroom when he enters, but it will pass, and then again you may not feel that all. I can recommend that you not attempt this if you have been feeling gasey at all. NOT PLEASANT! LOL
My first time anally, I was raped and the pain was unmentionable. It took a long time for me to trust. Trust is a big thing in this area. Can you trust him to stop, if you say stop? This particular act, should never be forced, it can cause serious harm. Just make sure, this is what you want. If your not relaxed at the time, your muscles will be tense, hence forth the tearing.
I hope I was helpful in some way. This is a touchy subject and .........well I just hope I was helpful. Good Luck!
P.S. If you truely not wanting to do this or even try, you need to tell your man-NOWAY! If your B/F really does care about you, he will not push you into anything. Being open and honest in any relationship is what makes them lasts. ITS THE GLUE!
2006-11-11 16:28:06 · answer #1 · answered by cjpburgess 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are considering anal sex, make sure you use lots of lubrication. Make sure you take things slow. You shouldn't have to use the bathroom while you're having anal sex, it should be the same as when you have vaginal sex. Try reading up on anal sex online. Just use protection and caution and Im sure things will be ok.
2006-11-11 15:58:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please be careful with whatever type of sex you have.
Use a condom. Use extra lube. Since you've never done it before, it'll probably feel like you are getting ready to poop, but you're not actually going to...so don't worry.
Make sure he goes very slow because it could cause discomfort.
YOU HAVE TO RELAX or it won't work and will cause pain for you.
After he goes slow and you are relaxed, things should move along smoothly. If the pain won't ease up, you better stop and wait until another day when you are both comfortable.
Good Luck!
2006-11-11 17:10:52 · answer #3 · answered by lkjgfyfukh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to have a bowel movement before and just relax. the more your tense, the more its gonna hurt. Use alot, and I mean alot of lube! Take your time and ease into it. Its gonna hurt a little, but have a safe word to stop, that way it wont kill the mood and you can move to the front. Just becareful and protect yourself.
2006-11-11 15:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by citygirl22_1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off no i have anal sex some the keys to having anal sex is lots of lubricants and take it nice and slow the first time. i think the best way to have anal sex is kinda doggie style you are on your hands and knees and he is on his knees but he needs to let you have complete control of letting him go in and out of you there. first let him put a finger in you to help you before he sticks his penis there and sometimes after sex you feel like you need to poop but it is just air from him going in and out of you
2006-11-11 16:08:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is best that you "educate" your anal area for what will happen.
Lots of lubrication and he should go slow. It would be best to clean out the area as well,
2006-11-11 15:57:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go slow, lots of lube. Try being on top, that way you control the action.
And whatever you do, don't go back to vaginal without washing all naughty bits thoroughly. Don't want a nasty infection!
2006-11-11 16:06:24 · answer #7 · answered by darlingdybbuk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'll flow like a river. That's why gay guys hook up in public bathrooms.
2006-11-11 15:57:35 · answer #8 · answered by Wocka wocka 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah, what he said, and you can youch yourelf while hes doing you, i guess it fells really good
2006-11-11 15:58:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-11 15:58:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋