I am dating my coworker, I really like him alot. He said he really likes me too. He just keeps asking me will I be good to him. Then he started telling me about how women he have dated in the past has treated him and how it caused him to have low self-esteem. He told me he will try but he doesn't want it to be serious right now because he needs to get his s**t together. I just want to know if he is tryin to push me away.
2006-11-11 15:04:12 · 19 answers · asked by likecandy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Noooo! He is just trying to protect himself. He has been hurt in the past and though he likes you, he doesn't want to lose perspective, to lose himself. Keep things light and respect his wanting not get serious right away. Doing that will show him that you are the kind of girl who he can get serious with.
2006-11-11 15:10:30 · answer #1 · answered by BLANK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he is playing hard to get. He is straight up ignoring you and then telling you he is not interested. I think it is a good thing you did not have sex with him, he is obviously not that great of a guy because he couldn't even bother to text you back any of those times. You sound like a nice girl who has values, so find someone else who shares them and really cares for you. You can have sexual chemistry, but sex is only part of a relationship. You need someone who does care for you, and you deserve that. I think you should move on. If you continue to pursue this guy it does look desperate. Good luck
2016-05-22 06:23:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of relationship do you want? If you want a serious relationship with someone then there is a good chance that you will never have it with this person. You can wait around an eternity while he gets his stuff together. He may never do that. If you want someone who you can give a commitment to who will make one to you also, then there is a good chance that it will have to be someone other then this guy.
2006-11-11 15:12:28 · answer #3 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he is not pushing you away. It is playing it safe because he has been hurt in the past. If you are serious, you would follow his wishes and take it slow. If you start rushing him, you might be pushing him in the opposite direction. Just give him what he wants for now, go slow.
2006-11-11 15:08:07 · answer #4 · answered by Girls M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is being a pussy. Usually I'd say that if a guy says he doesn't want anything serious, than he is just looking to mess around. But here, where the guy is unloading his emotional baggage on you, clearly he expects you to sympathize with him and want to take care of and protect him.
Knowing that, you should decide whether you want that.
2006-11-11 15:10:17 · answer #5 · answered by FSJD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, okay this is a signal. And a pretty loud one. Get away from this guy. Nothing should be this hard. If it's this hard now, can you imagine trying to get him to commit?? Sheesh! Girl you know you deserve a man that is good to you and wants to be a partner.
Move on.
2006-11-11 15:09:41 · answer #6 · answered by lotzamoney4jocey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If youre interested then go out with him but keep it cool like he wants. Dont over call or spend alot of time with him. If you go out then at the end of the date say, " well, see ya next round".
2006-11-11 15:10:27 · answer #7 · answered by Crissy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give him some time and have some good conversations with him. let him know the type of women you are. Im sure he'll come around . He's probably scared of getting hurt again. I know I was for a while.
2006-11-11 15:08:40 · answer #8 · answered by luckygirl177 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he's being honest and telling you he doesn't want it to be serious right now. Don't expect anything serious. If you want something serious, find someone else. Don't get attached or emotional or involved with him because he told you he doesn't want that.
2006-11-11 15:06:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no he not trying to push you a way he is testing you to see if you really do love him.so just back off a little bit and make him do some of the work know if he want you he well come after you.good luck
2006-11-11 15:09:22 · answer #10 · answered by little_bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋