She cheated on me while she was in a one-month-course,far of me. She said that they had had kisses on a pool, just that day. But first, she told me that she doesn´t want to be with me anymore and many more things. One week later, she apologized and i don´t know what to do. If I should forgive to her, if I should believe to her. Because i love her, and our relationship has last five years.
2006-11-11 15:46:07 · 31 answers · asked by JC 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would leave her if she can't keep to you for five years then what if you get married how do you know she wont do it in the future or right now. You never realize how much you like something till its gone but for her i think she is just gone
2006-11-11 15:48:50 · answer #1 · answered by BarrelBomb 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She had/is having the 7 year itch. She lost perspective while she was away and wanted a little fun. I don't mean to make light of what she did because it is totally wrong of her to do. If you want to stay with her you need to be sure that she is committed to you and that this is not the beginning of the end. Sometimes an event like this makes people realize either they need to get out of the relationship they have been in or that they truly love their partner and have been taking them for granted. Tell her that the both of you need to take a couple of steps back and examine the situation so you can determine where you stand.
2006-11-11 15:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by BLANK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I have a zero tolerance policy for cheating.
Cheaters are like the gays. Some of them try to act straight and be in a straight relationship, but it isn't the truth for them, they gotta go cheat.
Your girlfriend has proven that she is a cheater. Unless you like being cheated on you need to dump her and move on.
Cheaters should just admit who they are and stop messing with straight people. They need to go hit the swingers clubs where they will be much happier with their own kind.
2006-11-11 15:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by hankthecowdog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have my sympathy, but situations like this, in my experience, have only been an indicator of the misery to come.
There is a crack in the relationship and you'll always wonder what she is doing if she's running a little late, if she is having too much fun talking to some dude.
Think of the advice you'd give a friend in your situation and follow that, not your heart.
2006-11-11 15:50:14 · answer #4 · answered by FSJD 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
5 years isn't 20 years. You are at a point in your life where you can evaluate where you have been and where you want to go.
What would you have done if situations were reversed? Can you still trust her? Can you accept her for who she is, beauty/imperfection and encourage her to be everything she ever dreamed and then some?
There is such a thing as true love... If you actually have it don't let go.
2006-11-11 15:59:53 · answer #5 · answered by hero_captain_obvious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship has lasted five years...hers has been flitting
all over the place. She'll do it again..and this isn't the first time.
It's just the first time you caught on.
Sure forgive her, on your way out the door. Talk is cheap,
her apology isn't worth snot.
2006-11-11 15:53:14 · answer #6 · answered by J B W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough one--cheating is a bad thing--she had a moment of weakness but at the same time she put your feelings aside and did something that is wrong she came back because she realized that she was wrong and was losing someone that meant alot to her you have to decide if you can forgive her for that can you move on or is this something that you will always have in the back of your mind
2006-11-11 15:50:45 · answer #7 · answered by worriedmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is wrong here. Why would anyone want to cheat after five years? I believe your relationship has runs its course and to prolong it would be disastrous.
2006-11-11 15:49:43 · answer #8 · answered by Tiny Jr. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all why did she even cheat on you!that's totally dumb!why would she go and do that if you've been together for 5 years!which is amazing i might add!well umm cheating on you i would def.say no to her but you've been together 5 years.sorry i wishe i could help more.good luck sexii!hehe!
2006-11-11 15:53:15 · answer #9 · answered by ~Bubblii~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you would not have known if she didn't tell ya?
She was just being unsure. She's over it and sorry.
Five years is a long time. I would give her a second chance.
2006-11-11 15:50:29 · answer #10 · answered by Marge Simpson 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋