i think that my mom and step dad have a fav child his my little bro and they always spoil him and they act like im not there half the time they also spoil my older bro just not as much they give them every thing but when it comes to me its always a no i hate it and sometimes i feel like i hate them ughhhh wats up with that?
2006-11-11 14:49:43 · 18 answers · asked by JessicaMay. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
no they dont have faves the truth is boys demand more than girls your the middle child and your feelings are hurt because your not the baby and you arent the first born just remember your special ,your the only girl they cant top that WAY TO GO GIRL!!!!!!
2006-11-11 14:54:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all parents show this favouritism sadly, some show it. In your case I think the apathy is because you are a girl and the others boys!! Even though discrimination is not advisable, some do that. Its because of the feeling that the girl is to be married away and may not be theirs forever but the boys will be their solace in the old age!! These are all misconceptions but they realise it only very late. Some orthodox parents think that if you express love to a girl, they may get spoilt but boys will learn a lot from that. In the heart of heart, the feeling that girls are not for them to keep till death makes these unintentional discrimination.The matter is a little worse here as the dominant member in your family is the step-dad and not your own dad.
All this does not mean that you should hate your parents. Think that they are not matured to think otherwise and tolerate them. In their heart, they love you but fails to express that. I think its a good lesson to you when you become a mother to avoid discrimination. Live with it and don't despise them.
2006-11-11 23:45:27 · answer #2 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most parents don't really have favorites, they just love each of their children for their different qualities. However, I do think there is something to being the middle child and it is easy to be overlooked. Are you able to talk to your parents about you feelings? I think if they are reasonable people, and if what you say is true, then they might be open to looking at the situation. Most parents do not want their children to feel the way you do. More importantly, it is important for you to realize that your parents are just human with plenty of faults just like yourself. Don't let this situation cause you to 'act out' for attention. There are plenty of middle children who fall into this trap and it only gets them in serious trouble. There are also plenty of middle children who rise above the situation and learn to get affirmation from deep within themselves about how terrific they are! If you can do this, it is part of the secret of learning to like yourself and it won't be long before your parents start to take notice and even lifting you up as a role model for BOTH of your brothers.
2006-11-11 15:36:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think parents do treat their kids differently - but I can pretty much guarantee that they do love you just as much. I know that when it comes to boys parents can tend to be more lenient (or the other way around sometimes too). If you are really feeling this is a horrible problem, I would bring it up to your mom in a very civil way, not accusing her of anything, but giving her examples of why you feel the way you do. Choose a time to talk to her when she's not stressed out and you are calm about it. If you present the problem to her in an adult manner (even though you are a kid) she can realize that her behavior is really affecting your happiness. Good luck to you.
2006-11-11 14:58:10 · answer #4 · answered by rrmorris45 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are the middle child. This happens very often, the older one gets attention because was the first one and is the one that is facing life's challenges sooner than the younger ones so requires more attention. The youngest one is cute and all that stuff. You are unfortunately the middle child who always has to fight for attention. How do you solve this. The is a saying that says if you want to have friends you have to show yourself friendly... if you want to be shown love, show some.
2006-11-11 15:42:20 · answer #5 · answered by Tiny Jr. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes sometimes, parents make big mistakes sometimes. You have to remember it has nothing to do with you being lovable. It's worse if they can't admit their wrong. Can you tell them how you feel? Speaking from experience, we're not always aware of the devastating effects this causes. And if not told, then the harm can't be fixed. This is whay I suggest you keep talking to them. They are not always concious of this. We can be clueless, and deeply regret it much later, because we we're blind. We often have our own reasons for why we act, and overlook important issues regarding a child's feelings. Parents make mistakes like everyone else. It's NOT your fault.
2006-11-11 15:02:05 · answer #6 · answered by noface 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've got a son and daughter and, honestly, can't say I have a favorite. However, I do "worry" about my son more than I do my daughter. She just seems more independent and since we talk all the time, I understand and know what's going on in her life more than I do with my son. And that's why I worry about him more and probably spoil him more too. In any case, I'm sorry you're feeling so hateful to your mom/stepfather. It might be that they just depend on you to be "ok" more too. You should talk to them... or write them a note and let them know you're feeling left behind. Sometimes we parents need a good slap upside the head :-)
2006-11-11 15:00:02 · answer #7 · answered by mJc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Q: are you a little brat?
Q Do you cause your parents grief
Q Do you get on with your brothers
If you are showing your parents the negitive side to you you are not going to win anyone over.
If you are a brat you somehow have to show the good side and the warmth will come back
Its hard not to show anger and i feel for you, only good can come from good.
If you asked your parents what was the deal it would probably get their attention....because maybe they dont event know there doing it...NEVER EVER be afraid to go to your parents
2006-11-11 15:12:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of time parents pay a little more attention to the child who maybe not as strong as the other children....or needs a bit more guidance.
Think about this old saying....the squeaky wheel gets the oil.
2006-11-11 14:54:22 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes parents do have favorites, and sometimes the other kids just think they have favorites, and sometimes the parents have favorites and just don't recognize that they do. My Mother always favored my younger brother, but to this day will deny it. She herself told me that, my father always favored me. I know some parents who don't seem to favor one child over another, and then in some cases I've seen, the favoritism is very obvious.
But even if your parents aren't favoring your brother, you still feel this way, and you should talk to them about your feelings. When you do, don't approach them, accusingly, approach them calm and they will be more apt to listen to you.
2006-11-11 14:58:30 · answer #10 · answered by Gaia Weeps 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just know that they really DO love you. Their love for you may feel different from the love for your little brother, but trust me they love you with all of your heart.
Honestly, you should talk to your parents one-on-one and tell them how you feel. Maybe they don't realize what they are doing. I'm a mother of two and I would want my children to talk to me if they felt this way.
2006-11-11 14:56:52 · answer #11 · answered by toobusy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋