I have three kids that are not my own, and they do not like to listson sometimes
2006-11-11 15:43:27 · 10 answers · asked by lucky13 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Depends... do they have a dad who is just not living with them? If so, you need to be sure you communicate that you're not trying to replace him. If you are to be their dad, and their biological dad is not in the picture, then that is a bit different. Either way, being a good parent of any kind requires love and respect from both sides. If you give it to them, you'll get it right back. Still, kids that don't listen (and if they don't have a dad in the picture) could be looking for just some kind of authority figure. Doesnt mean you have to be a tough dad, just make sure they know the rules & that you follow through .. good or bad.
2006-11-11 15:47:50 · answer #1 · answered by suz_e_q_zee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my birth Dad when I was just 3 years old.I have a step Dad. He's been in our family since I was 4, I am now 15.
I would respect him a lot more if he actually did stuff for me. I yell and swear at him, not because I don't love him. But because he acts like an *** a lot of the times. He doesn't do ANYTHING for me. He won't even take me to the mall if I ask. But it could be a lot worse. That's what I tell my self so I don't get super pissed and end up screaming at him.
My advise is, do stuff for your step children, do discipline them, but at the right time and for the right reason. Care for them, tell them you love them........my step Dad stopped saying he loved me pretty much since I was 10.
Also let them know that they can come to you and tell you or ask you anything. Be there for them not only as a Dad, but as a friend. That is what they need, a Dad and a friend that they can trust and come to when in need.
Good luck with your step children! =D
I wish the best for you and your kids!
2006-11-11 15:48:32 · answer #2 · answered by Danny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stand your ground as the man of the house and support your wife or girlfriend. Don't beat them down or help them get over on her. You were a kid once and I bet you didn't listen sometime too, you know that's all about growing up. Heck even as an adult we don't listen sometimes. So take it one day at a time. Be a good example because they will be coping you regardless if you want them to or not.
2006-11-11 15:50:43 · answer #3 · answered by suidolem 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spend as much time with them as you can. Listen to them when they talk to you. Sometimes parents don't hear what kids have to say. Pretend they ARE your kids. Treat them as if they were. Set boundaries and make rules they need to follow. Treat them all the same and do not show favoritism. Let them come to you if they need anything, but don't let them call you "dad" if their dad is still in the picture. Don't let them walk all over you. Let them know you're in charge. But show them love, caring, and understanding. Good luck.
2006-11-11 15:49:25 · answer #4 · answered by Jenna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All kids don't like to listen sometimes. It is natural that they will especially test you out. You need the support of their mother to stand together. If she treats you with respect, they will too. And you need to respect her. Mostly, kids need to know the clear (not ambiguoius) rules, so they know they can count on you. Be understanding when they tell you their troubles, but also be firm and consistent.
2006-11-11 15:48:46 · answer #5 · answered by askingood 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is treat those kids as if they were your own, put them on restriction if they don't listen, just like you would if it were your biological child. Good Luck you sound like a good guy.
2006-11-12 10:11:02 · answer #6 · answered by This is just my opinion! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lead by example don't listen when they want material things..........do not try to be their friend you can end up in jail.don't ask long story and the kids were my own..anyway i don't know how you were raised or how old these children are when they came to you but be respected in your own home!nurture with love and disapline. be the father you would have wanted. i hope you have memories of a good father. oh and don't forget...everything to GOD in prayer..best of luck you hold the future in your hands.also remember to smell the roses in life
2006-11-11 15:54:51 · answer #7 · answered by tink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love them like they were your true kids, but don't get on their case so much, and try to reason with them on punishments, chores, and allowances. Try talking to them when they can't go to their mother, and don't just be a dad, be a friend.
2006-11-11 15:56:31 · answer #8 · answered by Darth_Spaz353202 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for them and talk kindly to them. My kids have a step-dad (my new husband of 5 years) and they adore him and he adores them.
2006-11-11 15:46:49 · answer #9 · answered by Darcee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to be a good step-dad, just be a good dad.
2006-11-11 16:36:12 · answer #10 · answered by free thinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋