this is the guy who cuts himself. You dont understand i'm 13 my parents will just screem at me what do i do?

Answer 1

Self mutilation is a way for someone to deal with feelings they don't understand or can't communicate about. Self mutilation is more common in teenagers than people think. When you cut you let off natural endorphins giving your body a natural high therefore releasing stress. As a teenager you are going to go through lots of emotional roller coasters in the next few years. Talk to your parents or a family member you feel like you connect with. Let them know what you are doing and that you realize it is not a good thing and you are reaching out to get help. Once you tell your parents I recommend seeing a therapist. A therapist will give you tactics to deal with your emotions in a healthy manner rather than resorting to mutilation. I would do some research on the Internet about self mutilation and find some material. You should find causes, cures, and treatment. You will also find some ways to deal with emotions. The good thing!!! If treated early it can be taken care of before life long habits are started. Once it becomes a life long habit it goes down hill from there and a long time before you hit rock bottom. By then you will definitely need more than therapy you will need a psychiatrist, medication, and deal with the scars or mutilated body parts the rest of your life. It took you a lot of courage to admit to yourself you need help, now it is time to tell your parents and let them help you. Your parents probably will scream at you when you tell them, its because they care. Someone they love just told them something major is going on in their life. You are throwing them a curve ball. You may also show them some of the material you found on the internet this will help you tell them what is going on. Once the shock is over for them they will be there to support you a hundred percent.

Answer 2

You obviously have a reason for doing this even if you don't realize what it is. Talk to your parents and tell them you feel like you need to speak to a professional. They may be a bit more understanding if you talk to them first. If your still afraid of their reaction try getting a third party like a school counselor involved to help you and make sure you do get professional help. As to hide the cuts the only way to safely do that until they heal is to wear long sleeve shirts. Don't put make up on them cause it may start an infection and make them even more noticeable. Good luck.

Answer 3

No one would give, or be precise when giving answers here, but depending on how serious it is, it is a sign of Deliberate Self-Harm Syndrome. You are 13, and you would feel that none of us, or your parents would understand. And you would feel that only because you have never ''tried''. Have you ? You must talk to your parents, and get help. Self-injury usually indicates that you are not trying to find good ways of coping with overwhelming feelings or stress. And no, you are not sick or insane but you need to find positive ways to deal with feelings and emotions for various reasons. Cutting yourself is only putting you in greater risk for infections if the wounds are not treated properly (obviously you may not be treating it, as you have not told your parents or anyone yet) and then you may also want to know how ugly you would look if you had permanent scars / marks all over you.

Advises are all what you receive here, and taking a step or trying to find a solution is what you must do. First step would be to tell your parents on how you feel, and how you end up doing something that is harmful to you due to stress and due to their lack of understandingyou. You would see how hurt they get, and how much they care for you, if you just tried.

So, what do you do ? Cutting yourself shows you are not trying to be expressive, or cannot show how you feel to them and you express it in a negative way, by hurting yourself. No matter how much you feel you have to cut yourself, control it, talk to your parents, tell them you need help, and they must help you, or else this is how you feel, and then I am sure they would do just whats right for you.

good luck

Answer 4

Lemme guess, the physical pain is easier to handle than the emotional pain? I've been there :0(
I used to pierce my ears (you coulda used them as collanders during my teens) then i got more violent, i literally tore open my forearm with a metal coat hanger....yeah i know....lovely huh? :0(
Sweetpea, lemme tell ya....what you're doing is NOT the answer. You have to do some serious soul searching within yourself. Honestly look at who you are and what you want to be. Make a list of all your good points and all your bad points (i know this sounds stupid...but it does work....take it from someone who's been where you are...you're not alone) when you're done with your lists...concentrate on your good points everytime you feel like hurting yourself....if that doesn't help....find a bad point and focus on fixing or elliminating that, instead of slicing open your body.
Seeing your blood doesn't make you any more real than you already are. feeling the pain (if you even feel it) doesn't make the internal pain go away...it just hides it for a lil while.
You have to sit down and figure out what it is that is truly bugging you inside...keep a journal for every time you want to hurt yourself or cut yourself....list why you want to...what happened right before you got that urge and analyze the crap outta every aspect surrounding it.
Honestly you may need to talk to a professional but i know how hard that may be if not impossible....that is why im giving you things you can do on your own to make yourself better.
First and foremost though, is you really have to stop cutting yourself. and try giving your parents a lil more credit....they may seem like strangers that don't care and don't understand but keep in mind, they too were 13, they too felt confused, angry, embarrassed, awkward, hormonal and all the other feelings you're being overwhelmed by. Parents weren't created outta the blue, they had to go thru life from an infant, to a child, to a teen, to an adolescent, to a young adult, etc... they are not totally out of touch with reality. They too have had their share of crazy sh** in their growing up. Give them a try...and try to forgive them if they overreact initially....this may be a shock to them at first, and freak a lil....but they will want to help as soon as they calm down :0)
Just be honest with them if you want them to be honest with you. Give them respect and they will respect you back.
Gotta give what you want back....ya understand what I'm trying to say here???
Please don't cause yourself any more pain than what you're going thru already.
lemme know how things go k :0)
with much concern,
marjenl72

Answer 5

First off please try anything to stop yourself from the urge to cut, if you feel your going to try hitting a pillow or taking a walk anything to get your mind away from cutting. If your afraid to talk to your parents about your problems maybe you need to seek out a trusted adult even a friends family or school counsler, Cutting could end end causing you so much harm, hepatitis, cutting to deep and hitting a vein and death! please try what you can to get help, you are at a very hard age I know as my teen went through the same things and we worked together and with the help of a counsler and things got back on track now 4 years later my teen dosent cut at all and is a heatlthy 18 year old trust me it will happen for you too, just find someone you trust to tell, and work one day at a time, dont forget to try anything different when the urge to cut comes again! Hope you find what you are looking for

Answer 6

Darren, if your parents will just yell at you then maybe they're not the right people to tell. If your parents are willing to, ask them if they can set you up with a counselor or someone that can help you. If you trust your parents enough to tell them and ask them for help, then that would be good, but make sure that just in case they do start screaming that you have somewhere to go like a friends house or somewhere safe. Telling your parents would be the best thing to do unless they're a violent type. As long as you think it's safe to tell them, then you might want to do it. I used to not want to share things with my parents because I didn't want to get yelled at and I didn't know exactly how they would take it. After my dad moved out, I share things with my mom now because she understands me and what I'm going through. I also tell her my problems because I now know how she will take them. I don't always know what her response will be, but my assumption is almost always close. Sharing things with your parents is almost always a smart idea because you live with them and if something serious were to happen, they would be there to help you. Most parents would try to help there kid through a problem like yours. I used to cut also, so I know how you feel, I also didn't want to tell my parents because I wasn't sure how they would take it. Instead I told friends that I trusted and they helped me through it. So if you look around you, there can be a lot of choices, you just have to look hard enough. If you have friends that you trust that will help you through your problems, try to tell them. If not, ask the school if they will schedule you for counseling or sign you up for it. Most school counselors have to keep students sessions confidential, so you should feel safe talking to them and telling them about your problems. I hope I helped you and I hope you solve your problems.

-Heather

Answer 7

It's really hard to hide them I'm 16 doing the same, if your parents are like mine...they'll actually check your wrists!!!! just make up excuses like you were carrying something heavy and you dropped it and you cut your hand....but stop doing that, you're only 13 you don't need to kill yourself, the last thing we need is more younger kids commiting suicide.

Answer 8

Hi,

I understand where you are coming from and how you feel and why you do what you do. (I apologize for those that answer you here that are less than sensitive to your situation.)

Mildly put, you need to find someone to help you. Seriously. I am in college, and I had a "crisis" of sorts lst semester and eneded up in the Counseling Center at school - they helped quite a bit.

Is there someone (adult) you can talk to in your school guidance office?

If not, PLEASE try contacting a Teen Crisis line - you don't have to be on the verge of suicide to make a call to these places.

Read over these websites:

http://health.discovery.com/centers/teen/cutters/cutters.html
http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/mental_health/cutting.html
http://www.boston.com/yourlife/articles/2006/04/11/reach_out_now_for_help_to_stop_cutting/

Answer 9

If you cut yourself you're obviously doing so for a reason. Are you depressed? Are you having family trouble? You need to speak with an adult you trust or a counselor. Get help right away.

Answer 10

Oh sweetheart let them scream! Trust me, they will scream less now than they will when they find your dead body..parents are alot more resiliant than you give them credit for, or if they are nut jobs, just know that it's genetic and you may grow out of it.