My bf and i have been broken up for 3 months. I wasn't looking or trying to get involved with anyone. We are still friends ( i guess) we're civil. Thing is I met a guy a week ago that I really see as someone that could have potential. We hit it off bigtime.Im not ready for anything so we decided to keep it friendly. My ex and I could never be, we have nothing in common but eachother, but it didnt end badly.. My question is..Why am I starting to feel guilty for liking someone else, and are those feelings normal and healthy?
2006-11-11 15:32:29 · 12 answers · asked by Lisa D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I believe that it is a God given yearning to love and to be loved. Nothing is as beautiful as meeting the one mate that is meant for you. God wants us all to be happy in love with the right mate. I also believe that is what you are looking for. You desire to be happy in love with the right mate. God asks us to first seek after Him. Let Him guild you to the right mate that He has for you. When you are with the right mate God's Love and happiness will always follow.
2006-11-11 17:04:03 · answer #1 · answered by Roddi F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u feel guilty because deep inside u reely still do have feelings for ur ex and that is totally normal.there will be a point in time when u will eventually get over him and then u will feel comfortable having another relationship.for the meantime you should take things with this new guy slow.u met him only a week ago . is a week reallly a long enough period of time for u to really get to no someone enough to no if u like them or not.think about this and decide if u really are emotionally ready to have another relationship.this is your decision and it is totally up to you whether it feels right to have another relationship with a guy u met one week ago.
2006-11-11 23:39:10 · answer #2 · answered by Waiting for Prince Charming!!!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you don't want to hurt your ex. Be realistic. Would he be thinking the same thing? Regardless of how you answer this question, you can't live your life wondering if your ex would be upset that you started seeing someone else. I think it is normal to feel this way since things didn't end badly but you are not together anymore and you don't owe him anything. You are friends, not anything more. You don't have to ask his permission to see this new guy. Go for it!
2006-11-11 23:36:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can sympathize with you! i broke up with someone a while back and it hurt me quite a bit to get dumped, we are kinda friends now well working on it anyway. I too have kinda met someone new and have been talking to them and getting to know them,& i'am torn about if i should start maybe dating the new guy when i'm not quite over the old guy. but if you really like the new guy and the old guy and you cant go back to bf/gf again then try to move on its for the best.
2006-11-12 01:16:44 · answer #4 · answered by Almost Happy Housewife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you guys have only been apart for 3 months..so there will still be a little intimacy there..those feelings are normal and healthy, but you need to move on from your ex..and take it slow with this new one..spend a lot of time with this one and get to know him better..after you decide that he may be the one, progress to the next level..but you do need to start moving on..
2006-11-11 23:38:37 · answer #5 · answered by Nikkib 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its perfectly normal to have those feelings i mean you just got over a relationship and the feeling of a past relationship may still be in you somewhere which means your not completely through with your ex you have to let go to trully experience the glory of another relationship....
2006-11-11 23:38:15 · answer #6 · answered by Lauretha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal yes healthy no. I have yet to understand why people stick around each other after they break up. I'm not saying not to be civil, I'm saying if someone causes you discomfort they have to go. It is self preservation, isn't it?
2006-11-11 23:38:38 · answer #7 · answered by Roger S M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are single. The right time is when you want to see someone else.
You no longer owe your ex any obligation, you don't need to take care of him. Worry about yourself and not him, he wont move on and neither will you if you keep putting him ahead of yourself.
2006-11-11 23:39:50 · answer #8 · answered by FSJD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It's normal, but you'll get over it as soon as you are happy and stop thinking about the ex.
2006-11-11 23:35:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that feeling is very normal
just hard to let go of the past--because we have that comfortable feeling with it
do yourself a huge favor---MOVE ON!
don't become a slave to the past relationships you have had!
2006-11-11 23:36:13 · answer #10 · answered by f4fanactic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋