Okay,there are these 2 boys:Ted & Justin right.And ive known justin since last year and he asked me out on many diffferent occasions but i allways said no until this year.now we are in a very serious relationship and he says he loves me and wants to be with me forever and i agreed.but before i had feelings for Justin i liked Ted.it was nothing major then but now people are starting to say that me and him would be great together.And at that point i started to really think about my feelings for him and realized im really not over him.im still going out with Justin but cant get over the fact that i still like Ted.It really bothers me bcause i allways wonder what could have been and what if? and things like that and i dont know what to do about it.Iwish there was a way to tell Justin that i still have feelings for Ted without breaking his heart.i want to just go out with Ted and find out if hes really the one for me and then if hes not go back 2 Justin but i no thtwont work so wht do i do?
2006-11-11 15:20:20 · 12 answers · asked by Showcaster 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok 4 #1 im not shallow and how dare u say that #2Ted called me and asked me out and #3 I never said yes or no bcause i was goin out with Justin and im not the kind of person to pull crap like that.
2006-11-11 15:31:40 · update #1
Well, you should be able to tell whether you have feelings for ted just by being his friend.. if you really like Justin that's a way to do it without hurting either one of them. BUT, life is too short to be with someone while wanting to be with someone else.. and no offense, but you sound young and if that's the case, you shouldn't be serious about just one guy.. play the field...most importantly.. find out who you are and what you want before you make any major decisions...do you even know if ted likes you? just have fun, enjoy life while you can, and don't hurt anyone unless its unavoidable- hope this helped
2006-11-11 15:28:28 · answer #1 · answered by Shonda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go through life thinking what if about every guy you know, you will never be happy. You have something with Justin. Let Ted go. If you're happy and you want to stay that way and not hurt anyone including yourself, don't leave Justin just because you wonder if Ted is right.
2006-11-11 15:27:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really sounds like you need some space to find out what it is you want. Because if you still have those kind of feelings for this guy chances are sooner or later your gonna break his heart anyway by cheating with this guy you can't get over. So tell him that you need some time away from the relationship because you don't know what you want and you don't want to hurt him. But you need to make sure that's what you want to do because he may not be there if the other guy doesn't work out. Good Luck!
2006-11-11 15:28:48 · answer #3 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If Justin really cares for you (and is in fact the one for you) then he will want this to happen, because you will never be able to fully give your time/ love to him if you think you still have feelings for Ted. You always have to bring closure to relationships before moving on, even if they weren't "serious" or "long-lasting."
**Good Luck**
2006-11-11 15:26:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you haven't really said that Ted likes you or has asked you out?? You only had that feeling because everybody said you will be great together? I think that is pretty shallow, especially now that you have good thing going on?
2006-11-11 15:23:49 · answer #5 · answered by Beachy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you risk losing Justin if you go to Ted. you cannot have your cake and eat it too.choose and stick with your choice.
If Justin had liked Mary and was with you now. and went to be with Mary just to see what happens. how would you feel?
if you did that top me I would not trust you again. Trust is everything in a relationship.
2006-11-11 15:26:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! well you can just toss them around like toys.ummm.idk!does ted like you?how long have you been going out?well u don't wanna break justin's heart.i'm sorry idk.that's a really tough situation.i hope evrything works out ok.just don't cheat.and be careful if you do go out with ted just to see what if, you could be throwing something very good away.
2006-11-11 15:26:18 · answer #7 · answered by ~Bubblii~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a hard one! it really depends how old you are, if you are in high school then ya you can go out with the other guy but be extra nice about it because boys have feelings too, but if you are older then it probably isn't such a good idea if you really love this Justin guy, you have to ask yourself if you really love him.
2006-11-11 15:25:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should talk about ur feelings about ted to justin so he won't think u u don't love him. it's important 2 talk about your feelings 2 one another so there won't b any confusion or drama.
2006-11-11 15:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by BratzGurl18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the justin all that thing if he really loves you ,your problem and your feeling he can understand. the break in realionship is so pain full ,believe me
2006-11-11 15:26:19 · answer #10 · answered by sweettheif_420 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋