just plain rude in the way he talks to me...ie:
Me"Im going on the computer for a bit"
Him"Great" in rude tone of voice
That is just an example btw...he is way more rude to me than that...
Anyways...will my son pick up on his behaviour and act like his dad does towards me when he is older???
2006-11-11 14:30:17 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Sorry..it's too hard to tell from just that example. No one knows what was happening before hand. Maybe he wanted to use it?..maybe he wanted you to watch tv with him or something?..Is he always aburt and rude to you?..You need to ask him if something is bothering him, and mention he seems unhappy and angry. If that is the case.
2006-11-11 14:35:54 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long have you been married?
how long did you know eachother before you got married?
is this type of "play" something that only started after the wedding?
i've seen couples that have been together for 40 yrs engage in this kind of back & forth, and it doesn't even bother whomever the recipient is.
if he is abusive, yes! take your son and run because he will pick it up and think its ok to be abusive. but if it's just annoying liitle crap like you describe, try to not be so reactive and eventually, hubby will see that he can no longer get a rise out of you and he will stop.
you probably need to get used to his smart asss ways~'til death do us part is a long, long time.
more than likely if he knows dad is just being a smart asss AND he sees that it doesn't get to mom he won't necessarily repeat it.
you had to have some kind of an indication that he was like this before you married him. when we get married we can either train them or they will train us. it's survival of the fittest. don't let this little stuff get to you.
2006-11-11 23:15:25 · answer #2 · answered by breezy b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you teach him. If you remain silent and allow him to pick up on it, he will. Unless you teach him not to, he will mimic the behavior he's around the most. If you tell him, "The way your dad treats me is not the way you should treat people", he will likely listen. Even though that is a bit like the saying goes, "Do as I say, not as I do", I believe that's how it works. It's a lot like how people say a child learns bad behavior from movies and television. I don't think that's necessarily true if you teach your children what's right and wrong. If they really repeated everything they saw, no matter what you told them, then we'd have some huge problems!
2006-11-11 22:42:38 · answer #3 · answered by Shawna Q 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Children pick up on everything. They are sponges. They are also emotional barometers. They can pick up on feelings that we do not.
If I were you, I would speak to your hubby about the matter. There maybe some under lying issue he has with you and is just taking it out on you that way. Let him know it hurts your feelings and you would not like for your son to see this type of behavior.
It is important for children to have positive role models throughout their life as this teaches them how to behave to others. Especially boys...they need to learn how to treat women and others.
2006-11-11 22:37:41 · answer #4 · answered by ssstinagail 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes that is the case that is why you and your hubby both need to work on treating each other with respect so your son will see and act like a respectful boy when he grows older. my hubby and i have the same probs he can be an a** too but if I'm tired or flat pissy I lash out too so I think both sides need to work on whatever is the issue.
2006-11-11 22:34:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes your child will pick it up children learn what they see..if they do not have good examples of how adults should act then they will act the same way.
As for you hubby, has he always been this way, if so then why didn't you worry about it before this, if not then maybe something is wrong and you need to talk to him about it.
2006-11-11 22:55:35 · answer #6 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes just plain rude; sounds like a typical marrige. and yes your lil one will pick up on his behavior unfortunately thats how boys learn how to act with females, through their father, thats their model. Good luck with that :-/ thats one of the reasons im no longer married; got sick of being treated like i wasnt worth anything so I had to leave
2006-11-11 22:45:31 · answer #7 · answered by Esme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes your son will pick up the habit because he is around it all the time and he will think that it's alright to treat women that way.
2006-11-11 22:35:48 · answer #8 · answered by brittneyn127 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.
set ur grounds.
if ur husband is being rude to you.
confront him with it.
and tell him you don't like it at all. and that you deserve his respect. as wife & as a human being.
if ur son picks it up then once again you set ur grounds.
you have the power. more over ur son than ur husband.
maybe its one of ur husband's flaws you must accept?
i hope that helped..
2006-11-11 22:35:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son could very well pick up on that poor behavior. Best to show your son how much further he can get by being more well mannered. Best of luck. (BTW, you can tell your husband...please dont talk to me that way but please say it...(whatever you think how he should say it.))
2006-11-11 22:41:06 · answer #10 · answered by rokdude5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋