Keep quite or tell?

Question

My Brother and his girlfriend are having Sex in my backyard late at night me and my mother know but we dont know if we should tell her mother or keep quite about it for now


My mother wants to be fare about it she was young once but she feels bad from keeping it a secret from her friend (the girlfriends mother) she stop them for now but we know it wont last
Keep quite or tell?

there both 15 years old

Answer 1

i say tell. if they were 18 or older, then that would be different. but 15? yea, the mother needs to know.

Answer 2

OMG... 15? I know I should not be shocked, but some how I am. When ever I here of youngin's having intercourse I cringe. Which is extremely pathetic of me in a way, because at just the tender age of 13 I myself did it. The difference between now and then, is I'm a mother now, of 3 girls. When we are younger we think we know what we are doing, because we're all so eager to grow up. But then we do grow up and realize just how wrong we were. Coming from me, a parent of 3 GIRLS, I would so want to know. For a couple of reasons. One, your mom is her friend, right? Thats what friends do, they look out for each other. It was a good thing for your mom to put a stop to it, even if it is a temporary thing. Now that the act has been done, it cant be undone, and the girls mom should be allowed the knowledge, so she can make sure her daughter is not pregnant. Mention to your mom that when she talks to her friend, maybe she should try to mention, birth control. Secondly, where there is a will there's a way. Even if they are told not to do it again, the odds are already set in motion, and in my opinion, I know I would like to have the chance to help protect my child from diseases and pregnancy. She is young. I pray that the people who consider me a friend, would come to me and let me know if something was amiss with my girls. Not telling would break my friendship up. I trust in my friends to do right by me as I would them. I hope I have shed some light on this. I wish your mom the best of luck, cause this can be a sticky situation. I hope her friend, is truely her friend, and is open to your moms help. Good luck.

Answer 3

I don't want to sound rude but i think it's a bad idea for this to go on in your home anyway especially since their only 15yrs. old. And at this point i hope she doesn't come up pregnant because your mother will get the blame for it especially if she tells this. And yes i feel like the mother should know that she's having sex so she can get her some type of birth control. And i truly hope that your mother doesn't lose her as a friend. Good Luck!

Answer 4

It is your mothers responsibility to talk to her son/your brother about safe protected sex. Don't assume it's up to the girlfriends mother to put a stop to this. She might be having a different conversation 9 months from now.

Answer 5

yeah tell your mother that if that girl gets pregnant by your brother,your mother will be responsible for paying child support since your brother is only 15. That should help her decide whether she should let the girl's mother know or not.

Answer 6

First tell the girl you know about their indiscretion and tell her she should be the one to tell her mother. If she refuses them tell her that your mother will be discussing it with her mother. To be fair give her a chance to explain to her own mom before your mother steps in. It isn't a legal issue as they are both under age but teens do make unwise choices.

Answer 7

The girl's mum should be told and there should be a family meeting on this......both families! There's risk of unwanted pregnancy and other things.....it needs to be brought out into the open and discussed in an adult manner.

Answer 8

First they are too young to be having sex.
Second tell the truth because thats not right.
Third dont do it outside do it in private room like the bedroom.

Answer 9

I don't think she should tell it's not her place. But since she knows she needs to educate the both of them on safe sex and provide them with condoms and other birth control info. She also needs to not make it okay for 2 minors to have sex in her presence

Answer 10

It has to be made clear to the son that it must stop. Your mother's failure to take action, knowing about someone having sex with an underaged girl, is approaching criminal accessory to statutory rape.

If I were her defense attorney, I'd make it clear she has to ensure that they stop - meaning they must stop doing it where they can be caught.