she hates me and i am scared to try and contact her. Is there anything i can do to remind her how happy we once were without trying to contact her? I mean, how can i get her to contact me without me looking like an *** in the first place? i am very sad about everthing so please dont be mean to me...
2006-11-11 15:10:27 · 11 answers · asked by Sad Man 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its been over a year
2006-11-11 15:16:28 · update #1
There's no way you can contact her without talking to her.
Unless she absolutely said "Do Not Contact Me" there is a chance for communication, if not reconcilliation.
Without knowing what it was that caused the break-up it's going to be hard to point out a direction, but before you do anything, listen to or look up the lyrics for the Don Henley song "Forgiveness."
Then write her a letter. Write several versions of the same letter. Put everything you are feeling into those letters, then from all of those drafts, pick the most honest statements-the ones that really reflect what's in your heart- from what you've written, and write a final draft of the letter. Give the letter to a mutual, nuetral friend for delivery to her.
Then relax. Take some breaths, pray to the loving power greater than yourself, however you define that being, and then accept what ever happens next regardless of what it is. This will actually be the hardest part because, it may be her coming back to you or it may not be. Either way, she knows she meant something to you. Believe, with everything you've got that whatever happens is for the best for you. Even if she comes back, learn what ever life experiences this can offer, and go forward with more love in your heart.
I had something like this happen to me. The hardest thing for me was accepting that he was happier without me in his life, but I've done it. I had help in the endeavor, but I've done it, and my life is actually better for knowing him than it would have been without knowing him, even with all the pain I went through in loosing him.
I hope the same is true for you, but I also hope that you reunite with your girl. Know I am praying for your happiness.
Blessed Be
2006-11-11 15:30:48 · answer #1 · answered by Cady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that it would be better to contact her in writing instead of by phone or (worse yet) in person.
I would really like to know why she hates you in the first place. If you cheated on her or hit her, for instance, she probably feels justified and isn't going to want you back.
Otherwise, I would suggest being very honest about your feelings. Sometimes guys make the mistake of holding back about their emotions because they think they are being manly, but we love it when you bare your souls to us!
So, write to her telling her how sad you feel, how much you miss her, how sorry you are (?), how you still think of her all the time and wish you were back together. Let her know you would like a chance to at least meet with her to talk. Ask her to e-mail a response to you if she would be willing to do so.
Good luck!
2006-11-11 15:26:30 · answer #2 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what you did to make her hate you but contact by phone or in person wouldn't be good right now. You might want to create a nice card to tell her exactly how you feel or shop around to find the right card that says exactly what you want. And maybe you can tell her that you really would like the chance to talk to her if it's okay with her.
2006-11-11 15:16:52 · answer #3 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i think this would be very romantic but send her a bouket of her favorite flowers like white or pink roses or the classic red. with it have a card wiht like a little poem in it. hten finally have a letter telling her that u want to talk to her and that u want to make things better between u all.
2006-11-11 15:16:18 · answer #4 · answered by DiP13sK01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look babe, u'll already be a a-s if u dont be a man and try again. i got faith in u. u can do it! do something crazy like sing her favorite song or something
R
oh ouch, its been a year? to bad u didnt try sooner. id say try one more time then if it doesnt work, move on. BE A MAN!
2006-11-11 15:18:13 · answer #5 · answered by r. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would send her red roses that means love, and write her a card telling her how you feel....just dont stalk her ....and you might want to give her a Little time.
2006-11-11 15:15:13 · answer #6 · answered by julia l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as hard as it is (well maybe it wont be at all?), i think you should forget her and move on. i agree with u when u say she was happy having u under her control. and when she realized u werent anymore cuz u ignored her, she wanted to have the control again. i say find someone worth your time instead of trying to get with someone that only wants to use u. good luck. hope i helped! --chloe.
2016-05-22 06:23:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting her back is a huge thing to do... she hates you... that means you parted ways on a very bad side. i guess you have to court her again and start from scratch. and this means taking what she has to say... and let her see how persistent you are on pursuing her again. goodluck!
2006-11-11 15:39:49 · answer #8 · answered by wingless angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it. Just tell her how you feel about her, and that you were stupid for acting the way you did. (I know you arent stupid, but this will win her over!) Well, good luck!
2006-11-11 15:15:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over her and move on with your life. If she hates you deal with it she has her reasons!
2006-11-11 15:13:36 · answer #10 · answered by Allie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋