My mother is 76 and my father is 80. I think I could cope with my father's death but there is no way I could live without my mother. I think I would just have to kill myself is she died. I'm quite young (30) even though my parents are elderly. I think about it every day, I can't bear it. How can i possibly prepare myself for the inevitable? Any words of advice would be a comfort to me. Thank you!
2006-11-11 14:46:20 · 11 answers · asked by martina_ie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't think you can really be prepared. I agree with someone who said enjoy them now. I knew we were going to loose my Dad. I was very close to him. After many, many months it dawned on me, that he was gone physically, but what he taught me and gave me (the love, the nuturing) no one could ever take that away. I hold onto that. And he is still with me in my heart and mind every day, and this is how I fianally came to terms with it. He's not gone to me at all. I may not be able to talk to him, but he's with me in my thoughts always. That can't be taken from me. I'm a part of him in many ways. I think this is the nature of life. Keep what they gave you in spirit. You're stronger than you think you are. Just enjoy them now.
2006-11-11 15:14:00 · answer #1 · answered by noface 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really enjoy your parents now. Make sure you take a lot of pictures, ask them questions about things you've always wanted to know that they never talked about, write down their stories. I would also realize that yes, they will pass on, but you need to build your life up with friends and loved ones that will help you bear the loss when the time comes.
2006-11-11 15:09:16 · answer #2 · answered by rrmorris45 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Losing parents can be the worst. I've lost both of mine in the last two years. You can't dwell on them dying though. Give them all your love and help they need. Do whatever you can for them, and make sure you spend quality time with them. If they go, it's their time, and there is nothing in the world to stop that happening. Enjoy them while they are here. It is very tough when they go, but as time goes on, you will find they are always with you in your heart and your mind!!!
2006-11-11 15:00:20 · answer #3 · answered by bonbon 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something Specially
For You
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And know God must have heard-
I felt the answer in my heart
Although He spoke no word!
I didn't ask for wealth or fame
(I knew you wouldn't mind)-
I asked Him to send you treasures
Of a far more lasting kind!
I asked that He'd be near you
At the start of each new day
To grant you health and blessings
And my friendship to share your way
I asked for happiness for you
In all things great and small-
But it was for His loving care
I prayed the most of all.
By: Kenny P. aka-Cobra
2006-11-11 14:48:32 · answer #4 · answered by Cobra 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking about them dying and enjoy having them around now.
When the time comes have your family and friends around you....you will never get over it but in time you learn to live with it.
I lost my Dad many years ago and I still miss him and think of him often.....I kept on living because he would have been so pissed if I had done anything else. LOL
2006-11-11 14:49:59 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 04:18:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think about that stuff sometimes too. My dad is already gone, but my mom is still here and a big part of my life. Try to enjoy them now and forget about whats going to happen. It's all a part of life.
2006-11-11 14:51:52 · answer #7 · answered by toobusy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
life is a cycle and we all must complete the cycle...even now, our basic cell structure is breaking down...the older we get, the more we get worn down by health ailments..many of these ..bring pain and suffering...many elderly people suffer in silence even with medication...rather than have them hooked to machines that will ultimately just keep their vital organs running as the person we know...fades away...we as loved ones must learn to let go and leave it in the hands of God...pray that he will shepard them into his kingdom where they will suffer no more...they will live on in your mind, heart, and soul...one of the biggest responsibilities involving love is knowing when to let go...
2006-11-11 15:12:24 · answer #8 · answered by D.E.O.N. Sphinxxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when my dad's mother died it was the first time i saw him cry. Its hard to control ourself when ur loved ones pass away. but you got to tell yourself that this is life and someday u'll be in their place as well.. you cant stop someone from leaving this world but you can pray for them and do things in this world that will keep their presence in ur heart alive.its the circle of life
2006-11-11 14:53:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is very hard to accept...but you need to try to prepare yourself ahead of time...i lost my mother 2 yrs ago i was only 25 it was the hardest thing i had ever had to face i thought i would die...a part of me did....just try to keep in mind there are people who willbe there to comfort you
2006-11-11 14:50:39 · answer #10 · answered by yahooligan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋